Some people think that there is a big difference between before and after marriage, which is why many girls complain that their husbands are like two people before and after marriage. Trial marriage is to test whether two people are suitable for living together. People who grew up in two families have different living habits and ways. After living together for a period of time, they may get used to each other. Although they live together, they are not husband and wife. Burmese people regard trial marriage as a "cognitive stage" for young men and women, and it is not until several years later that both parents will consider letting their children get married. The local custom is that if a boy secretly loves a girl, he will tell his parents what he thinks, and their parents will go to the woman's house to "propose". The girl and the woman's parents have no opinion and agree to collect a symbolic "deposit" in the future, so the couple can live together.
After the trial marriage period, two people still want to be together before they talk about real marriage. We all know that Myanmar is a country that believes in Buddhism, and they bring the color of Buddhism into daily life. Friends who have traveled to Myanmar can often see various Buddhist buildings on the street, and Myanmar has a very strong Buddhist atmosphere. The three months from mid-April to mid-July are quite special and are the "settlement period" for Burmese monks. The so-called settlement period means that during this period, monks can only stay in the temple honestly, chanting scriptures and Buddha all day, and can't participate in any activities outside the temple. During the period of monks' settlement, Burmese people are not allowed to get married, so locals can only choose from mid-July to mid-April of the following year. According to local time, 10 is the shortest day and the longest night in a year.
Locals are used to getting married at this time, and weddings are full of Buddhist elements. On the wedding day, the newlyweds will be arranged to sit on mats with flowers, fruits, tobacco and palm leaves in front of them. These things, like dates, peanuts and longan placed on the wedding bed by our congress, not only have the intention of wishing the newlyweds a happy and harmonious life after marriage, but also imply that they will have a baby early. The wedding ceremonies in Myanmar usually invite menstruation, the bride, to preside over the ceremony, and all the guests present, including both parents, relatives and friends, should be respectful to her during the whole process. After a series of procedures, it symbolizes the complete success of the wedding. In some countries, a woman should change her husband's surname after marriage, such as Japan, which takes her maiden name before marriage and her husband's surname after marriage.
There is no such statement in Myanmar. Even after marriage, the bride has her own freedom. Not only will she keep her maiden name, but the dowry she brings will also be entirely owned by the bride. She has absolute control, which is also a kind of protection for women. If divorced in the future, the bride can take away her property. In this regard, marriage in Myanmar still plays a role in protecting women. Of course, we can't expect a couple to divorce. For the newlyweds, we are all blessed.