A reader quarreled with her husband. My husband left a sentence "My mother said" and another sentence "Listen to my mother", leaving her speechless. She asked, "Why do you want to get married after listening to your mother? Come out and harm people. " The husband said, "My mother said I should find a wife earlier, so I did." This answer really makes people laugh and cry, but sadly, there are quite a few men who listen to their mothers, and marriage is no exception. Therefore, to deal with such a family, we must learn to generalize and find another way to achieve the expected results.
0 1 After two years of marriage, my mother-in-law never gave up and intervened in the wedding life everywhere. Reader Lin Han has a very difficult mother-in-law The husband belongs to a single-parent family. His parents divorced when he was very young. After that, his mother took him alone, and his father never heard from him again. It can be said that when Han Lin was in love, such a family was opposed by parents, relatives and friends. They think that single-parent families are different from normal families, and mothers who don't know the proper boundaries will definitely interfere with their sons' marriage life.
Therefore, Han Lin is well prepared, because her husband is really excellent. My husband graduated from a famous university, with high leisure income and good appearance, with a figure of 186cm. Attention is attractive. It is a bit biased to say that looks and academic qualifications. He is not only kind and gentle, but also in love, although there are great contradictions, he will still whisper and never have a cold war, which Han Lin appreciates very much.
Because boys don't care about others when they are angry, the taste of the cold war is really unpleasant, so the biggest requirement for her future love is not to have a cold war. In addition, her husband has a strong artistic talent and can play the violin, compose music and sing. It can be said that he is really excellent, except that he cares more about his mother's feelings and has no other shortcomings. Han Lin thinks she can stand her mother-in-law who has no bottom line in love. In fact, she really did it. She is facing the invasion of married mother-in-law's life, from what to eat for breakfast, how to match clothes, how to spend money and when to have children. In fact, only she knows that she is "duplicity". Her move gradually killed her mother-in-law's spirit.
The clever daughter-in-law is indifferent and helps her mother-in-law with "three meals a day". "Smart junior knows, in fact, elders will never beat the younger generation. Listen carefully and answer what they say. There is no need to argue. " Han Lin said so. In marriage, she actually goes her own way. For example, my mother-in-law felt that she didn't do it well in the morning, so she simply stopped doing it. When her mother-in-law said she was lazy, she promised to say she was lazy. The mother-in-law apologized immediately after complaining to her son. But later, she went her own way. Should she do it or not? Even if she did, she couldn't do it well. So in order to love her son, her mother-in-law can only be responsible for three meals a day. If she cooks for her son alone, she knows that he will save it for his wife, so she simply cooks it all.
Moreover, when her mother-in-law interfered with her income, she divided her normal income into two cards, showing only her income from one card. Occasionally, I cry until my mother-in-law is exhausted, and sometimes I even help the young couple to support the elderly. For example, Han Lin likes to eat takeout and drink milk tea, but every time she eats it, her mother-in-law says it's unhealthy, and she doesn't refute it. She agreed with her mother-in-law and explained that she was lazy and greedy and would never eat this time. Once or twice, my mother-in-law didn't bother to talk when she saw her eating takeout. As the saying goes, no matter what Han Lin does, no matter how many opinions her mother-in-law has on her, she smiles relatively. She approved, nodded, and repeatedly said yes, no matter how big the contradiction is, it can be solved. Someone will say, "Han Lin is not that stupid, is he?"
Is it? What happened? Now the mother-in-law is responsible for three meals a day at home, and the husband is responsible for washing the dishes. She doesn't worry about eating, drinking or spending money. My mother-in-law has been urging me to have children for two years. Every time Lin Han agrees: Yes, we must have children early. We are working hard. I have been procrastinating afterwards, feeling that I am still young and should postpone my goal. It can be seen that the debate is boring for a while, and it is really smart to achieve your goals in action. As the old saying goes, it is not easy to confuse. In marriage and family, it is not a debate field of truth, so there is no need to fight for right or wrong, and there is no need to judge whether to win or lose.
Especially the elderly, as they grow older, they know that they can't do what they want for their children, and there is no need to look for them when they are children. As long as you are kind, the atmosphere at home will be much happier. Han Lin's marriage is like this. Her husband also knows that she is superficial and behind her back. Sometimes, even if her mother speaks ill of Han Lin angrily, he can't help arguing. However, Han Lin grabbed her and urged, "just a few words. What can I do? " To tell the truth, mom is not easy either. Let her talk, say tired, say tired, and naturally stop talking. "
That's true. After the mother-in-law said it, she sometimes reflected and apologized: "Daughter-in-law, mother is also good for you. Don't be angry. " Han Lin smiled generously: "Mom, what are you talking about? I know you are very kind to me. Go ahead and treat me to hot pot. I have long wanted to eat that shop. " You see, Han Lin succeeded, even though her mother-in-law didn't really apologize or didn't want to go out for dinner. Therefore, the phrase "reach out and don't smile" is a magic weapon to defeat the enemy. Whether in society or in life, it depends on whether the user has extreme patience and a heart willing to play dumb.