When she came back, she suddenly said to me, "Mu Zi, every time I see my friends walk into the marriage hall, I feel that getting married is actually quite good. At least someone is with you, so you won't be lonely wherever you go. "

I asked her, "What, you want to get married too?"

She paused for a moment and answered me, "To tell you the truth, I still want to. Sometimes when you eat alone, you can't finish eating if you order more, and you can't eat enough if you order less. " When I meet something good, I want to turn around and share it with people around me, only to find that there is no one behind me; Sometimes, I feel lonely and want to find someone to accompany me. "

Because one is too lonely, she wants to get married. I don't think she is the only one who has this idea. Maybe you will have the same experience around you.

Some people say that people are most likely to have the idea of getting married when they are lonely.

But I still hope that you will never fall in love because of loneliness, let alone choose marriage because of loneliness.

Because you can't imagine how much people who later married because of loneliness regretted it.

Qian Qian is the earliest female friend among my friends.

Two months after we graduated from college, she and her boyfriend got the license.

I remember asking her, "Why did you decide to get married so early?"

At that time, she said, "I'm not as strong as you. I can't accept being alone in a big city and I don't want to be a strong woman. I just want someone to accompany me so that I don't have to endure loneliness. "

When we met not long ago, she showed up with her children. A friend said that she admired her, having such a lovely child at such a young age.

As a result, she smiled and said, "What is there to envy? I almost regret it. Getting married so early has no freedom at all. I still envy you. "

When we were eating, she spoke to us again and said, "You don't know how painful it is to have a baby. Cry when you are nursing, and the sky will fall. I have never seen Beijing at three in the morning. I have watched it all night since I became a mother, not to mention Beijing at three in the morning. "

Someone asked her, "Where is your husband?"

She waved and said, "Don't mention him. He sleeps like a pig and works hard every day. I can't wake him up. "

Qian Qian's marriage, in the eyes of us outsiders, is actually quite happy. Although her husband can't help her with the children, he is obedient to her in other things.

Nevertheless, in the dead of night, Qian Qian will feel lonely in the circle of friends. She said: "I used to think that the best way to solve loneliness is to marry the person I love the most;"

Now I know that marriage is the most useless way to solve loneliness. "

I still remember a classic line from the movie "The Greatest Father in the World":

"I used to think that the worst thing in the world is to die alone; Actually, no, the worst thing is to die with those who make you feel lonely. "

A netizen commented on this line: "I used to be a teenager and didn't understand the true meaning of this sentence;" Later, at the urging of my parents, I got married.

I have experienced homelessness after quarreling at three o'clock in the morning, three meals a day and four seasons when two people stop talking, and I have experienced the deafness, aphasia and blindness of the other party when the children are noisy, and I dare not leave day and night when I want to divorce. At this time, I discovered that I had unconsciously become the person of this word. "

I thought that marriage could be a safe haven of life, and I started my marriage life with longing, but I never imagined that the final harvest might be doubly lonely and annoyed.

And this kind of annoyance and loneliness may be more obvious after having children.

The child suddenly cried in the middle of the night and slept soundly. You got up to change the baby's diaper and feed him. He turned over and went to sleep again.

No matter day or night, you are as busy as a bee, but as soon as he gets home, he becomes the shopkeeper of cutting. ...

Marriage like this, in fact, caught a lot in life, often found after marriage together is a kind of torture to each other.

Therefore, never get married because you are afraid of loneliness, because you never know what kind of loneliness awaits you after marriage.

As actor Faye Yu said, "Don't get married because you are lonely. Marriage can't save a lonely soul. " .

Neither age nor loneliness should be a reason for getting married step by step, nor can love. As the saying goes, "there is no age to get married, only love to get married."

"Why on earth do you want to get married?"

I believe that many people may not have figured it out at the moment of marriage.

In fact, marriage is a matter that has nothing to do with all secular factors such as age, money and loneliness.

If you marry not because of love, but because of loneliness, age or tasks entrusted by your parents, you will not only fail others, but also yourself.

It's too expensive to exchange your precious youth for a lesson.

The reason why a person really wants to get married is actually very simple.

There is no secular definition of rules and regulations, only two people together, will make you feel:

"Life is easy for the whole person, life is no longer barren, and there is no longer only rice, oil and salt left, and love is not secular enough to be trapped in fireworks."

Perhaps even the sharp moments such as contradictions and conflicts between you have become soft and vivid because of each other, and life has become interesting.

And the most important thing is: "it will make you believe that marrying him is marrying love, and he will."