Nowadays, the date of engagement is usually decided by both parents through consultation. On the day of engagement, the groom should bring jewelry such as engagement ring, gift money, two red belts, two red envelopes, at least two sets of clothes (cotton-padded jacket is needed, as the saying goes, mother-in-law's coat is handed down to the old) and six kinds of small ones, and the woman's family should prepare a pair of new shoes (called husband's shoes) for the man.
Bridal money: also known as engagement money or bride price money, this figure was 1000 1 yuan seven years ago, that is, one in a million, and now a rising tide lifts all boats. However, this amount depends on economic conditions.
Small six kinds: 6 kg of meat, 6 fish, 6 bottles of wine, 6 boxes of snacks, 6 boxes of sugar, 6 vermicelli ... At the engagement meeting in Qingdao, these small six kinds are also exquisite, for example, 6 kg of meat must be the whole line; Six bottles of wine can't be all red wine, generally it is "4 white and 2 red", that is, 4 bottles of white wine and 2 bottles of red wine (all white wine can be sent if conditions are good); Six fans should be tied with red lines, indicating that they are long and far away. Six fish can choose yellow croaker or Cargill.
Jewelry: Jewelry is indispensable for women. Generally, necklaces, rings, earrings and bracelets need complete sets. The bride had better choose them in advance.
Engagement: On this day, the bride's family will have a banquet and find a third party to host it. Usually before noon, the groom and his parents will arrive at the woman's house with dowry. After the chat, the groom will offer tea to the woman's parents and change their names to "parents". At this time, parents will give the prepared "change fee" to the bride and groom respectively, and the number of each red envelope should be even, and the amount is generally above 200 yuan. Then the two families got together and set a wedding date. Banquet: The bride's family should hold a banquet in advance and invite the man's family for dinner. When the man leaves, the woman will return half of the six samples (except meat) given by the man. It is also necessary to give the man a certain gift, also called a bride price, which means the money for the groom to buy a wardrobe, that is, the money for buying a suit and shoes.
Get married:
Invitations should be posted at home from the intersection.
Generally speaking, the bride and groom will not meet on the first day of marriage. On the wedding day, the groom should take the bride to the new house or hotel before noon 1 1.
Before the groom leaves: the groom's family should prepare six plates of things: apples, oranges, peanuts, jujubes, snacks and cigarettes (generally, two plates of dried fruits, fruits, sugar and snacks are freely combined, and cigarettes are not put on the plate unless other things are prepared), and a pink paper pad is placed at the bottom of the plate. Before departure, the groomsman dresses and ties the groom, and the mother arranges it, and then the groom leaves with the permission of his parents. After departure: post the happy words at home immediately. Arrange people to greet their families, get a happy basin and relax. Happy words are happy in the mirror, window, bed, road, etc. When you are happy, you should stick it backwards from the intersection to your home and stick it all the way home. Guliguai, fire hydrant, etc. It's all covered with pink paper. The rule of putting up happy words is "meet face to face", that is, the bride and groom should put up happy words on the oncoming front wall.
Before the bride leaves: prepare things to take away: two pots with six things in them, namely dates, peanuts, longan, chestnuts, red chopsticks and soothing noodles (tied together with red lines, the wider the better), and the pots are wrapped in red bags (given to her when she is engaged).
"Block the door": The groom and the best man arrive at the bride's house with red envelopes, marriage certificates, flowers and corsage in their hands. And the bride's partner are stuck at the door making things difficult for them to ask for red envelopes. This is called "blocking the door". After opening the door, with the permission of the bride's parents, the groom can break through the second "defense line": the bride sits on the bed in the bedroom with her back to the door, and the bedroom door is blocked by her partner. Accepting the spite and stuffing a red envelope, she went in to look for the bride's shoes. After finding the shoes, the bride and groom will eat "Go to jiaozi" together in bed, usually holding six, eating four and keeping two, leaving a reminder that they will come back.
Reception of relatives: After eating jiaozi, the bride and groom come out together, and the newlyweds meet their parents, giving them candy and tea. When the woman leaves, someone should see her off, and her uncle and brother are carrying the burden. The rule at this time is that you can't flip your hands, let go, get on the bus all the time, and the bride can't turn back and talk until the groom's house. To arrange an even number of motorcades to pick up relatives, the co-pilot should be escorted by an equivalent person, usually the groom's brother.
Newcomers enter the door: after the newlyweds enter the door, the groom enters the door to report to his parents and introduce the family of the woman who saw him off. When the female elder picks up the luggage, pay attention to pick it up with the hand opposite to that of the luggage sender, and don't do it backwards on the way. One of them sprinkled chestnuts, dates, peanuts, longan and lotus seeds. On the bed and under the mattress, while the other is released. Next, the couple met their parents and provided tea, then went into the bedroom, sat on the bed and had a relaxing meal. You can go to the hotel after the family takes a group photo. The above contents refer to the situation of ordinary families in Qingdao, and different districts and cities have different regulations on some details and order.