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Hatred and complaining are two different emotional words, and hatred is obviously deeper than complaining.

Hatred represents anger, and complaining represents blame.

In a family with many children, there will be competition. Generally speaking, parents will pay more attention to the oldest or youngest child, but may ignore the middle child. Therefore, the middle child wants the attention of the oldest child and the willfulness of the youngest child. The oldest child will compete more with the middle child, and the youngest child will be projected. I hope he can get the same willfulness.

There is another situation: in a patriarchal family, I am a woman, so I will be angry and disgusted with the same sex, but I will have a penis jealousy complex with the opposite sex.

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Complaining about my brother and hating my sister is an absolute requirement for my relatives, asking them to follow their own ideas, otherwise they will be dissatisfied.

This absolute requirement is a restrictive way of thinking, which will cause difficulties in getting along with others. Not only can emotions between relatives not flow, but they will also have contradictions and feel uncomfortable.

The solution lies in improving the ability of love. With the ability to love, you can understand the problem from the perspective of others. Even if my sister and brother are really wrong and don't agree with them, you can accept them and try to solve the problem from a constructive perspective.

If parents are not equal in a bowl of water between brothers and sisters, there is no need to feel inferior. If they love themselves first, they can gradually improve their ability to love and develop to accept their sisters and brothers. Love is a lubricant between relatives, which makes the process of solving problems smoother.

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