marriage customs

Korean marriage is monogamous. According to the traditional custom, close relatives, consanguinity and surname are not married. It is a common custom that "men are in charge of the outside and women are in charge of the inside". Korean Wedding Korean wedding customs go through six ceremonies from matchmaking to marriage, namely "receiving gifts", "asking names", "Naji", "collecting coins", "inviting parties" and "welcoming guests". The communication between girls and boys needs a "matchmaker". First of all, the man's family should let the matchmaker go to the woman's house to "accept it when it is good", which is similar to the "blind date" of the Han nationality. If satisfied, the boy will formally propose to the girl. If the woman agrees, the man's family will give her the "four pillars". Four pillars are written on a piece of paper with their names and stars (when they were born), and then the woman "vaults" with the four pillars of the girl. The so-called "vault" refers to whether the male and female zodiac signs are consistent but not consistent. If the zodiac signs of two people coincide, the woman will inform the man's family through the matchmaker that the harmony between the two people is opposite, and the man can "choose a date" to determine the wedding date and send a bride price to the woman's family, usually "green satin" and "red satin". The gift of "Nacai" was given by the groom's family when they proposed to the bride's family. The "name-asking" ceremony is a ceremony to predict the bride's future luck and ask her mother's name. The "Naji" ceremony is an auspicious day for the groom's family to inform the bride's family. "Gifts" are blue satin, red silk and other gifts given to the bride by the groom's family. The "invitation" ceremony means that the groom's family will send the selected wedding date to the bride's family in writing for comments, and the bride's family will reply according to the girl's specific situation. "Wedding ceremony", that is, the bride's family will reply according to the girl's specific situation. The "wedding ceremony", that is, the groom greets the bride, is also the most solemn.

The ceremony of Korean wedding is very complicated. In Yanbian, weddings are usually held in two stages: first at the bride's house, and then at the groom's house. What is held at the bride's house is called "the groom's wedding" and what is held at the groom's house is called "the bride's wedding". The groom's wedding is generally conducted in the order of goose-laying ceremony, goose-worshipping ceremony, sexual intercourse ceremony and banquet ceremony. After living in the bride's house for three days, the groom went home alone, and then the bride waited for the selected auspicious day to be welcomed into the groom's house. The groom's family also held a wedding banquet for the bride. The next day, the bride and her in-laws recognized each other, gave gifts to each other and were invited to have fun. At this point, the wedding is over. Koreans generally don't get divorced after marriage. They held a ceremony of offering wooden geese at the wedding, symbolizing the wish of husband and wife to grow old together.

On the dining table, spoons and rice soup have a fixed position. For example, the spoon should be placed on the right side of the diner, the rice should be placed on the left side of the table, the soup bowl should be placed on the right side, the dishes with soup should be placed next to it, the dishes without soup should be placed second, and the seasoning should be placed in the middle.

Koreans attach great importance to etiquette, especially the traditional virtue of respecting the old and loving the young. The younger generation must use honorific words to the elders, and the rest can only be eaten after the elders move chopsticks when eating. On parents' 60th birthdays, children will also hold a "flower banquet" (also called a flower ceremony) for the elderly. At the celebration dinner, the children and relatives gathered together, and the old couple put on new clothes and sat in the middle. Children in costumes toasted the old man in order of age. After the ceremony, the children warmly treated their relatives and friends.

taboo

Koreans like to eat dog meat, but they don't eat it at weddings, funerals and festivals. Koreans respect the elderly very much, and the younger generation can't drink and smoke in front of their elders. When smoking, young people are not allowed to borrow a fire from the elderly, let alone bring a fire, otherwise it will be regarded as disrespectful behavior; When walking with elders, young people must walk behind them. If there is something urgent, you must respectfully explain the reason to your elders. On the way, young people should respectfully stand by the side of the road to meet the face-to-face with the elderly and make way; The younger generation must use honorifics when talking to their elders, and also when meeting their peers for the first time. Calling people "ancestors" is taboo, which is a derogatory term left by the Japanese aggression era.