When you are in love, you often mistake that temporary "enthusiasm" for understanding. In fact, it is just a kind of "enthusiasm" that is willing to forgive each other as much as possible, no matter what shortcomings they have. So after marriage, when two people return to sober reality from dreamy love, they just find that the other person and themselves are not completely harmonious. So they began to feel wrong, misjudged each other and felt sad. First, it is noisy, and finally it is inevitable to admit your point of view.
I remember reading a short story. A man and a woman are married. On their wedding day, their mother-in-law gave them a pair of old shoes. Everyone is confused. Mother-in-law said: Getting married is the same as wearing new shoes. It looks beautiful, but it doesn't fit your feet. It often makes my feet hurt, it is inconvenient to walk and cocoon. So be patient. After a long time, your pain will disappear, although the shoes were not new at that time.
I think this is the best metaphor.
Of course, there are shoes that fit you as soon as you buy them, and they don't hurt your feet at all. Couples who have been married for many years and have never quarreled are not without, but they are still in the minority.
Usually, it is common for couples to have conflicts and quarrels. Most couples, like newly bought shoes, are always inappropriate, which requires us to pay considerable "tolerance" to get to know each other carefully and understand each other in tolerance. People always have shortcomings. Since we love each other, we should be tolerant because of love, understand because of tolerance, forgive because of understanding, and reach a long-term state-
Achieving this state can almost be said to be the highest ideal state of married life.