Getting married here is not always a custom.
1. About the parent-teacher conference. There is a saying of engagement. Generally, an uncle of the man and a brother at home go to the woman's house with the man himself to give a bride price. Parents usually don't meet. Of course, there are meetings. For example, parents usually meet first in the city, but not in the countryside.
2, three gold is a must. Choose 3 gold rings, earrings, necklaces and bracelets.
30,000 to 40,000 bride price is not much in rural Pizhou.
Now in Pizhou, if a wedding is held in a hotel, both parents usually attend, while in the rural hometown, the woman's parents don't attend.