Si Tong
A stable life, this concept sounds beautiful. Find a stable job, have a stable lover and a stable income-everything in life seems to be guaranteed. The days passed repeatedly without waves, and there was no struggle with the world.
However, are people who choose a stable life really happy? Is it really what you want to live a well-behaved life from nine to five every day? Do you succumb to life in order to earn money to support your family, or do you really love this life?
For a moment, TALKS once gave a speech, "Why is an adventurous life more worth looking forward to?"
The speaker's name is Shao, and everyone who likes her calls her Zhu, a Beijing girl. I graduated from the School of Journalism and Communication of Wuhan University at the age of 32.
She wears several hats-director, vlogger, photographer and self-media person. She has no boss, no office and no fixed office hours, but she has achieved financial freedom and time freedom.
As the host of vice China, he hosted a large-scale documentary "The House of the Future" to discuss the future human lifestyle with people all over the world. And became the first batch of Vlogger in China, with more than 4 million fans on each platform.
After graduation, she didn't go to TV and radio stations like her classmates, and lived a nine-to-five life. She said, "I know that's not for me."
After graduation, she spent every day on YouTube, taught herself editing and photography, managed her personal network, and obtained a master's degree from Manchester University.
After eight years in Britain, I founded a wedding company and photographed hundreds of weddings of different races, cultures, religions and skin colors in London.
30 years old is her best age-doing what she likes, not limited by time and place, living a rich life and having a warm home in her favorite alley. She lives in a state that everyone yearns for.
"The freer you live, the better your content looks, the more viewers you have, and the freer your finances." ? -Shao
Freedom is a state that everyone yearns for. Bamboo dared to break the conventional adventurous spirit and helped her realize her freedom.
But many people gave up the right to take risks early and were dragged away by life. The poetry and distance in their hearts eventually lost to the ease of the moment, living in the shell of life and unable to obtain real freedom.
The life I imagined at first turned into survival.
Wang Anshi said in the Travel Notes of Baochan Mountain:
"The strangeness and strangeness of the world, and the extraordinary opinions often lie in the danger and distance, and people are scarce, so those who have a will cannot come."
Others have gone the best way, so you should find your own way.
There is only one life, and after that, it's gone. Why not give yourself a chance to take risks, do what you really want to do and see different scenery?
"What others want to do is not necessarily what I want to do. The mainstream values that others believe in are not necessarily what I want to believe in. "
? -Shao
Since childhood, our life has always been accompanied by the guidance of others. Whether you choose a job or a partner, whether you choose a car or a house or a workplace, whether you go to Beishangguang or Line 23, someone will always give you "guidance".
"The competition between Beishangguang and Guangzhou is so fierce that it is too hard! Who knows when I can overcome it. " Your rent in Beishangguang is enough for you to go home and buy a suite. "
If you choose to go to a 23-tier city, some people say that "young people just want to go to a big city, and now they want to be comfortable, and they will regret it when they get old."
When applying for a university major, someone said, "If you study medicine well, you will be stable in the future, and doctors will have a good social status. It is an iron rice bowl, which is very good for a girl. "
But when I get to college, I always have an impulse to escape from class when I look at obscure technical terms and anatomical maps of various organs and tissues.
Look, no matter what you do, someone will analyze the pros and cons for you in the name of goodwill and as someone who has experienced it. It seems that what they say is the best choice in your life.
However, our life is our own experience, and only we know what we want.
Life is an unknown journey. You never know what you will meet, what scenery you will see, your harvest and ending, until you walk in the direction you want to go.
Everyone's life needs a little adventurous spirit to do what they want to do, not what others or circumstances urge you to do.
If you define life too early, what's the point of seeing the end of life at a glance?
Other people's advice often comes from their own experience and may not be applicable to you. After all, the life of others is not necessarily the life you want.
"The essence of work is to sell your time. And building a better personal business model is to cast a way for a person to sell time. " ?
"As soon as you find your own business value, you can get close to financial freedom and time freedom as soon as possible. And obtaining these two freedoms requires a certain spirit of adventure. "
The so-called adventure, not regardless, no direction. Ask yourself carefully, what are you suitable for and what do you like?
Only when people do what they like can they get real happiness.
After finding the direction, give yourself a goal. With a goal, you will have a sense of looking for opportunities, and your eyes will be more focused on relevant information. The greater your chances of success.
When I was a child, everyone had a dream of going to the end of the world with a sword, but some dreams were crushed into pieces by time.
Some people are hammered by life a few times in the middle, so they stop moving forward and shrink back; Some people go into darkness and lose the courage to look for light.
Life gives us the opportunity to look for the key to the door of light from the darkness, but without the courage to find the key, how can we step into that door? If you dare not venture to find your own way in the dark, how can you find a direct way to your goal?
The premise of "failure is the mother of success" is that after failure, you can sum up experience, think about strategies and prepare for the next comeback.
"There is nothing safe in the world."
No matter what kind of life, there are uncertainties. The so-called "stability" is mostly the conclusion drawn by people who have not experienced it in depth.
If you listen to the word "stability", you will stop exploring more exciting places in the world, and in the end you will just repeat the path taken by others.
In that case, why not take the initiative and be brave to do what you really want to do?
(Image source Weibo)
"Before Ma Yun started his business, he was an English teacher at Hangzhou Institute of Electronic Technology-this profession was generally described as' stable' by the society. But later, he resolutely left this iron rice bowl and founded "Alibaba", and experienced various difficulties and obstacles on the road to starting a business.
Nowadays, Taobao's double eleven breaks 1000 billion in one minute and1000 billion in one hour, which surprises many people and makes many enterprises lag behind. 」
Imagine, if he had kept the stable job of "teacher" all his life, there would be no legend of Alibaba today, and China would have lost a representative enterprise and business model. It is precisely because he dared to do things for others, dare to jump out of the ordinary and dare to take risks that he created today's legend.
May you and I both have an adventurous soul and do something valuable for the life we want.
Images from: Weibo, PEXELS, Weibo: @ Hello _ Bamboo.