The local custom is that the groom does not go to marry the bride, but the bride comes to the groom's house by herself in the wedding car, and the groom takes the bride into the door from the car, commonly known as "waiting for relatives". It is said that in the local area, the groom will be whipped by everyone when he marries the bride. The marriage custom of beating the groom has a long history. This is to let the groom remember how difficult it is to marry a daughter-in-law, and also to let him know that he will hurt his daughter-in-law in the future.
Shanxi marriage custom
I. Beating the groom
In Qingxu, once the wedding procession returns, the groom will become the plaything object of classmates and friends. The groom is often dragged out of the wedding car by friends and performs various "programs". Holding the bride and kissing the bride are basic actions, which will require them to behave more excessively. If the groom is a little disobedient, his friends will hit him in the leg with all kinds of "weapons", including sticks and soles.
This kind of beating will last from the entrance of the community or the entrance of the village to the wedding room.
Second, drink.
In Taiyuan, tricks on the bride and groom usually run through the whole wedding reception. Whenever the bride and groom come to a table to make a toast, they will be asked to perform a program. If the performance is not successful, I will buy you a drink. After a few tables, the bride and groom were drunk. In order to prevent the bride and groom from getting drunk, many groomsmen pour out the wine in the bottle and replace it with water. Drinking is a custom in all parts of Shanxi.
Third, the boy presses the bed
In Luliang Liulin, Fangshan, Linxian and other places, there used to be the custom of boys pressing the wedding bed. Up to now, this custom has evolved into adult men playing on the wedding bed. Several adult men pushing and shoving on the wedding bed will inevitably meet the bride. If it is okay to get married in winter, if the wedding is held in summer, the situation can be imagined.
What's more, several adult men occupied the wedding bed all night and even collapsed it. These behaviors make the host and guest break up in discord.
Four, pepper package jiaozi.
Yicheng County in Linfen has the custom of giving the groom five flavors of jiaozi. There are spices such as pepper and capsicum in jiaozi. This custom was originally designed to test the groom's eating style. Later, it became a program to cheat the groom. Today, this custom has almost disappeared in villages near the county seat, but it still exists in remote villages.