Introduction: While the divorce rate of marriage is rising, the remarriage rate is also rising. However, for many people, remarriage is really a knife hanging over their heads. Some people become enemies with their ex-wives when they divorce, and want to meet better when they remarry. I didn't expect "the world is as black as a crow".

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After listening to a story, the protagonist of the story is a man who married for the second time. Call him Dacheng.

Dacheng is actually a good man. He is 42 years old and remarried for six years. There are many reasons for divorcing your ex-wife.

A big reason is that my ex-wife was not my type at that time, but my parents asked me to get married reluctantly, so there was no relationship. In addition, the two places have been separated for a long time and finally divorced.

Because Dacheng's economic conditions are relatively good, the law awarded the child to Dacheng.

After the divorce, I grew up in my early thirties, and I was not ugly. My job was better and my salary was higher.

So someone always introduced him to someone, and Dacheng also dated for two years, and he didn't encounter any temptation.

One of Dacheng's requirements for remarriage is that he can divorce, but he can't bring children. In addition, he needs to have another child with himself in the future. And most importantly, this person must be his favorite.

So in the winter when Dacheng was thirty-five years old, he met his remarried object-Cher. Dacheng was moved as soon as we met.

Cher is not very beautiful, but it can be taken out, very fashionable and amorous feelings.

According to the introducer, Xueer is 30 years old, working in a public institution and divorced, but her child is the man's, and she is the only child of the local people.

Hearing this, Dacheng fell in love with Cher, because he finally met a woman who wanted to marry.

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It wasn't long before they met, and within two months, they began to talk about marriage.

At this time, Cher made a request for the first time to buy a 300,000 car. Dacheng felt very reasonable and agreed without hesitation.

However, some friends around me began to remind Dacheng that this woman's performance was very good, and both sides were married for the second time. Why did she talk about marriage so soon, and even asked the man to send a valuable car before marriage?

But Dacheng thinks it doesn't matter. What kind of car does he need when he meets such a nice woman? So he immediately bought a car for Cher.

The car really works. They got married in less than three months, and the wedding was no big deal. After marriage, they gave all their values to Cher.

Because the house is restricted, they need more than 50% down payment to buy a house. At that time, they lived in a small two-bedroom house, and the house was relatively old.

Dacheng felt that although he gave the car, the wedding didn't happen and he didn't give Cher a bride price or anything. So in order to show his mind, he gave Cher millions of down payment accumulated over the years, telling her that it was the money for buying a house and giving it to her for safekeeping.

Cher gladly accepted it, not only that, but also accepted Dacheng's salary card.

However, the problem is coming. After Dacheng handed the salary card to Cher, Cher ignored the daily expenses at home, bought food, electricity, water and gas, lost the salary card and gave all her savings to Cher, so she had no money to pay all the expenses.

Then, for the first time, they quarreled over money. To her disappointment, reasonable Cher seems to have changed a little.

Finally, Cher returned the salary card to Dacheng, but Dacheng had to pay all the expenses at home every month. At the same time, Dacheng will give her an allowance of 3000 yuan every month, as well as year-end dividends and performance.

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As time goes by, Dacheng finds that Cher has more and more shortcomings, such as lying, laziness, disharmony with Dacheng's family, including her daughter, and failure to fulfill her promise to have children.

First of all, Cher is full of lies.

It is true to work in a public institution, but it is not a temporary job. It is the printing department under the unit, responsible for sending and receiving documents and copying documents. I didn't know this until I got married for two years.

Cher's salary is very low, but since she got married, she began to spend a lot of money and luxury goods.

At first Dacheng thought it was a job demand and thought it was her daily consumption level. A few years later, she realized that Cher had spent all the down payment on buying a house, and the down payment of one million was gone.

Secondly, Cher is lazy and has nothing to do at home.

I never take care of my family, and I never take care of my stepdaughter. Even if she was on a business trip, her stepdaughter refused to take her children to the hospital, let alone pick them up.

Later, at the constant request of Cher, Dacheng had to hire an aunt, so Cher was even the shopkeeper of cutting and didn't even wash his own clothes.

Finally, Cher doesn't want children after marriage, and she has a bad relationship with Dacheng's parents, stepdaughters and friends.

Cheng wanted to find someone she liked, and she had to have a child for the sake of family stability. Cher refused.

Moreover, under Cher's heroic performance, she quarreled with everyone with family and friendship. In particular, Cher used her stepdaughter as an excuse to say that she couldn't get along with her stepdaughter and asked Dacheng to send her children to her ex-wife.

However, at the beginning, his ex-wife divorced only because the husband and wife didn't do anything wrong, and the divorce was initiated by Dacheng, and his ex-wife didn't pester him too much. He just asked Dacheng to treat his children well for his own good.

Now I want to give my child to my ex-wife, and this face can't be pulled down.

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The journey now looks a little haggard, and I have not had a good relationship with my daughter in recent years. My daughter has grown up and is very sarcastic about her biological father and stepmother.

Dacheng has a bad relationship with his parents. In the first marriage, parents were more optimistic about their first daughter-in-law, but they were humiliated by divorce because Dacheng didn't like it.

The relationship between Dacheng and Cher is not much better. In recent years, colleagues at the same level in the past have either been promoted or bought a house, but Dacheng's family is not harmonious, and they often delay their work because of housework or stay put.

The down payment of the house that I have worked so hard for a long time has also been completely defeated by Cher, and I haven't saved a penny in recent years.

I don't know what to do now, but I feel very tired.

Divorce, I still have feelings for Cher. I have paid so much for this marriage, and there is no corresponding return in money and feelings. I'm really unwilling.

But don't divorce, Dacheng can foresee his miserable life in the future, and watch his colleagues and friends get better and better, but his life is really hopeless.

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However, from a bystander's point of view, Dacheng himself has a great responsibility in this marriage.

Let's talk about Cher's works first. How did she learn that she was a temporary worker after two years of marriage? Isn't this what you should have known the first time you met?

What was the real reason for Cher's last divorce? Why did you entrust all your money to this woman?

Then there is Cher's personality problem. Before getting married, her friends around Dacheng had the intention to remind Dacheng, but Dacheng, the "party", didn't pay attention or even care. Being cheated, I can only say "deserved it" to her.

In Dacheng's first marriage, I didn't care about my ex-wife because I had no feelings for her. The second marriage, because I like it, I gave everything to Cher, but I didn't expect him to shave his head and carry the burden.

Dude, that's it. You wronged me. After all, someone will.

Finally, Dacheng accidentally learned that his ex-wife was living well now, changed her job in the city and arranged her life in good order.

Moreover, the ex-wife learned that her daughter was not hated by her stepmother and was ready to sue the court to regain the custody of the child. My ex-wife's current boyfriend is a lawyer, and she is fully helping and supporting her. Perhaps, a woman who cherishes herself is the best life.

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For remarriage, the most important thing for both men and women is to get to know each other, not feelings, rather than being hot-headed and stepping into marriage quickly.

A person who has had a failed marriage must have a reason. In this case, before remarriage, he should at least know the reason, so as to know whether the reason for his previous divorce with the other party will become an obstacle to his next marriage.

In other words, whether you are remarried or married for the first time, you should first understand each other's personality, family, habits, personality and other comprehensive conditions, and then enter the marriage hall. Only by knowing clearly can we avoid marriage failure as much as possible.