When a Cantonese gets married, the woman doesn't ask the man's family for a bride price, because she has no face. It is her family's business to marry her daughter. If she has money, she can buy some gold, silver and jade bracelets. If she has no money, she will spend less time or not. Nobody cares.
Guangdong locals are very realistic, unlike our hometown, where we need a bride price to marry our daughter, and then use the bride price money to buy a dowry, and the daughter will be married on the same day. The bride price given by the man's family is much more, and the woman's family is much more accompanied, so that outsiders can see that both families have face. Cantonese people say that this boring practice is cumbersome and unnecessary. This is because northerners and southerners have different views on marriage.
There is a local friend in Dongguan who is not very rich, but he is also very rich. When my son got married, he invited me to attend. First of all, the man gave me a box of local gift boxes with various snacks, which are worth about 300 yuan. Accept the gift box and make sure to be present on the wedding day. The number of red envelopes is small, as long as the gift box is high, 50 yuan means the same thing. Indeed, in Guangdong, it doesn't matter if you go to the man's house for a wedding reception. The key is that people are present to create a lively atmosphere.
Once, a friend's son got married in downtown Guangzhou. A native of Guangzhou didn't send a gift box. Because it is far from convenient, he made a sincere call and went to his son's wedding on Sunday when he had time.
For the convenience of others, Cantonese people try to arrange their weddings on Sundays or holidays. That day, I went to my friend's house in Guangzhou from Dongguan. Into the villa door, two people specially receive foreign guests to receive red envelopes. I handed it in. They wrote down their names, opened the red envelopes face to face, counted them, and recorded the numbers in their notebooks. Then there is 50 yuan left, and the rest is put into a red envelope and returned to me face to face, saying that it is a rule for the return of gift money. When the son of a rich family in Guangzhou gets married, no matter how big the red envelope is, he will only receive 50 yuan, and the rest will be paid back in person. When guests come, they just show their respect and face, and receiving red envelopes is their intention.
The wedding scene of Cantonese people is very lively. There are villa families, and most of the houses are banquets in their own homes. Close relatives in the family cook in person, and some people ask the chef for advice. The house is not big enough, so banquets are held in the festive halls of the village teams. Those with good economic conditions will have three meals, while those with ordinary conditions will have two meals. There is no regulation, always according to the family's economic situation. There is no comparison, and there is no limit. Everyone is free.
Nowadays, there are many foreigners, and weddings are also very popular in Guangdong, but locals still adhere to the traditional wedding customs. On the wedding day, the bride was taken back from 2 pm to 3 pm the night before, and the witch was responsible for the bride's grooming. Then, according to the witch's instructions, the bride and groom went to the ancestral temple to worship the little god at the entrance of the village until dawn. After the morning tea, the witch led the bride and groom to bow down to their parents first. The father gave each couple red envelopes, and the mother put the gold bracelets and jade bracelets that had already been prepared on the bride's arms. Then bow down to menstruation, uncle and menstruation in turn to show their respect. Gifts are all gold bracelets, necklaces, gold rings, earrings, bracelets and so on. The bride at the China banquet wore a white wedding dress, a diamond necklace and a wedding ring to meet the guests briefly. At the dinner party, the bride wore a red wedding dress and a short skirt, as well as ornaments from her parents and mother-in-law, and all the ornaments from her seven aunts and eight aunts, all of which were worn on her fingers, arms, neck and ears. The brighter, the more attractive. The bride, groom and parents are led by a special person to toast each guest. The bride's upper body sparkled. This kind of wedding scene is a common phenomenon among Guangdong locals, but it can't keep up with the competition. More money and less money. As long as young people are willing to be together, anything will do. Unlike some places in the north, for the sake of bride price, a couple will be separated when they get married.
Guangdong natives also have families who have no money to marry their daughters. They don't marry, and they don't invite the man's family to have a big banquet. Everything is handled according to the economic ability and will of the man's family.
A colleague, from Luoding, Guangdong, has a well-off family. The couple work in a factory and have four children and two daughters. On the National Day the year before last, she married her eldest daughter, and her son-in-law drove to pick her up. My colleague told my son-in-law that the three children were at school and had no money to buy jewelry to accompany her. They cooked a bowl of noodles for their daughter and son-in-law, and told them to live longer. When my colleague told me, it sounded a little sad, but my colleague was very calm and said that when they were older, they would be a family after marriage, and there were many things to take care of themselves at home. I don't have the money to accompany her, and I don't want a bride price, as long as they live well. I said, don't you feel bad about marrying your daughter coldly? Colleague said: What's so sad? I raised her, and I resisted her. I said, why not give the bride price? She said: Marrying a daughter is not selling her daughter, so why do you want a bride price? I said I would marry him as a bride price, and my colleagues said I had no face. When my daughter-in-law saw that the dowry was paid by her own family, I lost face. I left a gossip for the men.
