Wedding Eve: Traditional wedding inherits the ancient ceremony, which is the most complicated but meaningful one among all kinds of wedding etiquette. However, because most modern couples lack this knowledge or are not allowed in time, the number of couples who choose traditional wedding as a way of marriage is decreasing year by year.
The preparation before the wedding is complicated, but in short, it includes
1. Worship: The man's family should worship heaven and earth and ancestors the day before the wedding and inform them that there will be a wedding.
Second, Anqing ceremony: according to the eight characters, the house sits and worships the bed mother.
The wedding day is more complicated-
First, ancestor worship: before going out to marry the bride, the man should worship his ancestors first.
2. Wedding procession: The wedding procession should be even, especially a multiple of 6.
3. Firecrackers: The team celebrating the wedding should set off firecrackers all the way.
Fourth, eat sister table: before the bride gets married, she should have dinner with her parents, brothers and sisters to show goodbye and everyone should say auspicious words.
5. Invite the groom: take a special bus to the woman's house, and there will be boys waiting for the bride and groom to get off with tea trays (with melon seeds and candy on them). After that, you should give the boy a red envelope as a gift before you can enter the woman's house.
6. Hi: After the groom meets and greets the bride's family, he should hold a bouquet in the room for the bride to get married. At this time, the bride's sister or female friend should stop the groom from deliberately obstructing her from seeing the bride. After the groom's pleading, the woman can make a condition for the groom to agree. Usually after some bargaining, the transaction is made with a red envelope of 999 yuan, which means "long time".
Veil: After the groom presents the bouquet, he should put down the veil and walk out of the hall with the bride.
8. Farewell: The bride and groom burn incense to worship their ancestors. The bride should bow to her parents to say goodbye, and the groom can only bow.
9. Going out: The bride should be escorted on the limousine by a female elder with a bamboo curtain or a black umbrella. Because the bride's position was greater than anyone else that day, and she couldn't see the sun. On the other hand, she hopes to live a happy life like this female elder.
10. Gift car: A bamboo tree from root to leaf is hung above the gift car, and radish on the root indicates a head and a tail. There is a gossip bamboo screen painted in ink behind the limousine to drive away the ominous on the road.
1 1. Fan worship: Before the bride gets on the limousine, a lucky boy of the zodiac holds a fan (put it on a tea tray) for the bride, and the bride returns a red envelope as a gift.
Never say goodbye: never say goodbye to a woman's family when everyone is leaving her home.
13. Water splashing: After the bride gets on the limousine, her parents will splash a bowl of water, rice and white rice on the bride, indicating that her daughter spilled water, wishing her food and clothing.
Throw the fan: After the car starts, the bride should throw the fan out of the window, which means not to bring her bad temper to her husband's house. She must cry a few times after throwing the fan, and a bamboo screen can be set up behind the car to symbolize wealth.
15. firecrackers: on the way from the woman's house to the man's house, a salute is set off. The car arrived at the man's house, and the family burned a "cannon city" to celebrate the news.
16. Touch the oranges: When the limousine arrives, a child with two oranges will meet the couple. The bride should gently touch the orange and give a red envelope as a gift. These two oranges should be left for the bride to peel at night, which means they can bring longevity.
17. Hold the bride: When the bride walks out of the limousine, an angry elder of the man will hold a bamboo curtain on the bride's head and help her into the hall.
Taboo, step on the threshold: the threshold represents the facade, so newcomers should never step on the threshold. They should cross it.
19. Go through the brazier and step on the tiles: After the bride enters the hall, she must go through the brazier and step on the tiles. The brazier is used to ward off evil spirits, and breaking tiles means that the past time is like breaking tiles.
Tea: The elders of the man's family introduce the bride to the family. This ceremony is to admit that she has become a member of the family.
Twenty-one, worship heaven and earth: newcomers worship heaven and earth, worship gaotang, worship husband and wife, and send them to the bridal chamber.
Twenty-two, into the bridal chamber: cover the bed with a bamboo curtain, put a bronze mirror on the table to suppress the vibration, and the couple sat on a bench with the groom's pants in advance, indicating that they will be United from now on and survive the boy in the future. Then the groom lifts the bride's veil, and the two of them raise their glasses and eat sweet soup made of black dates, peanuts, longan and lotus seeds, which symbolizes the early birth of your son.
