She comes from a small rural area. After graduating from college, she chose a profound job search. She said she couldn't go back to her hometown, and her parents couldn't let a college graduate go back to his hometown. She said that her hometown is a small rural area with no development prospects. Since she wants to change her destiny by studying, she must choose a big city to develop, so as to change her destiny and let the next generation not live in the countryside.
But in fact, she has graduated for seven or eight years and is married and has children. However, she and her husband now live in Guangzhou, both working-class, and live in rented houses. Her husband is a person who travels a lot and is busy with performances. She is the kind of little editor who works overtime until two or three in the morning. To put it bluntly, she is a wage earner.
After her daughter was born, she was only brought back to the small countryside by her grandmother. Couples are so busy with three meals a day, how can they take care of a baby? I've always felt sorry for this kind of life. The sadness of big cities, the sadness of not being able to buy a house or a car, is always declining. If the landlord's rent goes up, you have to pay it, or you will be swept out of the house.
I talked to her many times and asked her if she could go to a second-tier city with stronger happiness and lower housing prices even if she didn't go back to her hometown. In this way, they can at least afford to buy a house and live and work in peace and contentment, and their daughter can stay with her and grow up with her, instead of making her a left-behind child separated from her parents.
But she said that second-tier cities don't have as many jobs as her husband does, but there are jobs in Guangzhou. But if they don't have this income, life will only be more difficult. They are not rich second generation, and they have no parents to chew. They must support their parents.
Even if they are in a bad situation now, they must stay in this big city, earn this "high salary" and do this job that they think is ok. They have no chance of losing their jobs. Once they lose their jobs, they lose their income and don't know how to spend the transition period of several months.
Moreover, they dare not change and accept the gap. They don't know what second-tier cities can give them, but they know what first-tier cities can give them. Subconsciously, they don't want to leave and refuse to accept this change!