Some people say, "Mother-in-law is not a mother. Only by letting go of excessive expectations and mastering appropriate limits can we manage the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. " This sentence applies to daughter-in-law, especially to mother-in-law.

On the road of life, there is actually no fairness, only willingness.

Will comes from "love" and "return". Being kind to a person from the heart is called love. If the other person is kind to himself, he will "repay" this feeling.

If the mother-in-law is sincere enough, kind enough and gentle enough, I believe that there will be no daughter-in-law who makes things difficult to fight an absurd mother-in-law war. Heart is more important than heart. The other person is sincere to himself, and he will try his best to be good to him.

Supporting the elderly should have been done, but the elderly should not rely on the old to sell their old age and expect their daughter-in-law to give everything to meet their selfish demands.

When interviewing Ang Lee about family relations in An Appointment between Lu and Yu, Ang Lee said, "Just because I am a father and a husband doesn't mean that I naturally get their respect. You still have to win their respect every day, and you have to meet certain standards. "

This standard also applies to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law Mother-in-law should have sincerely loved each other, done warm-hearted things, said comforting words and so on. Instead of questioning each other with colored glasses, this feeling can be said to be the best way to persuade each other to be filial to themselves.

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Chu Lan's mother-in-law didn't have this standard at all, so when she was hospitalized in her later years, she realized that Chu Lan's daughter-in-law was really a good woman. I almost became a person who stayed away from tea and became a person who never started again.

Chu Lan married her husband in his hometown and countryside. At that time, every family was poor, so it would be nice to have two boxes and a quilt. A few hundred dollars is enough.

However, this matter has taken root in her mother-in-law's heart. From time to time, she would take this as a dig at Chu Lan and say, "Other girls' dowries are thousands of dollars."

Because Chulan lives with her mother-in-law, she has to rely on Chulan for housework and cooking every day, not to mention delicacies, but Su Yan also has her own characteristics, but what about her mother-in-law? Always picking holes, saying that this is not delicious and that is not ripe.

Chulan occasionally loses her temper, but she still cooks and cleans the housework willingly every day. In addition to things at home, Chu Lan has been working since giving birth to a child, and is often made difficult by her mother-in-law. An angry thing happened that day.

The family ate together, and Chu Lan's husband's family were all there. Mother-in-law said that Chu Lan should pay her salary, and turned over the old account that Chu Lan's dowry was too small. Chu Lan replied angrily: "I want to be raised!"

Except for her mother-in-law, everyone else in her mother-in-law's family talked to Chu Lan, saying that Chu Lan was not easy and there were children at home. It's good for your mother-in-law to have enough to eat and drink. Don't expect too much.

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About when Chulan's children were in junior high school, her mother-in-law was seriously ill and her son was around to take care of her. Chu Lan spent all her savings on her mother-in-law's hospitalization expenses, but she didn't take care of her mother-in-law for a day.

My mother-in-law is eating Chulan's cooking every day, but she can't see Chulan. The son said that Chulan was busy with work, had to take care of children and cook, so he didn't come, but her mother-in-law knew in her heart that Chulan didn't want to forgive herself.

When her mother-in-law learned that all her hospitalization expenses were paid by Chu Lan, she was always sorry. She wants to meet Chulan and have a good talk with Chulan.

But Chu Lan didn't want to see her mother-in-law, saying that she would move back to her parents' home, saying that her mother was old and should be filial. Hearing this, the mother-in-law burst into tears.

After her mother-in-law was discharged from the hospital, there was no trace of Chulan at home, and she couldn't eat Chulan's cooking. Mother-in-law wanted to visit Chu Lan's maiden, but Chu Lan refused to open the door by phone.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been disintegrated by all the complaints and dislike of her mother-in-law. Chu Lan left a way for her mother-in-law. She would go home to eat when cooking, but she wouldn't help, wash the dishes or say unhappy things. My mother-in-law readily agreed.

When her mother-in-law took out a large piece of meat from the fish belly and gave it to Chulan, Chulan's eyes were moist. Her mother-in-law told Chulan that she didn't need Chulan to do anything in her future life, but she hoped Chulan would come to her mother-in-law's house often. As long as her mother-in-law can move, she will definitely let Chulan eat the best dishes and the freshest meat.

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Cherishing is really a compulsory course in life.

When you are willing to pay for each other and get the recognition of each other, this is the treasure. You can quarrel, ignore and be stubborn, but don't hurt people who are kind to you, especially your mother-in-law.

If you can marry a good daughter-in-law, even if you have washed your clothes only once, you should know how to cherish this feeling. As a mother-in-law, knowing her daughter-in-law's difficulties, understanding her wishes and respecting her choices is to cherish.

The treasure may not be seen or touched. But every conversation, every thing and every action can reflect the value of cherishing value.

Good feelings are not easy to get, and even the best feelings need to be managed.

Do more touching things, say more warm words and spend more time with each other. You can also talk about a "love" with your mother-in-law, so that her mother-in-law can fall in love with herself and like herself. Her mother-in-law may not be her mother.

But having a mother-in-law who is better than her mother is really the happiness of life. We must believe that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will improve, believe in love, and believe that we can have love.

Her love may not be much, but it is enough to make herself full of happiness and satisfaction.