What do rural blind dates talk about? Many people will choose blind date, and now many men will choose blind date. It is also very helpless to step into the threshold of older men and women. Let's take a look at what rural blind date talks about and related information.
What do rural blind dates talk about? 1 1, blind date process and matters needing attention male
1, focusing on each other's "triangle"
Psychologists call it the "focus area", which is a triangle formed by taking the other person's eyebrows as the top angle and two cheekbones as the bottom angle. When talking to the other person, if your eyes have been drifting away from this "triangle", it will leave people with the feeling of being strongly concerned and becoming the focus, which will make people feel good about you! On the contrary, if you stare at the other person's eyes, it will make him hostile from the beginning.
2. Try to reduce gestures and spoken language when speaking.
Casual gestures and words will reveal your inner feelings. If the other person is proficient in psychology, your nervousness will be caught in an instant, thus losing a series of advantages and initiative.
Please smile again with a sunny smile.
The real smile is not as simple as the upturned corners of the mouth, but the relaxation of muscles. The study found that the infection effect of grinning is nearly 30% higher than that of grinning. Don't worry about your irregular teeth. 70% of Asian men said that they like girls who often smile and have small tiger teeth! And women like to see the sunny side of men.
Second, the law of blind date for 72 hours
If the first date is successful, 97% of men will call each other again within 72 hours. The drawbridge effect means that when a person crosses the drawbridge in fear, his heart will beat faster involuntarily.
If you happen to meet a heterosexual at this time, then he will mistakenly think that the heartbeat caused by this situation is a physiological reaction that the other person makes him feel excited, so it breeds love for the other person. Dangerous or exciting situations can promote mutual feelings.
In a dark place, if the dating parties can't see each other's expressions clearly, it's easy to reduce their sense of security and create a sense of security. In this case, the possibility of being close to each other is much higher than that in a bright place.
People's emotional reaction is stronger in strong light, and more gentle in dark environment. If couples dim the lights before talking, the chances of quarreling will be greatly reduced.
The "dark effect" can also explain why strangers are more likely to meet and even fall in love in dimly lit bars and dance halls than in ordinary occasions. The reason is that too bright light will make it difficult for people to relax, thus improving their vigilance and alertness.
When dating, I feel at first sight that I will be satisfied with seeing a good-looking person and leave my contact information. But for those who have a good impression, they will contact within 72 hours to let the other party know their thoughts.
Blind date, generally speaking, is to chat with friends after reading the information, get to know a thing or two superficially first, save time and effort when losing your temper, and end it early without paying money, without wasting time and energy.
However, this is a short-term exchange. We can talk for about three days at most, and I will give you a definite answer on the fourth day at the latest. Once the fourth day has passed, the other party still refuses to meet or contact you, indicating that you are heading for the spare tire.
Third, dating skills
1, before dating, you must get to know each other.
Before dating, you must know each other. You can't judge a person by your own imagination. Maybe 10 years ago, he was a fat man, but 10 years later, he may be a fancy cool man! There are also parents who are not familiar with each other. Don't listen to the mentality of "remember them, the matchmaker can't help but talk".
Before dating, try to find two happy things to make yourself happy. Emotion is a good skin care product, isn't it? Everyone knows how to put on a natural makeup. You don't need to deliberately design your hair style and dress, try to keep it clean and atmospheric.
Step 2 dress up
At the level of girls, it is recommended to wear a feminine temperament, preferably a skirt or sweater, which is closer to girls who satisfy boys' hearts. The standard is neat and comfortable, low-key and warm colors are the best, and the design scheme is high-end and atmospheric. You can also spray a proper amount of eau de toilette, just a little lighter, leaving a pleasant impression.
Talk about some light topics and discuss dating skills: When looking for a topic to chat, it is best to discuss some familiar light topics, such as talking about movies, books and websites. It is best to master the works of the times and have your own opinions. If you have parents to accompany you, you will bow and smile and be as polite as possible. At the same time, they need to say emotionally: "Hello uncle! Hello, big sister! " Wait for polite words.
What do rural blind dates talk about? 2. What are the processes of rural blind date?
Matchmaker: Rural, with an average age of about 20 years old. If you don't go to school, there will be "matchmakers" to "match the media". "Matchmaking" means that the "matchmaker" thinks that both men and women are very suitable for each other after a preliminary understanding of their situation, and the "matchmaker" will introduce each other's personal personality, date of birth, family conditions and other advantages.
Look at people's households: According to the introduction of the "matchmaker", both men and women think it is appropriate, and the woman will go to the man's house to "look at people's households". In the traditional marriage custom culture in rural areas, "looking at people" is a bit like blind date now. Generally speaking, "look at people" should choose an auspicious day as the official "look at people" day according to the birthdays of both men and women.
Engagement: After "meeting people", if both men and women have no opinions, the birthday can be tolerated. If both parents and relatives have no opinions, the "matchmaker" will testify and formally confirm the "engagement".
The date of engagement should also be chosen according to the date of birth of both men and women. On the day of "engagement", the man will also be hospitable. When the woman goes home, the man will also give her family red envelopes and gifts, and her relatives will also have red envelopes and gifts.
See the date of marriage: after the formal "engagement" is confirmed, after a period of understanding, the man will ask the woman to set a good day to get married. Under normal circumstances, the "see date" is put forward by the man on his own initiative. The man will invite someone or someone who knows the wedding date better to choose an auspicious day according to the birth dates of both men and women. After choosing, write the happy event on red paper, and the "matchmaker" will give the gift to the woman. If the woman has no objection, the "matchmaker" will officially tell the man that after the date is fixed, the families of both sides will start preparing for the marriage.
