Every boy is looking forward to one day driving a colorful auspicious cloud to marry the bride of his dreams.
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Love on TV is beautiful, and things that are easy to cause contradictions are usually beautified, such as bride price. In reality, there should be a lot of love collapsed because of the bride price, so how much is the bride price appropriate?
A girl in my hometown asked for the auspicious number of 99 thousand, which represents a long time.
As a number, this number is really not much. After all, I am your family after I get married. I want to stay away from where I grew up, come to a strange family and adapt to a strange family. I can't always take care of my own parents. I want to take good care of your parents. Go back to your house and call home. Go back to my house and call my mother's house.
In reality, the money is neither too small nor too small. After graduating from college and starting to work (those who don't start a business, after all, there are a few people who start a business to earn money), the average monthly salary is 5,000 yuan (some people don't reach 5,000 yuan at all), and the total savings for six years are less than 90,000 yuan (excluding living expenses such as eating, drinking, having fun and getting together with members). China is generally a rural family with average family conditions. If you count the cost of marriage, this bride price is really stressful. Let's calculate the cost of marriage:
Engagement: 30,000 yuan (gifts for the woman, red envelopes, banquets for relatives and friends, etc.). ).
Bridal gift: 99,000 yuan.
Men's banquet: 30,000 yuan.
Down payment for buying a car: 50,000 yuan (about 654.38 million yuan for a car).
Down payment for buying a house: 200,000 yuan (usually the man is responsible, and the things already bought before marriage can be ignored).
Decoration of new house: 50,000 yuan (the price of simple decoration).
Total: 459,000-200,000 yuan = 259,000 yuan.
Here is only a large amount of money, not including wedding photos, wedding companies, rings, earrings, necklaces and other five dollars.
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There is also a girl who is a classmate. When she reaches the right age and meets the right heart, the bride price is only 39,000. She didn't ask the man to have a house, a car and a deposit, but she went for this man. I thought I would marry love, but after the engagement, the man ignored the girl's love, and even euphemistically said that we are all adults, so there is no need to contact each other every day, so grow up. I don't like sticky everyday.
In this regard, I just want to hehe, how can two people who have not contacted for ten and a half months ensure a happy married life? Contact between husband and wife is inevitable, and non-contact is the biggest problem. To make matters worse, the more virtuous and sensible a woman is, the more pushy a man is. Girls want to have a good talk with boys, solve problems and show their attitude: if this problem is not solved, there is no way to continue. As a result, all this seems unreasonable to boys and makes a mountain out of a molehill. The girl broke up when she couldn't bear it. Later, the man and his mother lobbied the woman to say that you should be sensible and stop sticking to me. He has work to do. In the end, the man's mother said, since you have decided to separate, you can't let my old man suffer. In other words, the 5000 yuan engaged to the girl should be returned to her.
Such a boy, such a family, fortunately not married. Later, I asked the girl again, and she said, I can't say so little in the future, but at least 100 thousand yuan as a bride price.
The man should not be stingy enough to think that the woman doesn't want your bride price or wants less, so you think that the other person is worthless, so you can trample on it at will and don't know how to cherish it.
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If you are a man, I hope you will spend as little money as possible when you get married, especially the bride price. It's not that I don't value the woman, but that the pressure of getting married is too great. The woman usually thinks so. I am willing to marry you. Am I not worth 99 thousand in your heart? What a girl wants is your attention and love, so if you can treat her as always, how can she care about that 99 thousand?
If the two sides are unhappy because of the bride price, their future life will certainly not be happy. If you really want to be together, the woman should think from the man's point of view. After all, you still have to pay back the money borrowed from the bride price after marriage. The man will complain more and make her parents worry that you are not doing well.
I really want to say to the woman's parents: If I really give you 99,000 yuan, that is the man's sincere attitude, then do you want to show your daughter's happiness? I want to improve my life by accepting the bride price. I think this is because of my daughter's upbringing. I think the higher my daughter's bride price, the higher my status when I get married. If the husband and his family are really poor, even if they don't say anything, they already look down on your daughter psychologically. How can they respect it?
I really want to tell the man's parents to give the woman as much sincerity and love as possible within the scope allowed by her family, and treat her as her own daughter. As long as she is willing to give up her daughter, she is your grandson's mother, your son's wife, and a grateful family can accept and cultivate such a daughter-in-law.
Marriage customs are different in every place, but the pursuit of happiness is the same, and the ultimate destination of children's marriage is happiness. When a woman thinks of you everywhere, don't take it for granted. I hope your response is that you deserve the best because you love you.
Love is mutual understanding and tolerance, love is mutual fulfillment, love is knowing that you are not easy and cherishing you, and love is knowing how to love you dearly. The best love is that I am willing to give you the best care I can, and keep a innocence and self-confidence for a long time.
Marriage customs are different in every place, but the pursuit of happiness is the same, and the ultimate ownership of children's marriage should be happiness.