For Zhangfan and Qi Mengyao, it's a pity that their relationship failed. Even in the future, they may never meet each other again. A miss is a lifetime. Maybe a lot of things are not so persistent and willful, and the ending is likely to be completely different.
Zhangfan and his girlfriend Ming Xi met on a blind date. They didn't expect the university to be in the same city, and it was an adjacent university. So there are many * * * topics in chatting. After all, the two schools are too close, and students from both schools will go to each other's schools to eat and play when there is no class.
Although they didn't know each other when they were at school, many places, famous students and teachers all had the same memories, so they became very familiar soon, and their work and family were very stable. So when they met for the second time, Zhangfan summoned up the courage to confess to Ming Xi, and the girl accepted it gladly.
This relationship lasted for four years, so the parents made an appointment to meet each other a few days ago, hoping to finalize the marriage of the two children.
Zhang Fan's family has two houses, both in their hometown not far from the provincial capital. One parents live, the other rents, and both of them work in the provincial capital. So they still want to buy a house in the provincial capital after marriage, but Zhangfan's parents couldn't come up with a sum of money in a short time before marriage, so they discussed renting a house in the provincial capital first and waiting for two years at most before buying a house. Ming Xi has no problem with this.
So I went to talk about bride price. At first, he said he wanted 200 thousand bride price. Later, after negotiation, I changed the bride price to 1.8 million yuan, plus 20,000 yuan in change. Secondly, I bought 66,000 yuan for the woman, who is responsible for the renovation of the new house and buying a car in the future.
Such conditions are not absolutely fair, but neither the man nor the woman suffers too much. After consultation, they immediately began to prepare for the wedding.
However, I didn't expect that a few days later, Zhangfan went to the prospective father-in-law's house to play, but the prospective mother-in-law chatted with Zhangfan for more than an hour. Ming Xi is listening, the central meaning is: add one more condition, that is, the house rented in Zhang Fan's hometown should be changed to Ming Xi's name.
Because the money that Zhangfan's parents will take in the future is full, the new house has nothing to do with Ming Xi. Although she will pay for the renovation, Ming Xi will get almost nothing in case of marriage change. So I hope to change my hometown to her name before marriage, which is also a sense of security.
However, Zhangfan thinks it is unnecessary for two reasons: First, when the house in his hometown is transferred, Qi Mengyao must have a transfer fee of 80,000 yuan; Second, when buying a new house in the future, Zhangfan also agreed to add Qi Mengyao's name, or even just write Qi Mengyao's name.
However, even if such a promise is made, the prospective parents-in-law will not do it, and even said to Zhangfan: "If you don't agree, you will postpone marriage, and if you agree, you will get married again."
Zhangfan listened to this one leng, looked at Ming Xi only to find himself completely standing in front of his parents, so he had to change his name and get married, and the future was completely uncertain in their eyes. So Zhangfan ran home in a rage and told these things to his parents.
Hearing this, my parents sighed and wanted to say something, but they didn't say it. The next day, they put the real estate license on Zhangfan's bedside table.
When Zhangfan saw this, he burst into tears at once. Zhangfan and his father have always had a bad temper. They often quarrel without saying two words. This time, however, my father compromised without saying a word. The house I live in now was saved by my parents for half my life, and the second house was left to them by my grandparents, so Zhangfan has mixed feelings.
After that, Zhangfan and Ming Xi chatted for a while. But Ming Xi was relieved by his parents. In any case, she didn't agree and had to transfer to another school to get married. So, as soon as she got excited, they quarreled for the first time. Finally, Ming Xi shouted, "But how can I marry you with peace of mind? But whether I will get married or not is up to you. "
Zhangfan was so angry that he didn't understand why the girl he loved for many years was so snobbish that he gave up, so he said angrily, "If you don't get married, don't get married, break up." Then came the long cold war.
I have to say that it is really a pity that the four-year relationship collapsed because of the house. After all, it can reach the point of talking about marriage, which shows that feelings have accumulated to a certain depth.
As for the matter itself, many people say that the Ming Xi family is greedy, and they feel safe in name, but they are inseparable. Bai Piao people have worked hard for a generation of houses, paying too much attention to immediate interests and neglecting their feelings. It is understandable that the man disagrees, and no one is stupid.
However, many people think that girls are right. From the girl's point of view, when people get married, they have to have children, earn money to support their families and be nannies. If there is a contradiction, the girl will almost leave home clean, so it is no problem to leave a guarantee for the future.
It seems reasonable, but I can't accept it, because it gives people a full sense of selfishness and a feeling of leaving it alone. I can't help but think of a sentence, "Being poor is not terrible. What is terrible is that my ideas are also poor."
It is true that although it is said that "he who has no long-term worries will have near worries", the woman's family cares nothing, only looks at the petty profits in front of her and puts aside feelings and marriage. It seems that it is not a loss, but it has wasted four years of youth for both men and women, more than the bride price of 200,000 to 300,000.
Even if the future of marriage is unpredictable, since you want to enter marriage, you should trust more, and there may be the possibility of leaving home clean in the future. However, at first, the woman gave little money. Why do you want the woman to take all the benefits, and the man needs to be patient everywhere?
In fact, after all, there are actually many good solutions to this matter of not breaking up. For example, it is also a good idea to buy a new house without waiting for the full payment for two years, and it is also a good idea for couples to repay their loans themselves. But two people and two families still face it in the most unacceptable way, and eventually everything is ruined.
It's really not easy to meet someone you like in the world, so once you meet them, you should cherish them, and this kind of cherish is mutual, because no one is born to owe anyone.
Men should have the responsibility and responsibility of men, and women should have the gentleness and compassion of women. What they are most afraid of is that the needle is pointed at the wheat, so no matter how appropriate the feelings are, they will eventually get stuck in the mud.