It is best for prospective couples not to participate, but the bride price of the United front will inevitably activate the most embarrassing side of feelings. Now two lovers are sitting at the dinner table, facing round after round of bargaining. How many feelings can withstand the temptation of money? So prospective couples can avoid such a scene. If it is really unavoidable, before the parents meet, they can inquire about their parents' meaning in private, communicate with each other and keep an attitude.
3. The man offered to give the bride price, and both sides should generously say the amount. Generally, the amount of bride price should be given according to the customs of both parties and the economic strength of the family. The man should take the initiative to raise the bride price and ask about the customs of both sides. Generally speaking, men respect women's customs. The bride's parents should not regard the bride price as an embarrassing thing because of their face, or say it implicitly or even casually. Your "meaning is good" is not the man's "meaning", there will be many communication obstacles in the middle, and there will be doubts in the future. Therefore, we should speak out generously and discuss an appropriate number without hurting our feelings.
4. Don't say, "I will do what others do." First of all, prospective couples should have a correct attitude and don't give examples of others casually. This is a way of speaking that makes my in-laws very disgusted. Everyone's family situation, growing environment, emotional investment and so on are different. It is a very naive behavior to transfer other people's examples to yourself. At this stage of talking about marriage, the couple must also understand each other's family situation. However, both parents may not be fully informed, so before talking about gift money, you can explain each other's situation to your parents and show your attitude. I believe they can understand you!