Ling Chiang, 26, cried all day at home because her boyfriend filed for divorce one and a half months before the wedding.

Ling Chiang couldn't stand the blow, so he cried at home and took three days off.

She has been in love for more than two years. During this time, I never asked him for a penny. When I go out to eat, I pay most of the bills. Every holiday, I buy him a gift. Even the wedding room is half of our family. Why didn't he marry me?

Asked about the reasons for the divorce, Ling Chiang said, "He thinks I look down on him."

It turns out that Ling Chiang's boyfriend is from the northern countryside. In a small mountain village, Jiangling's classmates get married, either in a hotel in a big city or abroad, which is convenient for classmates to get together and looks remarkable.

And the boyfriend's hometown, the road is far from easy, whether it is high-speed rail, train or even car, it is not direct, thus isolating the possibility of friends attending the wedding.

So Ling Chiang and her boyfriend discussed that the wedding should not be held in their hometown. Anyway, there are not many people watching the ceremony in her hometown. It's better to do it here at her house, which is convenient and easy. When the time comes, all her relatives in her hometown will come.

Boyfriend obviously disagrees, saying it is humiliating, especially in rural areas, and others will look down on their home because of this.

Ling Chiang didn't understand: "So my classmate came all the way to your house for a wedding, and I have face?" Some of them got married abroad. Is it appropriate for me to go to the ravine? Anyway, I just don't want to go to the country for a wedding. "

It is precisely because of this sentence that my boyfriend decided to break off the marriage relationship and threatened: "I marry you and I respect you." Don't take yourself seriously. This marriage can't be married, just let it be. "

I want a good wedding. Is it wrong? Is it my fault that his family is in poor condition?

Jiangling is very wronged. She believes that marriage is once in a woman's life, and she wants to go to a better place. Even if this idea can be realized, the man can pay for his desire without paying too much. What is inappropriate?

Besides, is she really wrong?

Compared with the wedding scene she chose, a discerning person knows that it is definitely better than her boyfriend's hometown. Why do you have to go back to your hometown to have an ugly wedding and give up your best choice?

This incident is actually a collision between typical traditional customs and modern thinking.

The man's family is proud, and marrying a daughter-in-law is a big deal. There is nothing wrong with the idea of spending a lively time in the village.

However, Jiangling is not wrong. As an only child, she was born and raised in a big city, and the weddings of her classmates around her were unified. Why did she condescend to her boyfriend and lose face?

Isn't there such a thing as face only in the man's house, but not in the woman's?

In particular, Jiangling also complained: "His family's conditions are poor, but the poor conditions are not my problem, and it is not my fault that his family's conditions are poor. In particular, I will subsidize and buy things for his family from time to time. Isn't it advocating gender equality? When spending money, men and women are equal, and when getting married, the man should prevail. What is a double standard? "

Obviously, this is a contradiction that cannot be objectively commented. Even if women pay the same or even a little more economically, in the traditional gender concept, women are still inferior.

This can't be judged by reason, there is no right or wrong. It can only be said that the views of both sides are not at the same level.

Just like that traditional story, rural women imagine what the queen in the palace will do. One said that the queen baked a cake bigger than an acre of land, and the other said that the emperor picked a golden pole, all of which were cognitive decisions.

In marriage, it is important to be suitable for each other.

In marriage, there is also a saying that it is "evenly matched". To put it more simply, it is the right match.

The three views are consistent, and you can take a step back if there are contradictions. Everything can be done together and will not be irreconcilable because of economic differences and cognitive differences.

In fact, people will feel inferior in marriage.

Jiangling's boyfriend must be very self-abased, otherwise he wouldn't say so-he respects you by marrying you.

How can a person with poor family conditions look up to others when he marries them? There is only a strong sense of inferiority in his heart, which makes him have to pretend to be strong and show it to his own people.

Privately, I think Jiangling's divorce is a relief. It doesn't matter if you love someone you shouldn't. Never stubbornly marry an inappropriate marriage.

Because a woman, finding a normal person is the greatest blessing for the rest of her life.

Today's topic: Can you accept a wedding without going back to the man's hometown?

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