Set the maximum number of tourists.
When you consider the list of guests to be invited to the wedding, the number is a key issue, because it will greatly affect your wedding expenses, the choice of venue, and even the overall atmosphere on the wedding day. First of all, don't pay too much attention to the specific figures, think about the approximate size of the guests and give yourself a general budget concept. Usually, whether the number is 30 or 300, the bride and groom usually find that they have to cut back on the initial number.
Then, let's set an upper limit for the number of guests. This number can be determined according to your wedding budget, the size of the wedding venue or any other factors that are important to you. Let all the people involved in determining the guest list list list their names in turn according to the importance of the invited guests. Then, check all the lists, cross out the duplicate guests, add the guests you think need to be invited, and then compare them with your established goals. If the number exceeds this upper limit, it means that the number of guests needs to be reduced. Finally, according to the actual situation, discuss with your family how many people need to be removed from each person's list and delete them from the end of the list.
Distribute the number of invitees in proportion.
In the past, basically all the wedding expenses were borne by the groom's family, so it was relatively simple to make a guest list, and the man's family would invite more guests. But now both male and female families are often willing to sponsor some expenses for their children's wedding, some of which may be the savings after you and your fiance work independently, so it is very troublesome to share the number of guests with each family and everyone, because both men and women have paid for it, so it is natural to invite more relatives and friends.
The simplest solution is to let the two families share the number of guests to be invited equally, or simply distribute them in proportion to the amount of money they pay. I hope this will not cause conflicts, but if someone is still dissatisfied, be prepared to stand firm and unshakable. If your parents or other parents insist on inviting more guests than the number allocated to them, consider asking them to pay extra. One thing is very important. Anyway, don't let the number of people exceed the actual capacity of the wedding venue and make your wedding seem crowded.
Use "team" to reduce the number of guests
You may find it simple and pleasant to invite relatives and friends to your wedding. But you are wrong. The process of deciding who to invite and who not to invite can be painful. Here's a little strategy. Brides will ask themselves, "Will this person be a part of my life in the next five years?" If not, then leave his position to someone who is willing.
Try not to snowball your association and fall into the dilemma of "If we invite the Dawei family, we must invite the Lili family". Indeed, some people naturally think of others. Please remember that you invited one of the couples, which may mean that you invited the representatives of this group. Excluding others will save you a lot of places.
If you need to continue to reduce the number of people, try to start with "groups", such as members of your book club or members of your future husband's football team. Also, don't impose responsibility on yourself. You must invite some people. For example, your father's colleague once invited your parents to his son's wedding. Do you have to invite him? In fact, if he receives your invitation, he may be very happy, but he may not be looking forward to your invitation.
Finally, remember, don't invite more guests just because you expect someone to be unable to come temporarily. You should invite as many people as you want. Otherwise, many people may come happily on the wedding day, but you can't arrange extra seats.
Invite the other half of the guests
Maybe you have thought of a way to limit the number of people, that is, only invite your friends to your wedding. If they are really single, that's fine. Just introduce each other at the wedding. But if he/she has a partner or lover, you need to include his/her partner in your guest list, even if you have never met him/her before. Not only that, you should also write the name of your friend's other half on the invitation as a sign of respect.
Make it clear whether to invite children.
Some newlyweds really want their lovely little nephews and nieces to attend their wedding, but some newlyweds think it will be troublesome to have several children at an elegant wedding. Everything depends on you. You know, children's meals will be much cheaper than adults', but children will obviously take up more space than adults. If we have to arrange a separate game area for them, it will take up more space. Therefore, excluding children from the guest list will be a quick and effective way to lay off employees. Although some parents may be unhappy, in fact, they shouldn't expect you to invite their children. All you have to do is treat everyone equally, without exception. In order to avoid confusion and misunderstanding, the invitation should be clearly written. If children are invited, the names of parents and children should be written on the invitation.
Invite colleagues in a targeted manner
You may spend more time with your colleagues than with your future partner, but does that mean you have to invite all of them to your wedding? Not necessarily. Start by inviting your boss. If he/she is excluded, he/she will probably feel neglected, which is not good for your future development. If you have an assistant or secretary, just invite them. However, from here on, things are a bit troublesome. If you belong to a regular team and have lunch together every day and deal with business together, then either you don't invite anyone or you have to invite everyone, because it will be embarrassing to miss anyone. If you are a department manager and a group of people work for you, then you have two choices, either invite all of them or invite only the senior staff in the team. Also remember that if a colleague is married, engaged, or has a stable partner, you must include his other half in the invitation. However, you don't need to invite single colleagues on a date, because colleagues are familiar with each other. Finally, please remember that most of your colleagues may not want to be invited. Even, they may be glad that you didn't invite him/her, because there is no need to prepare gifts or give up the time that you could have spent with your family all day. There is a clever way, if you are not going to invite your colleagues, then don't talk about your wedding plans in their ears all day.
Prepare the details of the invitation
When you decide on the guest list, it's time to consider how to choose the invitation. On the invitation, you should let the guests see the good news of your wedding at first sight, and also appropriately reflect the wonderful and warm of your wedding between the lines. Choose your favorite combination from hundreds of traditional or fashionable invitations, and use paper, ink, decoration and words in line with your overall wedding style. Invitations should be booked at least four months before the wedding, and the ideal time is six months before the wedding, because there is still one month to assemble and mail. If you want someone to write the envelope for you, you need to contact the copywriter when ordering the invitation.