Twenty-three, taboo, sitting in a new bed: on the wedding day, no one can sit in a new bed, and the bride can't lie down, so as not to be sick in bed all year round.
24. Wedding reception: At present, most people adopt a wedding ceremony combining Chinese and Western styles, and most of them hold ceremonies at the same time when entertaining guests at night. At the wedding reception, the bride can change her bridal gown into an evening gown, and then make a toast on each table.
25. seeing off guests: After the wedding reception, the newlyweds stand at the gate of the restaurant to see off guests, and they must carry tea trays full of cigarettes and sweets.
Twenty-six, tea: after the general banquet guests leave, the married relatives and friends of the man's family drink the bride's sweet tea, say auspicious words and give red envelopes.
Twenty-seven, make trouble in the bridal chamber: the newlyweds on both sides can make fun of the newlyweds to increase their wedding joy.
-China Folk Culture Network
Others:
1。 Pick up the bride
After the wedding procession entered the door, the woman hosted a banquet. In Yuci, Jinzhong and other places, when entertaining son-in-law, besides various diets, pancakes are also the staple food. When a new son-in-law gets married, he has to "steal" a dozen cakes, several pairs of chopsticks and some containers for holding wine, which is called "getting rich" by the locals. Xiangfen area in southern Shanxi pays attention to the "wedding cake" eaten by the bride and groom. In Qinxian and other places in the southeast of Shanxi, before leaving, my daughter wants to eat egg cakes, commonly known as "three eggs and a pot of wine, and send her daughter to a sedan chair."
After leaving, the groom kowtowed to his parents-in-law and said goodbye. In Qixian County, Jinzhong, the father-in-law will wear a red scarf and hairpin for his son-in-law at this time. Then the music was deafening, and the wedding team, escorted by the woman, set off with even greater momentum. "Marry" and "faint" are homophonic. In some places in the south of Shanxi, the ancient custom of the bride getting married at night is still preserved. The bride's family invited the groom to the party and didn't send her daughter out until the first time on duty.
When a daughter gets married and leaves home, there is a custom of not picking up her family in all parts of Shanxi. People believe that "soil can produce everything, and soil can produce gold", and they are afraid that if they take away the soil, they will take away the good luck of planting crops at home. This is naturally a deep-rooted traditional concept in agricultural society. When a daughter gets married, she should put on new shoes on the kang, and then her brother or uncle will carry or lift her sedan chair. Or sit in a chair and be carried into a sedan chair; In some places, the floor is covered with red carpet or red cloth. The daughter took off her old shoes, got into a sedan chair and put on new shoes. No matter how you get out, don't touch the ground.
When the daughter leaves, the mother will circle the sedan chair twice with tears in her eyes, silently wishing her happiness and good luck. My father symbolically escorted "Hundred Steps", and then accompanied by my uncle, brother and younger brother, I saw my relatives off.
The wedding route generally pays attention to taking a big circle and not taking the road on the return trip. According to the location of Qixian village in Jinzhong, Xuanwu (north) enters and Suzaku (south) exits; It is still the saying that the white tiger (west) enters and the Qinglong (east) comes out. The wedding procession should bring a red carpet or red cloth. The red carpet or red cloth is not only used for the bride to step on the sedan chair, but also used to cover the sedan chair window and the bride when passing through the temple, well platform or stone mill, so as to prevent ghosts such as White Tiger Star from worshipping evil spirits and disturbing each other. In other people's wedding procession in Lu Yu, the two sides should exchange "needle and thread", that is, the bride's needle and thread to eliminate disasters. Now, when the wedding teams meet, they will give each other handkerchiefs, which is the tradition.
In the past, sedan chairs or cars were used for weddings. In addition, in some places in the mountainous areas of Lvliang, brides marry and ride donkeys; In Changzhi, Tunliu and other places, the bride and groom should ride horses. There is also a special means of transportation in Pinglu, Yanbei. Mules carry sedan chairs, that is, two mules carry sedan chairs in tandem. On the wedding day, "mule driver" is the most respected. They are wearing new black clothes. With a white towel wrapped around his head, he is dressed very beautifully. It is said that they can not only drive the "mule-carried sedan chair" safely, but also make people suffer from bumps, so they can't pay less.
