In ancient times, matchmakers were called "Iceman" or "Big Ice". Legend has it that Ling Huce of the Jin Dynasty dreamed that he was standing on the ice and talking to people on the ice. After waking up, the dreamer predicted that the dreamer said, "Ice is Yang, ice is Yin, and Yin and Yang are also things. The poem says:' A scholar is like a wife, ice is not calm', and marriage is also a matter. You are on the ice, and you talk to people on the ice. This is a matter of duplicity, and the media is also involved. You should get married as a matchmaker. " Later people call it "making ice" to give people a medium.
After the Han Dynasty, all marriages between men and women must be "parents' orders and matchmakers' words". If you "don't wait for your parents' orders and the words of the matchmaker, drill a hole to peep at each other and follow each other over the wall, then your parents and people are despicable" (Mencius Teng Wengong). The so-called "media" refers to the meaning of two surnames; This refers to considering the meaning of the second surname. Or "male media" and "female media". The matchmaker then becomes an indispensable middleman in the process of marriage between men and women. For example, the Yuefu folk song "Ancient Poetry is Jiao Zhongqing's Wife" says: "My mother is a white matchmaker, and only when I have this daughter can I return home. "There was a word' matchmaker' in the Ming and Qing Dynasties, which was also used to refer to the matchmaker. However, because the matchmaker has a glib tongue, her words are often not worthy of the name, so the word "matchmaker" is slightly derogatory. The so-called "three aunts and six grandmothers" in Ming Dow and Zong Yi's "Dropping out of Farming" usually refers to women who talk a lot but do nothing. For example, in Pu Songling's Strange Tales from a Lonely Studio. Shao nine niang ",obviously know that Shao nine niang has not yet had a matchmaker from her husband's family to her family, so she talked to Shao's wife. Seeing the girl, she was shocked and praised: "What a beautiful aunt! If you go to Zhaoyang Hospital, what about the Zhao sisters? " He asked again, "Who is the husband?" Shao's wife replied, "Not yet. "He said," If you are a lady, why are you worried about not having a prince as a guest? " Shao's wife sighed, "ministers dare not look; As long as a reading seed is a good ear. My family was guilty and unjust, so I changed my election. I don't know what my intention is. " He said, "Don't worry, madam. You are a beauty, and I don't know what your predecessor did. Please bear it. A big joke yesterday-Chai Jia Lang Junyun: Seeing color in a certain family, I would like to take my daughter as my career. This is not a hungry goose, is it? I have been scolded by the old woman! "A vivid image of a glib matchmaker.