Why do people choose to marry? Why do people get married? This question should be thought by many people. Some people figured it out and chose to get married, some people figured it out and chose to be single, some people got married in a daze, and some people were single again in a daze. So why do people get married? Why do people get married? Why on earth do people get married? What's the point of getting married? Why do people get married? This question should be thought by many people. Some people have figured out that they choose to get married, some people have figured out that they choose to be single, some people are confused about getting married, and some people are confused about being single. Why do people get married? We live to make ourselves happy and the people around us happy. We got married to make this love complete and full. Legend has it that a woman is a man's lost rib. Men and women have only been born for half their lives. We have been looking for our lover and the other half. In the vast sea of people, only by finding your other half can you have a complete life and make your life rich and happy. So we keep looking, bravely fall in love, wrong, hurt, hurt, and then despair, lost, because we haven't found a true lover yet, because true love is hard to find. People may meet several lovers in this life, or they may only have one. You may be with your lover forever until the day you die of old age; Maybe happiness is like a flash in the pan. Happiness or sadness are love and marriage. In fact, many people misunderstand the true meaning of marriage, especially some young and ignorant teenagers Marriage should be the ultimate witness of true love, sacred and solemn. Some people may mistakenly think that marriage is a shackle that can bind two people together, or some people think that they have a home. Although marriage is only a form in essence, it must have profound significance. Anyway, let nature take its course, don't ask why. Let nature take its course, go with the flow, not reluctantly, not deliberately. I like this sentence very much: get married, anyway, being idle is idle, and bickering is really boring, so as not to be alone. Marriage should be analyzed from all aspects: 1, longevity: men benefit more. The biggest benefit of marriage to health is that it can prolong life. However, men benefit more from it. Michael murphy, a professor of demography at the London School of Economics, found that the mortality rate of unmarried middle-aged men is twice that of married middle-aged men, and the difference between unmarried women and married women is not so great. Researchers believe that marriage helps men stay away from some fatal accidents, violent crimes and avoidable natural disasters. 2. Resist diseases: Men benefit more. Marriage can greatly reduce the possibility of people suffering from many diseases, including diabetes, heart disease, Alzheimer's disease, lung disease and so on. Among them, the prevention of male heart disease is the most obvious. A study in 2009 found that unmarried men were three times more likely to die of heart disease than married men. 3. Stay away from depression: Women benefit more. Marriage is good for both men and women's mental health, but women benefit more from it. Robin Simon, a sociology professor at Wake Forest University in North Carolina, USA, found through research that women are more likely to suffer from depression because of sadness, but the possibility of married women suffering from depression will be significantly reduced. 4. Overcome bad habits: Men benefit more. After marriage, men have more room for improvement in correcting bad habits. A study in 2006 tracked the living habits of thousands of young people before and after marriage, and found that men would drink less and smoke less after marriage, and their work and rest would be more normal. Why do people get married? People always think that the final outcome of love is marriage. However, one day a friend asked his wife, "I don't want to get married. Is it non-mainstream? " Someone also said to his wife, "I long for marriage." Now people have different understandings of "marriage", which can be described as one arsenic and two honey. So, what is the meaning of marriage? Why do people get married? Will you be happier if you get married? In today's article, my wife still wants to introduce a paper on the past and future of marriage edited by Dr. Qian Yue. You will find that you don't understand the past of marriage, and the future of marriage may subvert your three views. In recent decades, great changes have taken place in the marriage mode between China and the West: the age of first marriage has increased, the phenomenon of unmarried cohabitation has become increasingly common, the marriage rate has decreased, the divorce rate has increased, and the number of unmarried children has increased ... These changes have triggered a heated discussion on the future of the social system of "marriage" in academic circles. As early as 2004, the famous American professional journal Marriage and Family Magazine published a group of academic articles on "Marriage and its Future". Among them, one of the most famous scholars in the field of American family sociology, Andrew Cherlin's paper "De-institutionalizing American Marriage" is widely quoted. This is an article about the change of American marriage system: its main point is that the binding force of marriage has gradually weakened in the past few decades. Specific manifestations include the increase of cohabitation and the emergence of same-sex marriage. Why is this happening? The meaning of marriage has changed because of social changes. Before 1950s, marriage in America was mainly institutionalized marriage. In other words, the family formed through marriage provides a reasonable place for sexual intercourse and reproduction. In other words, extramarital sex and unmarried childbearing are not recognized by society. Since the 1950s, marriage has gradually changed from an institutionalized relationship to a mutually accompanying relationship. Husband and wife should be each other's friends and lovers, which is almost nonexistent in the previous institutionalized marriage. At that time, the United States was in a period of economic prosperity after the end of