I read it and said, "put the bride's name first, because today is the bride's wedding, not her wine."
The groom is from Nanjing thousands of miles away from us. Two companions and a relative accompanied him. After the ceremony, I happened to sit at the same table with the man and had a banquet. Thinking about what happened during the day, I told them that I would get a good answer or understanding. However, the man said, "In Nanjing, whether the man holds wine or the woman holds wine, the groom's name comes first."
I think this is not necessarily the true story of Nanjing, but perhaps the distortion of modern people. Besides, what he said may not be the whole of Nanjing, but it may be a bluff.
So, I don't think this statement is credible, but I just don't answer. I want my friends to have a wedding. If we argue endlessly here, which affects the mood of the newcomers and guests and the atmosphere that the host expects to achieve, it is our fault and our ignorance. But I still insist on "do as the Romans do" in my heart, which is a matter of course.
In our hometown, no matter whether a son or a daughter is married, whoever holds a banquet will put the child's name in front of the invitation. I think this is the theme of the wedding-for whom, for whom. This is what the host told the guests.
Later, I was the first to propose a toast to the couple, and the groom showed no manners and hospitality, as if he didn't feel anything and looked indifferent. I think a groom should be the youngest, not the oldest, when he comes to the woman's house, at today's banquet. He should obey Nuo Nuo with respect, courtesy, gentleness and humility. This is a big root, no matter what big money or noble family. Moreover, he must not have any "angry" behavior. He forgot the beautiful scenery of Mount Tai. Taishan Taishui is the wedding official married by the newly-married wife. He also forgot that he had a real wedding ceremony in Nanjing and could do whatever he wanted. The bride's relatives will not go to Nanjing to interfere.
When I went to the towns and villages in the county, I felt the unparalleled enthusiasm of the people in the towns and villages. Whether on business or personally, I felt that they paid more attention to etiquette. In big cities, this feeling is gone. On the contrary, the bigger the city, the less human it is. Dear readers, you can carefully understand and observe this subtle change in human feelings.
Shall we let hundreds of guests inherit our local customs, or accept the customs of other places? Should the groom and his three companions do as the Romans do, or carry forward the customs of their hometown? 2007.5.9