At present, the cost of getting married is lower, but I am obsessed with the house. I think marriage needs a stable residence, but I'm afraid I'll miss the right person by buying a house with a down payment. If you get married first, you are worried that the house price will rise too much and it will be more difficult to get close, so it is very tangled and contradictory. I want to ask.
The general replied: judging from what you said, "You can only do one thing before you buy a house", you said that marriage is a wedding, and you also mentioned that "the cost of marriage is small". It seems that the starting point of your discussion about getting married and buying a house is economy. In fact, how to choose this question just reveals your true attitude.
Let's talk about the economy first. According to common sense, getting married means "making money". If banquets and weddings are not extravagant, tourists' money can be covered and there is usually a surplus. Therefore, it seems that a wedding can increase the down payment for buying a house. If the efficiency is high, the house price will not rise wildly in a few months.
As long as you have saved enough down payment, you can buy a house and get on the bus directly, but I feel that your worries and entanglements are not only about money, but completely separate and oppose buying a house and getting married.
My advice is to keep an open mind. Wedding is a sense of ceremony, but its core is the solemn marriage itself. If both parties have mature considerations and decide to spend the rest of their lives together, they can get a license first, so they don't have to tie themselves so tightly or have the best of both worlds.
Some people may have given you some advice. Let me focus on your entanglement, "I think marriage requires a stable residence" and "I will miss the right person if I buy a house and get married again". I think both of these ideas are reasonable, and they are also a problem that many people will worry about, but if you are entangled in this entanglement for too long, it will seriously affect your decision-making. I think this just reflects that you are not ready to get married.
Why do you say that?
The idea that marriage should have a stable residence is because you think that if you don't have a stable residence, you may not be happy after marriage. The idea that you will miss a suitable person after buying a house is because you think that your's feelings and relationships may not stand the test of time. If these two thoughts have been bothering you, it reflects that you have insufficient confidence in each other and have doubts about the stability of this relationship.
No matter where you want to go, there are risks and all kinds of difficulties. It's normal for you to be worried about hesitation, but if you give up starting because of this, there is only one possibility, and you don't want to arrive so much.