On wedding day, the makeup of the bride and groom varies from place to place. The groom used to wear a wide-brimmed black helmet, jacket and robe, but later he changed into a uniform. Now he mostly wears a suit and tie. In Jinzhong, Jinnan and other places, the bride's dress is quite special, wearing a rockhopper, an embroidered robe and a jade belt around her waist, just like the image of an empress on the stage. Later, when I was full and didn't wear a python, I changed into a red cotton-padded jacket; Don't wear rockhopper, wear brown glasses, all wear fashion.
2。 Baitang
After the bride and groom enter the door, they will then "worship the church", also known as "worship heaven and earth" Generally, the place to worship the church is in front of the bridal chamber. There is an altar with the tablets of the monarch and the teacher of heaven and earth on it, and the curtain of the ancestors is hung behind the altar. After the bride and groom are in place, they are guided by two male guests, kneeling three times and knocking nine times to pay homage to heaven and earth, ancestors and parents. Then the woman is east, the man is west, and the husband and wife pay homage. In the Datong area of Yanbei, the bride doesn't worship when the groom visits the wedding, which is quite different from the usual custom.
3。 east
After the meeting, the bride and groom stepped into the bridal chamber surrounded by everyone. In Jinzhong, Jinnan and other places, a saddle should be placed in front of the bridal chamber or on the threshold in advance, and the saddle will be removed as soon as the bride crosses her front foot.
In addition to some daily necessities, wedding couplets should be posted at the door, big red double happiness characters should be posted on the windows, and red candles should be lit in the room. In Xinzhou and other places, a face rabbit will be hung at the entrance of the bridal chamber. Around Qin county, there is a bucket in the bridal chamber, which contains grains, bronze mirrors and other town objects to ward off evil spirits; Lamps and candles are hung on high walls and do not burn overnight, which is commonly known as "longevity lamp". In Yanbei Pinglu, after the groom enters the bridal chamber, he will shoot bows and arrows in all directions, which is called "driving the white tiger". In some places in Jinzhong and Jinnan, bows and arrows are hung on the walls. Folk believe that the bridal chamber is vulnerable to evil spirits, and if it is not suppressed, abnormal accidents will occur, which is not good for the bride and groom.
In Qixian, Jinzhong and other places, after entering the bridal chamber, the bride and groom sit side by side on the edge of the kang and are greeted by the "Quanfu people", pressing the bride's skirt on the groom's robe. The groom used the balance beam to remove the "red veil" from the bride's head and then quit. The bride's sister-in-law immediately took off the new shoes on her feet and put them on for her. The so-called "new shoes and new styles" means that the bride should follow the rules of the man's family and be bound by her husband's family in the future. In the Hequ area of Xinzhou, after the groom takes off the bride's red veil, he will symbolically comb her hair with a comb, commonly known as "Shangtou", indicating that this woman has become his wife since then. Previously, after the bride and groom entered the bridal chamber, they also used the same utensils to eat and drink and carry out the "wedding ceremony". Generally speaking, the bride and groom drink a little from each cup, then mix two glasses of wine and drink in the other cup. The customs in different parts of Shanxi are slightly different. The bride and groom have a glass of wine in Shou Ping, Yanbei, which is called "Jade Emperor Wine" and "Harmonious Wine". Wenxi and other places have evolved into the "wedding face" of the bride and groom on their wedding night.
On the wedding night, there is a custom of "stepping on the four corners" in some places in southern Shanxi. The groom and the bride turned left and right three times on the kang. When I stepped on it, some people were chanting praise: "Step, step, step on the four corners, and the four-cornered empress protects it. There are many children and few women, and the two husbands are always fine ... "Shanxi, like other parts of the country, has the custom of" building new houses ",and the wedding night is very lively. As the saying goes, "if you don't make trouble, you will make it worse"; There is also a folk custom that "three days after marriage, regardless of age, guests, neighbors, relatives and friends can gather in the new house, and the bride and groom in Doby". It is believed that disturbing the new house can not only add to the festive atmosphere of the wedding, but also drive away evil spirits and bless the bride and groom with good luck after marriage.
4。 (of a newlywed wife) going to her parents' home with her newlywed husband.
On the second day after marriage, the man's family will hold a banquet to entertain relatives, friends and guests, who will congratulate and greet the man's family.