Make personalized invitations
If you choose a specially customized invitation, please ask friends and relatives for advice, and ask them to recommend some places and printing houses for wholesale and retail stationery, and take time to make a field trip. You can also search the relevant information on the Internet to find some cheap and good choices, and the advertisements in the bride magazine will also be a good reference. Once the service providers are determined, it is necessary to know as much as possible about their reputation and qualifications.
Decorative nature of invitations
You can choose those creative invitations, such as simple square cardboard, slender folded cards, or exquisite original cards with tassels around them. Now some newcomers also like to choose beautiful paper, color printing, attached photos, and even set some three-dimensional things, such as ribbons, pearls and dried flowers. If your wedding is casual and natural, you can also choose some fashionable fonts.
Incidental products are another aspect of personality. If you have allocated seats for the guests, you may also need to attach a seat card to the invitation to indicate the specific location of the guests' seats. If the wedding is formal enough, you should even consider including hotels and local travel guides for foreign guests to visit.
Remember, pleasing accessories and decorations are good, but they require a lot of production costs and postage, so it is best to do what you can within your budget.
At this moment, you may be exerting endless creativity for your invitation. Here, let Bride tell you the essential elements of "fashion classics".
1. Of course, the most traditional invitation in China is a festive red invitation, but now it has gradually become popular in the elegant style of western style, with beige or ivory thick cotton paper and pure black ink.
2. Carving or hot melt printing is used to make the text appear embossed.
Prepare a reply card, write down the address and attach a stamped reply envelope.
Prepare a small map, indicating the specific location of the wedding venue and the driving and bus routes. It is best to print the attachments of these invitations in the same font and style, but if you want to use the ready-made small pictures provided by the wedding venue, it is ok.
A perfect wedding invitation
When you announce the good news of your wedding, the invitation should also include information such as who will officiate at the wedding (if this person is important to you), the degree of formality, and the date, time and place. There are some special information to point out. For example, you will only hold a dessert cake champagne party, which means there will be no banquet. Or you are going to have a wedding outdoors, so that guests can dress less formally. In practice, you will also find that traditional wording is the easiest to express all the meanings.
Order of invitations and business cards
Send invitations six weeks in advance, and send invitations to distant guests more than eight weeks in advance, so that they can arrange their itinerary. But first, you need to combine the invitations correctly. All parts of the text are facing up and arranged in the following order. Invitations, seat cards (optional), message cards and envelopes are arranged one by one from small to large (the small ones are placed on the top). First put these in a small unsealed envelope, then put them in a large envelope with the guest's address on the outside, and then seal them. Remember to number the back of the reply card and write down the name of the corresponding guest, so that if the guest forgets to sign in the reply, you can also know who replied to the card.
Details of the wedding envelope
When writing the name and address of the recipient, please pay attention to the following points:
1. Write a special title (such as Dr. XX, Mr. XX).
For foreign guests, you should write "sir" and "madam"
3. For unmarried couples living together, the branches write their names in alphabetical order.
4. For unmarried and separated couples, send invitations to two people respectively.
5. Write down the child's name only on the inner envelope. If the child's name is not specially written, it means that he/she has not been invited.
Finally, before mailing, go to the post office to weigh one of the invitations, and then calculate the postage required for all the invitations. Stick beautiful stamps and keep the envelopes clean and tidy.
Don't you have much money? So no problem, consider the following rescue strategies:
1. Stick to simple design invitations and remove all kinds of decorations.
2. Print other items that need to be printed in the same printing factory, such as thank-you cards, wedding posters, napkins and other paper products and invitations. In this way, the printing factory will give you a corresponding discount for the large quantity of printed matter you ordered.
Choose hot melt printing instead of engraving, because the final result of these two methods is the same, but the former is much cheaper and will not leave traces on the paper.
Don't hire someone to copy the invitation for you. You can choose a handwritten font from the computer font in the printing factory, or ask a friend who is good at calligraphy to copy it for you.
5. Check whether the date, time, place and Chinese characters are correct before writing or printing to avoid mistakes and waste of invitations.
Questions to ask the printing service provider.
Can you print a sample for us before we all deliver it for printing?
What if there is a typographical error?
Do you have a special transcriber? Or will it be printed in handwritten font on the computer?
If we print other printed materials needed for the wedding together with the invitation, how much discount will there be?
How soon can we get all the finished products? Can you speed up the progress (if necessary)?
Can you make extra designs on the invitation, such as printing our photos?
If the printed matter cannot be delivered on time, what is the compensation ratio?
Our wedding invitation
"My mother was very angry when she learned that I chose a banquet hall that could only accommodate 100 people. Because my mother is a high school teacher, she wants to invite all her colleagues and old classmates and so on. But we can't spare such a big space, we can only give her 33 places. Mom's solution: She and Dad held a party after our honeymoon, invited those who couldn't attend the wedding, and prepared DJ accompaniment and buffet. Everyone is very happy, especially me, because I actually have two wedding banquets! " -Beijing Linlin.
"My family attaches great importance to tradition, so my husband and I need to write all the invitations by hand. Fortunately, my cousin's handwriting is very good, so we asked him for help and saved a sum of money. We use parchment, roll it into small rolls after writing, and then tie a ribbon outside, which is very fashionable and special. " -Lena, Guangzhou