Sending books is also called "crossing Hong Haier". In the past, children's marriage was arranged by their parents, and both parents determined the engagement between their children through engagement. There is a saying that "marry a chicken with a chicken, marry a dog with a dog, and marry a pole to carry it away". After the marriage is confirmed by both men and women, the man entrusts the matchmaker to the woman's house to exchange "books" based on the names, ages, parents and matchmaker of the men and women. The man also wants to give the woman an engagement present. Besides clothes, money, jewelry, leg straps and socks, there are two packs of salt, two packs of rice, 1 double needles, 1 double onions. Send salt, rice, etc. It means "fate has arrived", sending needles means "marriage", and sending onions means "obedience" (since the break of the "four olds", books generally only send cash and clothes, and books are no longer exchanged). When the woman returned the book, she had 1 hat, 1 belt, 1 clothes, 1 towel, 1 pair of socks and shoes, 1 cigarette case (nowadays, it is mostly two packs of cigarettes).
The man asked "Mr." to send someone to the woman's house to inform her after confirming the wedding date according to the date of birth of both men and women, commonly known as "wedding day". In the past, there were generally "four-color gifts" for sending to Japan: steamed bread (or chicken), meat, silver carp and vermicelli. Now send more clothes and cash. After the wedding day, both parties will inform relatives and friends of the wedding date, and relatives and friends will give gifts before marriage. Those for the man are called "gifts" and those for the woman are called "boxes".
The day before the wedding, the man sent someone to the woman's house to "make up", which means to urge her to get married on time. General red and blue coat 1 pair, cosmetics 1 set, male hen 1 pair, fish 1 pair, meat 1 knife. Make-up ceremony usually comes back to the man's house with dowry, so there is a saying that "make-up ceremony can't be eaten as a meal". Chickens are called "longevity chickens". When making up, if the woman leaves a "long-lived chicken", it means that the woman has a "big box" when she gets married. There are "comfort noodles", "steamed bread for the elderly", "baked cakes" and "shoes to worship" (that is, shoes given by the bride to the elders and brothers and sisters of the man's family). In recent years, big boxes no longer exist.
Married men are called "married wives" and women are called "married". Most people choose auspicious days according to the lunar calendar. Before liberation, because children's marriages were arranged by their parents, men and women only knew each other on their wedding day. There once happened a true story in China: two families in a village got married at the same time on the same day. Wrong, both families took the bride by mistake and married each other. By the time I noticed this, the raw rice had been cooked and I had to make a mistake. Later, there were children, one named it "poor" and the other named it "wrong". After liberation, men and women get married by registering first, and then holding a wedding. Before marriage, the man buys furniture and arranges a new house, and the woman prepares a "dowry".
In the past, when getting married, the woman sent her married daughter to the man's house in a sedan chair (which the bridesmaids called "sedan chair watcher") or a stroller (which the bridesmaids called "sedan chair sitter"). From the 1950s to the early 1970s, carts were covered with mats, and married women sat on the right, and the weighed carts sat on the left. There are two people carrying cupboards, cabinets and tables behind the car, and they are called "dowry". When parking, people with small forks should step forward and pad their legs with forks. Later, the man hired a car to pick up the bride at the woman's house. The groom usually does not go with the car, and the bride is accompanied by a "bridesmaid". After the car stops outside the man's door, stop for a minute first. This is called "grinding temper", which means that you are docile after entering the door. At this point, the man set off firecrackers. The bride was helped out of the car by the man holding his wife. When getting off the bus, the bride first "steps on cakes" (usually rice cakes, meaning "climb up step by step"). If the man's surname is Gao, the bride doesn't step on the cake. The groom came out to greet the bride. After the two sides exchange handkerchiefs, they are usually presided over by the "master of ceremonies" in the yard. Worship heaven and earth first, then the high hall, and then the husband and wife worship each other before entering the new house. At this time, there will be special people scattering chestnuts, dates and candy in the yard, which means "early fruit" and life is sweet. After that, the man gave a banquet to entertain the guests. Most of the people who come to "see the bride off" are the bride's uncles and so on. And was honored as a guest of honor, commonly known as "big guest"; Others who come to see relatives off are called "individual travelers". On the wedding night, some friends, classmates or younger generations often go to the bridal chamber to play. Rural neighbors still like cigarettes when they meet their daughters-in-law. Children want chestnuts, dates and sugar, and they all leave automatically after midnight. Since then, the bride and groom have been served by the man's relatives and have "toasted" together. The bridal chamber doesn't turn off the lights at night, which is called "longevity lamp". Shortly after marriage, the bride will go back to her mother's house accompanied by her husband, commonly known as "crossing the moon"
1. Eat jiaozi: Before getting married, the groom will eat jiaozi with his parents, brothers and girlfriends in the boudoir to show his farewell. Mother fed jiaozi to her daughter, and the bride cried.
2. hi: after the groom meets the woman's family, he will hold a bouquet in the room for the bride to get married. At this time, the bride's girlfriend should deliberately stop the groom, but the condition is that the groom agrees, usually with a red envelope gift.
3. Farewell: The bride has to say goodbye to her parents, and the groom only needs to bow and salute.
4. Going out: The bride should be escorted to the limousine by a female elder with a bamboo plaque or a black umbrella, because the bride can't see the sunshine overhead, and the other party hopes to live a happy life like this female elder. (Note: Prepare a bamboo plaque and paste a happy word on it)
5. Gift car: Bamboo plaque can be placed on the back cover of the gift car.
6. Worship fans: Before the bride gets on the limousine, an auspicious little boy holds a fan (put it on a tea tray) for the bride, and the bride returns a red envelope to show her gratitude. (Note: Prepare a fan and bring two small red envelopes)
7. Never say goodbye: Never say goodbye to a woman's family when everyone leaves her home.
8. Throw a fan: After the car starts, the bride should throw the fan out of the window to show that she will not bring her bad temper to her husband's family. The little boy will pick up a fan and give it to her family. They will give her a red envelope to thank her.
9. Firecrackers: The limousine leaves the woman's house to set off firecrackers.
10. Touch oranges: A limousine will be delivered to the man's house, and a child with two oranges will welcome the couple. The bride should gently touch the orange and then thank the red envelope.
1 1. Guide the bride: When the bride gets off the bus, a lucky elder of the man will hold a bamboo plaque on her head and help her into the hall.
12. Avoid stepping on the threshold, but cross it.
13. Step on the tile across the brazier: After the bride enters the hall, she should step on the tile across the brazier.
14. Entering the bridal chamber: The newlyweds took the groom's trousers in advance and sat on the bench together, saying that they both wanted to have a boy in the future. No man is allowed into the bridal chamber. (Choose the time to enter the bridal chamber)
5. Avoid getting a new bed: On the wedding day, no one is allowed to get a new bed, and the bride is not allowed to lie down, so as not to be sick in bed all the year round. In addition, after going to bed, you should find an underage boy to sleep in bed with the groom on the eve of your wedding.
16. set off firecrackers and go to the wedding reception: the limousine leaves the bridal chamber and sets off firecrackers.
17. Enter the hotel lounge (honeymoon suite) and friends come to see the bride.