In love, for couples who are about to enter the marriage hall, the most feared thing is to talk about bride price before marriage.

Because talking about bride price is related to the interests of two families, we can also see the man's humanity and the woman's three views from the side.

No matter for the man or the woman, when talking about the bride price, they don't want the other person to feel the material truth.

But reality is reality, and bride price is an obvious thing to be solved.

At this time, the couple who are very loving on weekdays have now transformed into good business negotiators.

Once you feel that you have been taken advantage of by the other party, you will have a quarrel, which will affect your feelings and your wedding.

For many couples in real cases, it is all for the bride price, which can't stand the test. The talks have completely collapsed and love is gone.

Let's talk about the truth that three experienced people have said on the issue of bride price.

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The woman gave a small dowry and wanted to add her name to the real estate license.

For 28-year-old Xiao Li, in order to marry his girlfriend Xiao Fang, who has been in love for many years.

It can be said that I bought a 100 square meter commercial house with my 200,000 savings from years of work and 700,000 yuan from my parents.

But when talking about the bride price with the woman's parents, Xiao Li and her parents were very uncomfortable.

Because it is acceptable to give a bride price of 80,000 yuan to his girlfriend Xiao Fang's parents, plus three gold 15000 yuan, it is acceptable to write his girlfriend's name on the real estate license.

However, in terms of house decoration costs, I just hope that the woman can pay 30,000 yuan for furniture, but the woman's parents actually politely refused, saying that Xiao Li and Xiao Fang would solve it.

This makes Xiao Li's parents feel that her in-laws are too boring.

On the issue of dowry, due to work reasons, Xiao Li's parents intend to let the woman marry a car.

But Xiao Fang's parents said that the traffic is very convenient now, so there is no need to buy a car. The price is too expensive and uneconomical, and the dowry is at most 50 thousand.

For Xiao Li's parents, it is increasingly felt that in-laws are really stingy.

Finally, when talking about the banquet, the woman thought it would be good to book 80 tables, the price would be halved and the gifts would be collected separately.

This makes Xiao Li's parents more and more angry. After the unhappy bride price talks, they said to Xiao Li, "The dowry given by the woman is too small. Why should her name be added to the real estate license? "

Later, Xiao Li quarreled with his girlfriend Xiao Fang on the other end of the phone, thinking that her in-laws were not interesting enough, that the bride price and dowry should be fair, and that the woman had to pay 30,000 yuan for house decoration and furniture to add her name.

And his girlfriend Xiao Fang said: "As we agreed, her name can't be added to the real estate license, and there is no guarantee after marriage, so you won't get married."

In this way, the love between Xiao Li and Xiao Fang collapsed in front of the bride price.

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The man's bride price is not sincere enough, and he feels that his married life is not guaranteed.

For 26-year-old Xiaoxue, she met her boyfriend Kobayashi, who is 1 year-old, during her college years.

I have been in love for seven years and I am going to get married this year.

But when it comes to bride price, Xiaoxue gradually realized that Kobayashi's family is not rich and his parents are working-class.

For the bride price, it can only be 60 thousand. In addition, the money for buying a house is from the man and the decoration is from the woman. The woman's name can be added to the real estate license.

For Xiaoxue's parents, this means that her in-laws are completely insincere.

Because according to the custom of my hometown, the bride price starts at 200,000, even if my in-laws give 60,000, the money for house decoration is also paid by the woman. If the neighbors hear this, where will the old face go?

Therefore, the man is required to give at least 200,000 yuan as a bride price, and he can get a car of about 6,543,800 yuan and a dowry of 6,543,800 yuan only by paying part of the decoration money.

But Kobayashi's parents still think the bride price is too expensive.

In the end, the original seven-year itch of love also became a phantom in front of the bride price and collapsed.

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I feel that talking about bride price is just like talking about business. The original clean love has gone bad.

After years of hard work in the workplace, Xiao Zhang, 30, finally plans to get along with his girlfriend Xiaoli and get married in the near future.

But when talking about the bride price, I feel that I am talking about business with the woman's parents.

The woman's parents often calculate and list the details of the wedding and miscellaneous expenses, expressing the hope that the man will have a big head and the woman will have a small head.

In addition, in terms of bride price, the woman's custom is 300,000, requiring boys to buy a house in full, fully decorated, and the real estate license is to add their daughter's name.

This makes Xiao Zhang's parents very depressed, but at the same time, they are a little anxious to let their in-laws talk about the dowry.

When the in-laws say, "Let's give the dowry to 88888. This number represents good luck and wealth, so there is no need for a dowry car, which is a safety hazard. "

Xiao Zhang's parents suddenly changed their faces and finally didn't talk about the bride price.

Xiao Zhang even thinks that in what era, when there were so many bride price and so few key dowry, he always put the wedding expenses on my head. What's the difference between this kind of negotiation and business?

Finally, the love between Xiao Zhang and Xiao Li also collapsed in front of the bride price.

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We should understand that the bride price is a bad habit, and it is just a traditional custom.

With the progress of marriage, we should cancel it, instead of haggling over money there, which will eventually lead to the collapse of the original sweet love.

I hope that through the above three cases, the man and the woman can cancel the bride price and dowry.

If we stick to traditional customs, then the two families should be fair and not take advantage of each other.

In this way, the issue of bride price will not affect their love and marriage.