Commonly known as "Daoxi". In Lingchuan, southeast Shanxi, the woman's parents also entrusted the women from relatives and friends to congratulate the man's house, which is called "having dinner". In Anze area, when relatives, friends and guests go to the man's house to congratulate each other, they will also compete for the fruit cake brought by the bride, which is called "begging for dry food". In Pinglu and other places in Yanbei, a worship ceremony will be held on the second day after marriage, and the bride and groom will salute their relatives and friends who come to congratulate them in turn. In all parts of Shanxi, on the morning of the second or third day after marriage, the bride will meet her in-laws and elders at home, and her peers and younger generations at home will also meet the bride, commonly known as "dividing people into smaller ones" or "seeing the size", which is to confirm the status of the bride in the man's family. In Linyi area, the man's family will also guide the bride to visit the neighborhood, and all families, old and young, will flock out to see the bride. This is the so-called "worshipping the lane". Fushan and other places are called "string villages". A similar ceremony, called "eating street food", was held in Lan County after the wedding day. Generally speaking, the bride will be invited by the man's family or neighbors to have a symbolic dinner at home. Families should prepare seats and meals in advance and meet them in the street. The bride is accompanied by the "big flag" (that is, relatives and friends who greet the bride's family). After each visit, "Daqi" introduces the identity of the host family, and the bride will come forward to pay homage, meet and complete the ceremony, and then sit down for a symbolic meal, usually "Geto". After dinner, it is sent out by the main family and picked up by another family until the "big device" thinks it is full of meaning. Generally speaking, guests don't have to be invited, and a large part of them have to be declined. The local people attach great importance to this custom. First of all, let the bride know her neighbors so that she can contact in the future. Second, show the popularity of the husband's family. The more people invite people across the street to eat, the happier the host family will be. Afterwards, the husband's family will send a thank-you letter to those who invited them to cross the street to show their gratitude.
On the third day after marriage, some places still retain the ancient custom of "warming women". On this day, the woman's parents came to see her daughter with snacks and biscuits, fearing that her daughter would be stiff when she first arrived at her husband's house, and she would be hungry if she didn't have enough to eat. Yicheng area is called "seeing for three days", and Qinxian and other places are called "inquiring for three days".
"Going back to the door", that is, the custom that both newlyweds go back to the woman's house to visit relatives, is also popular all over the country, but at different times, some on the second day after marriage, some on the third day after marriage, and some on the sixth, seventh, ninth, tenth or even twelfth day after marriage, which varies from place to place. In Pinglu area, newlyweds go back to their daughters' home for a day or two the day after marriage, which is called "returning to relatives".
Xiangfen area is also the second day after marriage, but the newlyweds will go back to the man's house together on the same day. This is called "beating around". In Guangling area, on the third day after marriage, the bride's family sent chariots and horses to welcome the newlyweds back to the house. Besides meeting her parents, the groom also met her relatives and friends at the bride's house, and stayed there for nine days before coming back. This is called a "party" in Yuci area. On the third day after marriage, the son-in-law will take his daughter-in-law to her daughter's house with gifts, which is called "thank you for your marriage". In Anze and other places, the bride's family will invite the newlyweds back on the third day, or on the sixth or ninth day. Yonghe, a mountainous area in Lvliang, the woman's family took the newlyweds home on the seventh day after marriage and named them "Dui Er"; On the ninth day after marriage, it was named "Go to Jiu-Er". In Wenxi, Yicheng and other places, it is the tenth day after marriage, and the bride's family takes back her daughter and son-in-law, and lives for ten days before returning to her husband's family. Wenxi is called "Out of Ten" and Yicheng is called "Calling Ten". In Fushan area, it's called "Twelve Outings" to go back to your parents' home after twelve days of marriage.
People call the bride's marriage from her mother's family to her husband's family "entering the door", so the bride's return from her husband's family is called "returning to the door", and the newlyweds return to the door together in pairs, also called "double doors". For son-in-law, this custom has the significance of thanking parents-in-law and getting to know the woman's relatives and friends. As far as the daughter is concerned, she shows the feelings of not forgetting her parents' kindness after getting married and getting married. However, it is not easy for the groom who left home for the first time and the bride who left her parents at the first sight to return home. Not to mention that in front of the woman's relatives and friends, the new son-in-law will be "judged", and the bride's sisters alone will make him feel at a loss. These cheeky girls painted soot and black paint on her brother-in-law's face, and made him eat jiaozi wrapped in pepper and pepper. The new son-in-law can't get angry in the process of being teased. Even if he is at a loss and embarrassed, he still has to grin and let go.
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