Guangdong people's concept of bride price is just the opposite of our hometown. The hometown people think that it is necessary to pay more bride price to have face, and the Cantonese people say that it is a shame for the woman's family to pay bride price. Money can accompany my daughter. If you have no money, you won't have a dowry, and you won't ask the man's family for a bride price to buy a dowry and put it on your face. Cantonese people say that face is worth a few dollars and it is important to live a stable life.
Hello, I'm Jiajia Mommy, and I'm glad to answer your question. I'm from Guangdong, because the customs and concepts in every place are different, which leads to different wedding gifts. Guangdong gifts have several levels:
1, rural gift money, the general rural employment fee is about 238,000 yuan, jewelry is not stipulated, according to our own strength, we usually hold wine at home, probably in 500 yuan/wai, according to our own strength, the whole wedding is about 50,000-60,000 yuan, and relatives rarely receive red envelopes, which is generally 10 yuan ~ 100 yuan, which is normal.
2. Ordinary families in urban areas: compared with rural areas, the engagement fee is about 238,000 yuan. The woman will not accept all the gifts, but only 1 0,000 ~ 20,000 yuan. Banquets are expensive, and they are usually placed in restaurants, which is about 1, 000-2000 yuan/week. She will put several rings according to her own strength, such as jewelry rings and gold bracelets. The whole wedding will take about 8 ~ 600 yuan.
3. For families with good conditions, this kind of bride price is also about 654.38+10,000 yuan, but the woman will not accept your engagement money, but will use your engagement money to buy a car or give her jewelry as a dowry. Generally, men and women will put wine at their own expense. The cost of the whole wedding is generally around 300 thousand. The hotels booked are generally five-star, and the wine is placed according to their own strength.
It's less serious here in Guangdong. Most people will put wine according to their own strength. If you have no money, you will be poor. If you have money, you will be on the table. On the one hand, Guangdong has done a good job.
The above is my answer, hoping to bring you help.
Guangdong is the first province to enjoy the dividend of reform and opening up, and it is also a province with a high degree of openness and civilization. Some customs in the rich areas are just a ceremony, just like holding a wedding banquet at noon in the past, and now it is customary to treat guests at night. In the past, marriage was a big event. Nowadays, marriage is either a tourist wedding, or only close relatives and friends are invited to attend. The civilization of the whole society has improved, but in the underdeveloped provinces in the central and western regions, especially in the towns below the county level, the custom of bride price has changed and become a means for women to seize wealth from men and realize the outward migration of wealth. This is a bad habit and should be eliminated! How many families, in order to marry a daughter-in-law, have become indebted households from a small family? How many women want a high bride price to marry their sons? This vicious circle not only violates the sanctity of love and marriage, but also adds instability to marriage! ! !
To tell the truth, bride price is not popular in cities, especially within the system (because it is very important to match the family). It's a shame to sell your daughter, and you can't lift your head at work. In this system, the quality of life of the young couple is more important. Both sides try their best to provide a quality life for the young couple, pool the resources of the two families, pave the way for the children, let them travel lightly, develop their careers and improve their quality of life in an all-round way. If one party tries to get rid of the other party's wealth, realize wealth transfer or accumulate wealth through marriage, it will not work within the system, especially for cadres and families with a certain social status and level. Therefore, families in the city system, as long as the object is to talk about marriage, mainly talk about how to decorate the house, where to travel and get married? How to take wedding photos? What car to buy? These things are more. Maybe I'm behind the times. I still think marriage is the right way to be less utilitarian and less smelly!
The level of bride price is closely related to the overall income of people in a region.
Generally speaking, if some families have two brothers and sisters, the elder sister should ask the man for a bride price when she gets married, and supplement the family when the younger brother gets married. When the younger brother gets married, the bride price will also be given to the woman's family, which is the general trend.
If it is only a daughter, it will generally be a symbolic bride price, and the custom cannot be ignored.
In Guangdong, it is estimated that the material life is relatively rich, and there are many rich families. Who wants this little bride price?