Marriage: Families of married men and women in rural areas will hold a three-day banquet, which is very lively. On the first day, the people closest to you will come. The next day is "Zhengjiu". In the morning, the woman is the "main seat" and the man is the "main seat" at noon the next day. The "main seat" of "Zhengjiu" is the most lively time for the wedding.
On the wedding day, accompanied by relatives and friends, the man will bring a big gift to the woman's house to marry the bride, and the woman will bring a dowry and be escorted to the man's house by the closest relatives. Not far from the virgin's house, the man will arrange relatives to lead the bride into the new house. This process is commonly known as "seeing off the bride" and "getting relatives".
On the third day of the banquet, after breakfast, a ceremony of "thanking the media" will be held to thank the "matchmaker" for matchmaking and forming a formal family, and then the bride will take the groom back to her mother's house and shout "back to the door". On the third day of the banquet, the dinner ended, the wedding banquet ended when the guests left, and the marriage and family life of the bride and groom officially began.
What are the basic steps of blind date?
1, propose
Now, proposing marriage is engagement. At the end of the day, the two were formally engaged. Unless there are special circumstances, generally neither party can violate or dissolve the engagement. If the engagement is dissolved, the party who offered should bear the responsibility. On the day of marriage proposal. The woman prepares food and gifts for the visitors and waits for the man to come to the door, while the man's house should be dressed neatly and go to the woman's house with gifts and red envelopes. At this time, the two families had the opportunity to meet formally. In order to show sincerity, the man gave the woman a certain amount of money, well, a red envelope, amounting to 1000 yuan.
The two families agreed on specific matters, and then the man's family got home before lunch, and the bride went back with them. There are also places where the man's family is engaged outside. At this time, the bride will automatically stay, and the family will leave for home when the time is almost up. After the engagement, the man's parents will send the bride price to the woman's house, and the woman will decide how much to keep.
Step 2 get married
The wedding day is a busy day, and both families have to get up early to prepare. The bride freshens up, the groom cooks jiaozi and eats jiaozi at home, and then drives to pick up the bride. Pickup came to the woman's door and called. Opening the door is not to ask a few questions. Answer well or stuff a red envelope, and you can enter the room with the bride. The wedding car didn't look back all the way, and then around the village where the groom lived, he told everyone about his happy family. Then get off at the groom's house, go into the house to worship ancestors and eat half-baked jiaozi.
3. Turn your back to the door
Go back to the door on the second or third day of marriage, some are picked up by family members, and some are picked up by the bride and groom. At this time, the woman's family should be prepared to entertain guests. If there is no treat before marriage, there will be a big fight when she returns home. The groom needs to accompany the wine and find someone else to drive, or they can go back to their parents' home directly by car, instead of staying at their parents' home for the night, and go home before dinner. These are the processes from blind date to marriage in rural areas.
What do rural blind dates talk about? Boys blind date 3 matters needing attention.
First of all, etiquette and dress.
The first impression is very important, that is, as the saying goes, "feel, feel or call." Especially blind date is the first time to meet, so it is very important to leave a good impression. Dress neatly and generously on the clothes table, and don't need to be engraved on the clothes, just be generous and decent. Make-up only needs simple light makeup, and the hairstyle can avoid being too fancy, which is easy to leave an unreliable image for the other party.
Second, get to know each other in advance. Make a plan and prepare a topic.
Before dating, get to know each other as much as possible, plan the meeting place according to each other's preferences, give each other some reference directions, and ask each other's opinions more, which will leave a feeling of being valued in each other's hearts. In the process of blind date, Guan can properly prepare topics according to each other's preferences to avoid the embarrassing situation that leads to silence in the process of blind date again.
Third, carefully prepare the meeting ceremony.
No matter who it is, people of all ages like the surprise at the moment they receive gifts. You can prepare a meeting gift for each other. It doesn't need to be too expensive The main thing is to let the other person feel your heart. However, giving gifts to each other is not blind. When choosing gifts, you can give some simple but fashionable gifts, such as some trinkets: key chains, brooches, etc.
Fourth, arrive at the meeting place in advance.
When dating, it is best to wait for the other party half an hour earlier than the appointed time, especially for men. Don't let the lady wait for you, or she will think that you don't pay enough attention to her and leave a bad impression on the other party. Arriving at the meeting place in advance will give the other party a sense of importance and show a gentleman's demeanor as a man.
Five, pay attention to manners
In the process of blind date, don't ask the other person's salary at the beginning, and talk about a few personal topics. Don't hesitate when chatting with each other. Just chat naturally like friends. You can praise each other appropriately and talk to each other about work, knowledge, hobbies and so on.
Leave a very comfortable feeling for each other. Remember to express your preferences when asking girls, so that girls can know you better. Don't talk big, self-confidence is a good thing, don't be arrogant, show your true self. Be modest in doing B, don't cater to each other deliberately, don't interrupt each other's speech at will, and take care of each other's feelings in words and actions.
6. Send the girl home after the blind date.
After the blind date, you can ask the other person's residence, show your gentlemanly demeanor and send the other person home. This will not only leave a good impression on the other party, but also on her relatives and friends. Whether this blind date is successful or not, whether the other person is your favorite or not, as a man, you should be a gentleman and send her safely to her destination.