First, propose.
After girls and boys of Tujia nationality in Qianjiang have a good impression on each other through muye love songs, the man will find an acquaintance who is eloquent and reliable to propose to the girls. This is our home. American parents attach great importance to this ceremony, because it is called "marriage by the bright media" to show their respect for this lady. For the first time, the matchmaker asked the bride to take an umbrella, rain or shine. Don't return the umbrella to the matchmaker when the matchmaker leaves, which shows that the matchmaker initially agrees to this marriage, otherwise the marriage will end without a T. Tujia girls will not get married, and outsiders are not allowed to joke with her casually or even sit on a bench with her. It shows that Tujia people value girls' chastity and virtue more than anything else.
Second, engagement.
Through the matchmaker's matchmaking, both men and women and their families agreed to hold a betrayal marriage. The man wants to buy expensive gifts, but the most important gift, a pig's leg, must be indispensable. The man will invite his elders to the woman's side and then set off firecrackers to show his excitement. At the same time, it is also the news of announcing marriage to people around you. The woman will also be warmly received, and the two sides will eat and drink together and chat with each other. Recognition means that the marriage between a man and a woman is officially confirmed.
Third, pay New Year greetings.
Even if the woman agrees to get married, she usually wins. I don't agree to get married that year. Because they also want the man to pay a New Year call. I hope that the man's visit in the New Year is not the woman's greed for money, but to test whether the man is generous and sincere to his daughter. Generally speaking, choose New Year's Day, so-called men and women. When paying attention to New Year's greetings, the man should ask the woman in advance whether to celebrate Xiongnu Year or Vegetarian Year. You also need to know the relatives of the woman so that you can prepare gifts according to the quantity. The main gift to celebrate the year of Xiongnu is to cut pork into long strips of the same size and put a small red circle in the middle of the strip, commonly known as sweet. Then, add traditional cars, cigarettes, alcohol and so on. Su's New Year greeting is to tie up noodles weighing about a catty neatly with red paper and attach other gifts. Which woman's relatives in the S family need gifts, and what kind of expensive gifts to give are exquisite, so there is no need to give them casually. Whether to worship Xiongnu or vegetarian year depends entirely on the woman's choice of family.
Fourth, prepare makeup.
After the wedding date is fixed, the woman will be busy preparing the dowry. Generally, dowry is a traditional fixed style, such as large and small cabinets, wardrobes, beds, cupboards and so on. Two things must be indispensable, that is, brazier and washstand. Probably because these two things are the most important daily necessities for girls after marriage. On the wedding day, the woman will put a seal on these two things as a reward for touching her husband. During this period, the man should also make relevant preparations, such as arranging a sedan chair, preparing a new house, and cutting and pasting the word Xi;
Fifth, the wedding banquet
According to the distance from the bride, the man will invite the band and Lifu to prepare sedan chairs, rope poles, gongs and drums, suona and so on. Pick up the bride at the bride's house on 12 or the day before the wedding. Under the guidance of the matchmaker, the S family had a ceremony officer. Before the bride gets on the sedan chair, her parents or mother put on the hijab. At the same time, it also teaches the bride to get married, honor her in-laws and love her husband and wife. It's called sending a towel and breaking up with her par.
Meeting with the church and burning Fu Zi at the same time. When the sedan chair comes in, it hangs outside the main hall. After some etiquette, the sedan chair was carried into the hall with the sound of gongs and drums and firecrackers. The bride was helped out of the sedan chair door by the bride, crossed the Qixian River in front of the sedan chair, and then arranged in the order of male left and female right. With the help of men and women, pay homage to the ancestors of heaven and earth and the parents of the groom, and send them to the bridal chamber after the ceremony. Welcoming the bride is the most important part of the wedding. Meeting the bride means that the relationship between husband and wife is formally established. Going to church is to pay homage to the families of elders and ancestors who died on earth. The man hopes to tell his grandparents by going to church that an important member has been added to his family, and the woman hopes to tell them by going to church that they will accept themselves. At the same time, meeting the church is also a memory, a memory of ancestors, and a hope to bless them. Visiting a shrine looks like a comedy, but it contains the traditional virtue of respecting the elderly left by the Chinese nation, which has certain educational significance.