Here, we return the gift with a bride price. My sister's daughter (my niece) got married the year before last. The man took a bride price of 1.8 million, and my sister added 900,000. After marriage, it was/kloc-0.08 million yuan, and she also married a Porsche sports car and two houses.
My daughter got married the year before last. We didn't ask for a bride price. I also got 280,000 cash and a suite.
We got a bride price here, and at least half of us have to get married in return. The more we take, the more we post!
This is closely related to the local economic base and people's customs and concepts. My opinion:
(1) Where the economy is relatively backward, people pay more attention to money and bride price. From ancient times to the present, many places in China, especially in rural areas, have the custom that "the man is hired and the woman wins the lottery". With the advent of the era of free marriage, this custom has disappeared. However, in some relatively poor rural areas, there is still the problem of bride price. (1) likes to compare with others. Some places regard the amount of bride price as the value of married women. The more the bride price is given, the more I feel that my daughter has been sent to a rich family and has a lot of face. (2) I am afraid that my daughter will "suffer" in her husband's family. Especially if there are more brothers and sisters in the man's family, the more bride price you want. Buy a dowry for your daughter with a bride price and give her some "private money" to avoid being wronged. (3) If it is difficult to raise a daughter, it should be compensated. I think a daughter who marries a man's house is a man's house, and she suffers financially, and so on.
(2) where the economy is relatively rich, people value the man's character and development prospects. For example, in some relatively rich places in Guangdong, most people also pay great attention to "face". But the face they talk about is their own wealth. It is disgraceful and humiliating to marry a daughter, especially to sell her daughter and get a big bride price. Now that I have become an "in-laws", I am a member of my family. Money is earned outside, not by marrying a daughter. On the bride price, some people even want a "lucky draw", which means meaning; Some wealthy female families even pay dowry and money.
It can be seen that the issue of "bride price" is understandable because of its vast territory and different customs. The key point is that as a family of both men and women, we should start from the happiness of the children's marriage and the children's own economic conditions, help them if we can, and save them if we can. We can't kidnap the marriage of both sides on the amount of "bride price".
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Because Guangdong people understand that if you want your son-in-law to pay a large amount of bride price, his family will be poor in the future, so don't you want your daughter to share a piece of the action? Therefore, a daughter can marry a family. We should think about her future and let her live a relaxed life. This is a deep understanding of righteousness in Guangdong. It also means to accept less bride price. From other provinces, if you have no money to borrow, you have to borrow a lot of money, so your daughter lives with this family to pay off her debts. How can that in-laws stand it? At the same time, it also shows that parents in Guangdong love their daughters and sons equally.
Most local parents in Guangdong pay more attention to the man's character. If the man has a good character, even if he doesn't buy a house (mostly in rural areas), he will symbolically ask for a bride price. The bride price will buy a dowry for her daughter and even go to the man's house without a bride price. In their eyes, as long as the young couple live well! If there is a banquet, if there is no money, please invite fewer people and put them at home (all the uncles and uncles who live together come to help with the work); If you have money, you can go to a hotel. I'm talking about the average family. Anyway, Cantonese people hold wedding banquets just to make a scene and make everyone happy, not for the guests' money! So there is no pressure to receive several invitations in Guangdong a year [I want to be quiet]
Some people are not convinced that Guangdong is rich, so women don't want bride price.
All wet. I married my son and worked three times.
I couldn't afford a house after marriage, so I paid a lot. The young couple can't afford it for a hundred years.
This is necessary.
Now there is a strange phenomenon in society: the poorer the place, the higher the bride price! A little lazy and get something for nothing! Kind of like selling a daughter!
Guangdong people are generally rich, and they don't care how much money a woman has. As long as people are nice and the best, rich women may marry a lot to save face or for later life. So, everything is decided by people.
Hello, everyone, I come from Guangzhou. Which Cantonese people don't talk about wedding bride price? In fact, Cantonese people, especially Guangzhou people, just talk about the wedding bride price. In fact, rural people in Guangzhou can now say that their income is good.
Recently, my classmate's son got married, and the bride price was only 30 thousand. Her family has the money to live in a big mansion worth more than 5 million, and hundreds of thousands of bride price can be given at any time, but the woman's asking price is only tens of thousands, and the ones that are not needed are basically 30,000-50,000. Cantonese people are very realistic, and it is really good to live well [like] [like] [rose] [pray] [pray].