Due to geographical reasons, Xuzhou basically has rules from south to north, whether it is food, clothing, housing and transportation or rules. Marriage also depends on your family conditions. Because I'm not sure about your specific conditions, I can only say it according to Xuzhou's salary standard. It's best for both parties not to see their parents before they get married. When parents meet their daughter-in-law for the first time, they are basically given a gift of 1000 (more can be given if conditions are good). When a son-in-law goes to his mother-in-law's house for the first time, he usually needs to buy some gifts, about 2,000 yuan (after all, it is the first official time). The man's family is responsible for buying a house, decorating, bedding (including bedding) and giving the woman's family a dowry of 30 thousand yuan (mainly to buy clothes, jewelry, etc.) ) before marriage. As for the woman's family, it depends on whether her mother-in-law and father-in-law are particular about it. If the woman's family is more particular, not only will the dowry money be used, but she will also give about 30 thousand dowry money (for buying furniture and electrical appliances). If she meets a careless woman's family, she will use the 30 thousand dowry given by the man to buy furniture and electrical appliances. On the wedding day, the man had better prepare more red envelopes (100 yuan) in his pocket, and also put 10,000 yuan on the best man for emergency. The change fee also depends on the conditions. Basically, 100 1 and 999 or 9999 and 100 1. The money for the wedding and chartered car is paid by the man's family, and the wedding banquet is paid separately. There are too many rules. If you don't understand, you can ask me QQ345462844, because I have been busy with these recently.