World War II. Husbands earn money to support their families and wives are full-time housewives, which is the most mainstream mode of family role division. Husband and wife mainly run the nuclear family, including children, and their satisfaction with the marriage relationship mainly depends on whether they and their spouses play their respective "roles" in marriage and fulfill their respective responsibilities and obligations (such as men making money and women taking care of the family, etc.). ) Since the 1960s, the "partner" marriage has gradually lost its dominant position in the United States. With the improvement of women's education level, they work outside the home and earn money to support their families, just like men. Therefore, the "roles" and responsibilities of wives and husbands in marriage have become more flexible and can be negotiated. When people begin to evaluate whether they are satisfied with marriage, they are more concerned about whether they have grown up in marriage and whether their thoughts and feelings have been expressed in marriage. At this time, marriage has changed from "companion" marriage to "personalized" marriage. Personalized marriage emphasizes people's self-growth, that is, everyone should develop an independent and full self, rather than sacrificing themselves just for their partners. At the same time, personalized marriage emphasizes the necessity of communication and confession between husband and wife when they encounter problems. These changes in the meaning of marriage directly reflect the changes in what people try to get from marriage. Nowadays, people don't pay much attention to whether they play a socially recognized role (such as a competent parent or a loyal and sacrificed spouse). On the contrary, what people want is personal growth and deep intimacy. This intimate relationship is achieved through frank communication and sharing of inner feelings with spouses. Therefore, in the process of deinstitutionalizing marriage, the social norms about family and personal life are gradually weakening. On the contrary, personal choice and self-growth are their main goals to maintain their marriage relationship. At this time, a question arises: Why on earth should people get married? Although the current marriage rate in the United States is lower than that in the mid-20th century, a recent study shows that nearly 90% of Americans will eventually get married. 80% of young people expect to get married, and this proportion has remained stable. So why on earth do cohabiting couples still prefer to get married rather than live together all the time? This study holds that the main function of marriage is to provide enforceable trust. Marriage still requires both husband and wife to have an open commitment to a long-term relationship. Cohabitation only requires private commitment between partners, so it is easier to break up. At the same time, marriage has developed into an indicator of social status. People usually choose to get married after getting a stable job and accumulating some savings. People's weddings are getting more and more grand, because they try to prove to others that they have gained a prestigious, comfortable and stable life through wedding ceremonies, buying houses and other family life equipment. In the past, people started their families before they started their careers, but now economic foundation is often the prerequisite for marriage. Now, getting married has become a choice people will make at the peak of their life development. So, what will the future marriage be like? The author put forward three ideas. First, marriage gradually re-institutionalized, that is, changed back to the marriage relationship model in the mid-20th century. But I think this possibility is very small. Second, marriage maintains the status quo, that is, marriage is still non-institutionalized, but it is still universal and different from other forms of sexual relations. However, the author suspects that the current deinstitutionalized marriage model may not last long in the United States. Why do people get married? The reason why three people get married: when you are old or need to be taken care of, that person can always be with you. I saw a female netizen share her divorce experience before. As a 33-year-old leftover woman, she not only has to face the pressure of work alone, but also bears the pressure of her parents to urge her to get married every day, and also accepts the strange eyes of people around her. After 10 many blind dates, she was finally persuaded by her parents that getting married is nothing more than finding someone to make do with life. If you take it too seriously, you lose. Later, she met her ex-husband This man is a junior civil servant, well-behaved in his work and life, and an honest man. His only interest is playing games. She thought she was 33 years old and would never get married again. On the one hand, she is sorry for her parents, on the other hand, she is worried that she will have children too late. Besides, she doesn't like him very much. Finally, the two of them got married. As a result, less than a year after their marriage, a serious "conflict" broke out between them. She is a neat freak, and he is a person who throws away his socks as soon as he gets home. She is a romantic, and he is a science and engineering man. We often say that if you love someone, you will tolerate all his shortcomings. The problem now is that she doesn't love him, so she can't accept his shortcomings, so his shortcomings will be magnified countless times. It was not until their marriage was in crisis that it was resolved. Because neither of them loves each other enough, neither of them wants to compromise with each other. As a result, I went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a divorce! Now 35 years old, she enjoys being single, especially after this marriage. She clearly knows that if a marriage is not for her own happiness, but for filial piety and childbirth, the final result of this relationship is doomed to end in tragedy. In my opinion, marriage is because two people's love has reached a certain level, it is the result of their choice, and they hope to protect each other's love as a law, which has nothing to do with "filial piety" and "children" during this period!