I only remember you in my memory.

3, some people, caught is caught, missed is missed, can only say that love is deep. There are too many forks in the journey of life, and turning around may be a lifetime. We knew each other at the last intersection, and we may be strangers at the next intersection …

4. Why don't you marry me? Do you think I'm too short to show my ass in a halter wedding dress?

If, one day, I become arrogant, please remember that no one has ever looked down on me.

Every bit of life is recorded in our minds, but love is in the deepest part of our hearts.

7, I heard that love is very simple, simple to the world washed away.

You know I don't need your kindness.

9. Many years later, I married my husband. Thank you for not marrying him.

10, all the people we once had a crush on, thank you, for your smile, who once flustered my years.

In fact, your friends are like girlfriends with you; But when you are away, you don't know what she will do.

12, I like making friends with women! ! ! High-end atmosphere on the grade, low-key luxury has connotation! !

13, you are good to me, I can't be bad to you!

14, used to be just a scam, which deeply hurt all of us.

15. If you love me, give me your hand, and I will hold you until the end of my life.

16, the biggest hope in this life is to accompany you to the old age, and you can't go anywhere when you are old.

17, cut love, in my way.

18, if your figure comes back to my mind one day, maybe I will go to you regardless.

19. Why don't you come when I wish you were here?

20, heavy makeup and light makeup are just to cover up the ruthless destruction of the years, and the surface is more glamorous.

Classic about missing: Why am I always single? Because you've always been single

1, sometimes, in fact, I already know the answer, and then I insist, but I hope you give me a surprise.

2. Why are you always single? Because you haven't met the person you think is meant to be. Why am I always single? Because you've been single.

3. Someone loves her. After many years, or even a lifetime, they still can't walk into her heart, but some people walk into her heart after a second, or even just a glance.

4. What's it like to like someone who doesn't like you? I can get full marks in your world, but I don't have an admission ticket.

I will remember that I loved you deeply. Seventeen years old, you should not say love easily.

I don't want you to remember my kindness. I just want you to remember me.

7. In my opinion, you are very happy, because you can choose to love me or not. But I can only choose to love you or love you more.

8, this is like a person, you will be shameless and entangled; Will also be full of self-esteem, sensitive and fragile.

9. I suddenly miss that person. She and I are better than friendship and less than love, but we lost to reality.

10, I was disappointed enough, so I let go.

1 1, everyone who has secretly loved it knows how rampant inferiority and self-love were.

12, I hate having a third person when I am with you, because it makes me feel uneasy, and I clearly feel that you are talking happily, but I am watching the light alone.

Why should I live like this? I must have been homeless in my last life.

1. I love you too much, but I can't say it in my heart.

2. If love just passes by, why do you love so deeply?

Sometimes caring too much about you is a kind of torture to yourself.

You're not me. How do I know I'm scared and upset? Your words are enough to make me give up.

5. It hurts to lose it. ◇

6. Time is like water. Happy times always pass by in a hurry. Those figures that have not been collected in time have already dissipated in the passage of time. Silent memories melt those smiles hidden in time into fingers and sighs, so that dancing thoughts bloom in the mulberry field where things have changed. Flowers bloom in the city with the fragrance of a fleeting season, so that thoughts gradually spread out in the passing time: some familiar scenes, deja vu pictures, faint sad melody,

7. We can never tell the missing love: beautiful because of regret, or beautiful because of regret.

I thought you were oxygen, but it turned out to be a farce.

9. Because I know that I am a rotten person, no one will love me and no one will care about me.

10. Finally, I am indifferent to your bright head.

1 1. Thank you for holding my hand for so long. It's time to let go.

12. The feeling of disappointment is probably that I sent you a good night before going to bed, waited for you for a long time, thought you were asleep, and woke up the next day without receiving a missed message.

13. There are mixed feelings about joys and sorrows now, but thousands of people have passed before they turn into bones and dust.

14. Even if my love is cheap, it's not a discount for you.

15. There is no distance between us.

16. Time can test your patience for my love more than your promise.

17. No wonder some people say that a bosom friend never regrets. It turns out that friends are really hard to find.

18. Waiting for a result without a deadline, just to see your sadness clearly.

19. I may still see your news, but it has nothing to do with me.

20. There is still a long way ahead, and you won't be gray-haired after all.

Why do some people pretend to be happy? Are people who pretend to be happy happy happy?

I can't believe he betrayed me! I trusted him very much, so I told him many things. For a while, I thought we could go on smoothly-until one day I saw his underwear on her balcony.

Betrayal between lovers happens almost every day, but the people you meet are always surprised. It is always hard for us to believe that the people we trust most hurt ourselves the most. However, Jennifer Freyd and Pamela Biehler, professors of psychology at the University of Oregon who have studied the traumas of betrayal for many years, may tell you that you think the other way-it is because you trust him that he is qualified to betray you.

