A reader told me that she thinks the most irresponsible sentence in love is: a person is in front of you and a person is in your heart.

If this is just a story, it seems that there is still some beauty in it, because thoughts and regrets can always attract people's feelings.

But what if you are one of them? Then, the regret of others may be your pain.

Life, sometimes so bloody and full of drama, can't be caught off guard without rehearsal. She said helplessly, "Did I do something bad in my last life?" "

Marriage, a lifelong event that she was very concerned about and valued at first, seems to have become a farce in the end, because less than four months after marriage, she is ready to divorce.

Originally, in her imagination, her marriage should be extremely beautiful from beginning to end, from hand in hand to growing old together, full of romantic and joyful tunes.

Finally, I realized that all this was just my own self-love.

And his kindness is just a conditioned reflex. It's just his habit to get along carefully. I think another person taught him this way.

Of course, what she cares about is not that he had an ex, but that from beginning to end, he never let go, but he walked into the marriage without telling her.

She said they met on a blind date.

Before that, for various reasons, she had never been in love, until she met him, and they felt that they had talked a lot before they slowly came together.

Of course, she fell in love to get married. He is four years older than her, so it is natural.

Her idea has always been to find a better half than herself. Because in her eyes, age should mean responsibility, he meets all her requirements, and the details of life prove that he is a more considerate person.

So, she got stuck and treated him wholeheartedly, no doubt. Without checking his cell phone, she naturally didn't find anything unusual about him.

Originally, she still trusted him, because in life, he was all decent, so she never doubted the slightest.

02

After talking for half a year, they began to discuss marriage. In the process, she has been very busy.

He is a Buddhist, and he thinks nothing matters. She felt that this was his character, so she didn't force him to choose all kinds of things.

She looked forward to her new life after marriage with great joy, but unexpectedly, from here on, the farce began.

On their wedding night, her husband and his buddies drank all night. She thought he was held by his drinking buddy, and she knew it.

Later, I learned that it was just that he took people to tell the truth.

When did she start to suspect?

One day soon after their marriage, two people were sitting on the sofa. He is playing with his mobile phone. Sitting far away, she suddenly leaned in and said she wanted to see if he was chatting with other ladies.

She was only joking. Unexpectedly, he subconsciously put his mobile phone in his pocket and said that he would not play. Although he was calm, she smelled something unusual in a woman's sixth sense.

It took her only half a month to piece together his story.

Before he met her, he had two feelings, the second one was unforgettable, because he waited for her until she got married, disheartened and embarked on the road of blind date.

He told his buddies that he couldn't get married because his family was urging him, and he was not young. He is 30 years old and should have a home.

The buddy who chatted with him all night on their wedding night was his high school classmate, and that girl was also their classmate. I heard that he had a crush on her since high school, and he looked a bit like her after his first love.

And her first love broke up with him because she knew there was someone in his heart.

03

Later, I mistakenly thought that I was still together and talked about breaking up for nearly three years. The breakup was put forward by a girl, and he has been reluctant to take it back.

He seems to have turned liking her into an obsession, and this obsession, with the passage of time, has not only not increased, but has become stronger and stronger.

After breaking up, they didn't delete each other or even chat occasionally, even though she was married.

Therefore, this made him even more reluctant to let go.

That day, she joked to see which little sister he was chatting with, and that was opposite her.

Because she deleted many chat records, she didn't see them all. What she saw was a normal part, just greeting like an old friend.

She can imagine that on their wedding night, he took his buddies to tell his grievances. Because it was impossible, he chose her who was not bad and went on like this.

From beginning to end, in his mind, he never considered her feelings. She is his second best choice and thinks that marrying her is a compromise, because it is the only way for him.

But what if you look at it from her point of view?

He was her first love. Before falling in love, she was cautious about feelings, but after falling in love, she was extremely loyal to feelings.

She thought she had found the other half to join hands with. He is the only thrill of her own, and the right person who finally found each other in the vast sea of people.

Who knows that he just stopped at will, but she tried her best to protect him.

Is this fair to her?

Obviously, it is unfair, because what she wants is not such love, not a person with someone else in mind. How long can she stay in his heart?

Let me see, even he shouldn't know the ending.

04

So she thinks she should be angry and is the most wronged person.

Later, he apologized to her and took all the mistakes on himself. She refused: "If you have someone in your heart, don't hurt me."

She said, I always take my feelings very seriously. I don't play ambiguous. If you don't like it, just refuse. If I like them, I will wholeheartedly. A person like me should be worthy of another person's undivided attention.

Therefore, after careful consideration, she decided to divorce, although people around her also had different views, thinking that if he had no substantive betrayal, there would be no need for a real divorce.

Others told her that after a long time, he would slowly get out of his last relationship and treat her wholeheartedly. She doesn't believe it, and she doesn't want to bet on the result. She said, "Why should I wait for him?"

Love is pious, and marriage should be beautiful.

Your regret, if you don't get out of this circle, there is really no reason to let others pay the bill.