1, entrust the media
When the man learned that there was a girl in a certain family, he asked the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's family. The Book of Rites says: "Men and women can't get married if they don't pay without money." It can be seen that the matchmaker plays a role in marriage.
Step 2 look at people
The man disguised himself and was instructed by the matchmaker to go to the woman's house to inquire about the girl's appearance and posture.
Step 3 look at others
After unannounced visits and inquiries, the woman thought she could be a matchmaker, and her parents went to the man's house another day to see his character, family property, behavior and so on.
4, eight characters
After the man proposes, the matchmaker is asked to ask the woman's name and date of birth to prepare for the wedding ceremony, which is the second ceremony in the "six ceremonies" of ancient marriage. It is very important for the ancients to calculate the birth dates of men and women in one place, which not only affects the happiness of husband and wife, but also affects the happiness of the whole family. If the fortune teller says that he has made a big taboo, then this marriage will be annulled. Huzhou's eight characters, if not urged, the man's family will send the man's eight characters to the woman's family another day; The woman's family should also be eight-character. If they marry, the woman will ask the matchmaker to inform the man's family. If not, both parties will reject the position.
Step 5 get engaged
Also known as "looking for red", if both men and women can't get along, they agree to get engaged on an auspicious day. At that time, both parties will write their birthdays, hours, years and generations on a red sticker and put them in a red envelope to prepare some engagement gifts for the matchmaker to send. The man asked the matchmaker to give the woman gifts, gold and silver jewelry, clothes, cakes and fruits on a certain day. At the same time, I sent a "post-worship box" with a red single post and a red and green origami. The word "Fu" is written on the red origami, and the names of both parents are signed at the end of the first page. The word "Ji" is written on the green folding post, and the name of Zhike (matchmaker) is signed at the end of the first page. The woman also wrote the names of her parents and matchmaker in the same format on the post. On that day, both men and women will give a banquet for their uncles, uncles and brothers-in-law, which is called "inviting wine".
Step 6 communicate
Some time after the engagement, the man's family chooses a "good day" to get married and informs the woman's family. This is called "communication". If the woman's family agrees, the uncle and uncle, accompanied by the matchmaker, will prepare fish and wine and send them to the woman's family and send a "good day" post. The woman's family also invited my uncle and uncle to the man's house to meet guests, hold a banquet to entertain the man and give gifts. Male family banquets, commonly known as "social wine". After drinking letters and telegrams, the two sides are ready to get married. Relatives of women need to invite girls to their homes, usually accompanied by the girl's mother or sister-in-law, commonly known as "Yi".
7. Headboard
Before marriage, the groom's haircut and the bride's grooming are both called "head plate", and the man goes to the woman's house to propose marriage, which is called "head plate". The average person should prepare seven clothes, that is, the bride's seven clothes from light clothes to cotton-padded clothes. Yin Fujia wants to send engagement money and "four gold and four silver" (Jin Ruyi, gold ingot hairpin, gold earrings, gold ring; Silver heart, silver bracelet, silver ruyi, silver flat hairpin), and by two "betting" peers.
8. Open-line marriage
After the woman receives the last offer, her uncle will send the dowry to the man's house. The man displayed all the dowry in the hall for relatives and friends to watch. This is called "bright marriage". On that day, the man will hold a banquet to entertain the matchmaker and say "thank the matchmaker" or "wait for the matchmaker". Go to bed. A few days before the wedding, choose a good day in a new bed. Spread the bedding and sheets, then spread the dragon and phoenix quilt, and sprinkle all kinds of happy fruits on the bedding, such as peanuts, red dates, longan and lotus seeds. In other words, the couple will have a baby early.
9. get married
In China, the choice of wedding date used to be very particular, and now it is also very particular. Everyone seems to choose a good day when they get married, so the wedding ceremony is also particular. The wedding ceremony means that the groom, accompanied by the matchmaker, the bride and uncle, uncle and best man, prepares a sedan chair and a band to go to the woman's house to get married. Number of people should be in pairs. When approaching the woman's home, you should set off firecrackers twice to inform her home, commonly known as "communication cannon". My mother-in-law is very friendly to my uncles. The sedan chair stops in the main room, and the hostess entertains the wedding guests with refreshments, which is called "sitting on tea".