Someone once mentioned a very important concept: when you choose to get involved in a relationship, you have to bear the risk of being hurt at the same time. In other words, people who can listen to you can also crush you.

After self-disclosure (that is, a person speaks his mind to others and shares his inner feelings and information with others), the other person is also willing to share his secrets, so the distance between the two people is gradually narrowing-in other words, part of the intimate relationship is to bear each other's secrets and bear each other's pain. Generally speaking, people with low sense of security have more secrets, but if they are willing to share these secrets with others, it shows that they trust this relationship-although trust may not always bring happiness.

I understand you, comfort betrayal.

When his booty friend sent me a message, I could hardly work all day. I don't know how she knows my mobile phone. I only know that my heart hurts. So I called him, and he said he was just playing with her, and then he said a lot about how much he really loved me. After some tossing, I actually chose to trust him! I'm mad at myself. I don't understand why I am so stupid. He has a mistress, and I have been kept in the dark. Isn't it obvious? Why should I trust him?

Jennifer and Pamela will tell you that it is not that you are stupid, but that you can't live without him. They found that many people can't face up to the betrayal of close lovers because those people are very important to them. An obvious truth can't be touched, not because you didn't see it, but because it takes a lot of courage to admit it-even if you admit it, you may lose more things.

According to the investment model of Ruth Boulte Caryl Rusbult, a professor of social and organizational psychology at the Free University of Amsterdam in the Netherlands, the more we invest in a relationship, the harder it is to leave it-even if you are not happy in it.

I can't see it because I want to maintain the status quo.

When you know that this relationship is very important to you, and any resistance and confrontation may terminate your relationship, you will choose to stay out of sight. Jennifer and Pamela call this phenomenon "betrayal blindness". They use invisibility instead of seeing and escape to solve it.

Sometimes, you may start to think about the price of choosing to leave: will my friends laugh at me? What about the baby? Will he get back at me? How can I start a person's life?

There are many phenomena in psychology to study blindness, the most famous of which is change blindness. A typical experiment is as follows: the researchers asked passers-by for directions, and a mover moved a gate between them in the middle, interrupting their conversation. The researchers took the opportunity to replace the person who asked for directions, but 50% people did not find that the person who asked for directions was replaced. In other words, these passers-by are most concerned about the map, but they ignore who is asking for directions.

Betraying blindness involves more motives than changing blindness. You ignore, forget and have no memory of his cheating because you know that if you admit it, you will take more negative risks: quarreling, breaking up or divorce. These consequences are really unbearable for you, so your brain helps you forget them together. In other words, this relationship is so important to you that you usually turn a blind eye to one thing: maintaining the status quo. He continued to ask how you were after work today, talking about children and upbringing, talking about what happened in the company and school, ignoring each other's precarious feelings. Without facing, there is no separation, which is the most typical betrayal and blindness.

Self-deception security

Some people obviously have exaggerated memories, but whenever we talk about their memories between marriage and divorce, can we not talk about it? Such words, I don't know, I forgot, everything is over, just like mushrooms after rain. People can't help wondering: does he really remember?

In the face of betrayal, we will turn a blind eye and selectively forget.

Perhaps, at the level of consciousness, this person really forgot. Jennifer and Pamela cited a lot of research in their book Betrayal: The most untouchable truth, and unanimously pointed out a stable phenomenon: people who have experienced domestic violence, sexual assault, betrayal and improper treatment will have more dissociation tendency when they grow up, and they will forget a lot of information related to negativity, trauma and emotion in many cognitive experiments-that's it.

Researchers speculate that these highly separated people may have lost their selective attention because of long-term isolation of those betrayed memories. They can't concentrate on one thing wholeheartedly, but they still maintain a good state of distraction-this makes them remember only the color of the sheets when they are caught in bed, but not what happened; When I was abused by my father, I only remembered the toys on the ground, not my father's expression.

When you really understand how miserable the past they faced and how their relatives and lovers betrayed each other, you will know that a person chooses a morbid lifestyle because they are unable to make other choices. Those injuries have exhausted their energy, and it is not easy to live well today. A senior psychological counselor once said.

Adaptation is a great ability. Because of this, some people turn a blind eye to oppression and betrayal, and turn a blind eye to abuse and aggression, but they are not happy. Jennifer and Pamela pointed out that only through the process of understanding, expressing and telling, through companionship and a stable sense of security, can we really face those past embarrassments. Maybe you will think this ending is bureaucratic, but coming out to face it is never a slogan or an action, but a process.

We always live in all kinds of repetitions, contradictions and cycles: we agreed to lose weight halfway, we agreed not to cry for him but grieved again and again, we agreed to go to bed early but lingered late at night. Even if we are aware of these shortcomings, it is still difficult to face and change-not to mention those who isolate betrayal from consciousness.