Either out of the psychology of "seeking luck", "keeping up with the joneses" and "showing the daughter's status", or "using the bride price obtained from marrying a daughter for his son's wife", the "bottom line" of the amount of regional bride price has been pulled higher and higher, and the public can't help but fall into it and fall into an irrational vicious circle.
Mr. Cao, a wedding practitioner, is quite touched by this: "The problem of sky-high bride price in rural areas is more prominent. In recent years, with the development of urbanization, a large number of young women go to work in big cities and never return home. The decrease of marriageable women, the imbalance between men and women in rural areas, and the comparison between relatives and friends have all pushed up the' market' of bride price to a certain extent. "
In addition, in today's highly developed network information, the public is facing more and more temptations and comparisons.
"The misleading and misreading of individual media accounts makes young people who are addicted to it think that luxury cars and villas and annual income of one million are the normal state of life. Hundreds of thousands of bride price are divorced from the reality of life, but many ordinary women take it for granted. Of course, there are also reasons for individual families, and some ask for high bride price in order to leave money for their wives' younger brothers. " Mr. Cao said.
Ma Chunhua, director of the Research Office of Gender and Family Sociology of the Institute of Sociology of China Academy of Social Sciences, said that all kinds of merchants in the wedding market used people's psychology of "saving face" and keeping up with the competition to refine the wedding scale and ceremony packaging and conduct commercial induction, which also aggravated the chaos of bride price to some extent.
Trapped by practical obstacles, there are not a few "worried about marriage and family". I can't afford to get married. North drift Wang Yang (a pseudonym) calculated an account for the reporter. A house is the first condition for marriage. For wage earners, houses in Beishangguang can't afford much ... Of course, rich people will say something else.
The people of China have always pursued living and working in peace and contentment. Wedding rooms have become the standard of marriage in the eyes of some people, but the pressure of real estate has become a major obstacle for young people to choose marriage.
A survey of Beijing youth by China Youth Research Association shows that 64.62% of unmarried young people who are in love have no real estate; Among the reasons that affect the willingness to get married, 46% of young people choose "the economic cost of getting married is too high".