The drummer played a makeup song. Cosmetic wine is kept in the bride's room (from the man's house). At that time, my aunt (uncle) twisted the hair off the girl's face with flower thread and goose egg powder. This is called "smooth", which means that the girl's period is over. During the make-up, parents went into the room to visit their daughter. Girls should thank them with tears, and parents should give parting words. The bride, wearing a pink eyebrow and a red scarf, was carried into the sedan chair by her uncle or uncle. The gun was fired and the sedan chair was hit, led by "Uncle Deng", and the gong rang. When the sedan chair approached the man's house, the man's house set off firecrackers to welcome him. In fact, cars are used instead of sedan chairs now, and then you will wear a wedding dress when you get married.
10, meeting the bride
The climax of the wedding is to pay homage to the bride, held in the main hall or the main room. There is a pink wedding invitation hanging in the main hall, with extra-large double happiness written on gold paper, congratulations on both sides and a square table in the middle, dragons, phoenixes, candles and various wedding gift boxes. The master of ceremonies presided over the ceremony, the suona played, the bride and groom worshipped heaven and earth, the high hall, and three couples on the red carpet. After the ceremony, the suona played the bridal chamber song, and the bride and groom tied one end of the scarlet silk (tied into a colored ball in the middle) in tandem and entered the bridal chamber. Then, the guests enter the wedding reception. Commonly known as "eat good Japanese wine", it is called "Heyi" to send benefits every day. It should be registered in the personal notebook, and the words "Yan Yanqing" should be written in the notebook.
1 1, disturbing the new house
It's usually done by candlelight. Now, choose a favorite boy among the guests, and the bride will take peanuts, red dates, red eggs and two red sugar cane from the bride's tong (that is, the toilet) and let him pee in the tong. The bride will beg for help. Then a new house was built, and the lake custom was "big and small for three days", thinking that the more trouble it made, the bigger it became. Generally speaking, the ceremony of "spreading accounts" is presided over by the wedding mother. While singing the ballad, she took out red dates, peanuts, golden valleys and silver coins from the plate and scattered them all over the floor.
12, Three Dynasties Federal Gate
On the second day of their marriage, the bride's parents visited the groom's house and said "watching the court (dreaming)", while the man's house held "watching the court and drinking". The groom greets his parents-in-law. On the fourth or sixth day, accompanied by the groom, the bride goes back to her parents' home, which is called "going back to her parents' home".
2. How much is the wedding gift in Huzhou?
1. When will the man pay the dowry?
Bride price, also called bride price and lottery in some places, has been a marriage custom in China for thousands of years. According to this custom, if a man wants to marry a wife, he must pay a bride price or a bride price to her home. At present, in the vast rural areas of China, the phenomenon of paying bride price for marriage is still relatively common. It doesn't matter how much you pay, it's just a gift. It's appropriate for the woman's parents to be satisfied and the man's parents to accept it. You can give it through the matchmaker. Generally, it refers to the property paid by the man to the woman as a condition for the establishment of marriage relationship before marriage. Marriage is final after the bride accepts the bride price. In ancient China, the resulting marriage was called "engagement". A wife married in this way is called a "married woman". At present, in the vast rural areas of China, the phenomenon of paying bride price for marriage is still relatively common.
2. When should the bride price be given?
Generally, when they are engaged and both parents are present, they will choose to give it to the woman's parents. If you choose to get married without engagement, give it to you before marriage. As for how much bride price the man's family sends to the woman's family, it depends on the requirements of the woman's family and the economic situation of the man's family.
In fact, the bride price money is just a form, and we can't measure our feelings because of its quantity. So we can care about how appropriate the bride price is, not how appropriate it is. In fact, the amount of bride price is directly related to the daughter's parents and the man. Therefore, we also see many parents, because of exorbitant prices, leading to the original loving couple broke up in discord. In fact, the bride price is just a custom. Don't use it as a tool to make money.
3. What's the point of wedding bride price money?
One in a million: 1000 1
One wife in a million: 10007
Two families will send it together: 2.180,000.
Three families together: thirty-one thousand eight hundred
Safe and sound: forty-eight thousand
Shunfa: 68 thousand
Development: 88 thousand
Perfect:100000
Three catties and three liang: due to the difference between the old and new RMB, it is about RMB13.6-143,000 yuan.
Colorful green: colorful (10000 5 yuan); Hong Qian (1000 sheets 100 yuan); Green (600 50 yuan) * * *180,000.