I understand your feelings very well, and I have encountered similar problems with you. In fact, this question should be divided into two questions. The first is the concept of virginity, and the second is cheating. Let me talk about the first one, the concept of chastity. This, I thought it was serious before, but now I think that no one wants to give it to others casually, and everyone wants to be faithful to it. But this society is too complicated and people are too complicated, and they often have no experience for the first time. So it's hard to identify the first time. So it is understandable that this matter has been figured out. The second problem is cheating. I think there is a good side to this. Maybe the other person will cheat you because he loves you too much. However, it is always drowning. She lied to you, although she knew you were worried. There is something wrong with it. So you can see her performance later. If she can always blame or feel guilty about it, you can also give her a chance. After all, you are husband and wife. Let's be more tolerant of each other, after all, we have to be together for a lifetime.