Maybe everyone thinks that a bride price marriage should not be adhered to. Some people think that the bride price is a face, or we have to go through a process to understand each other, and there is no need to stick to it. In some places, the bride price is used to get married collectively, and they are willing to marry love. This is not a bride price. Some people also expressed regret about the bride price, because the bride price was not taken seriously by the man, which led to divorce.

Even if the society is progressing, the bride price is necessary. In fact, the issue of bride price has always been that the old woman says that the old woman is right and the public says that the public is right. No matter where you stand, please don't say that the bride price is true love. For a long time, the man was hired and the woman won the lottery, which represents the attitude that the man regards the woman as a treasure and sincerely asks for marriage. At the same time, it is also a thank you to your parents-in-law for raising your daughter.

The bride price is not to sell a daughter. In most families, bride price and dowry will be brought back to the man's house. In case there is any change in her future life, she can have the money at the bottom of the closet for emergency and her life is guaranteed. As for the amount of bride price, it depends on local conditions and other factors. People talk about sharing bride price because the sky-high bride price in different regions endows the form of receiving bride price with too much material content, and it also loses its original intention with a heavy burden.

Some couples break up because of the bride price. The man should know that the bride price is not for selling his daughter, but also for the parents who want the bride price, so that his daughter will not suffer in the future. It is shameful to have a high bride price, but don't emphasize that the bride price is good. After all, many people think that the bride price will make the woman seem unimportant to the man. After all, there are a few people who want their daughter's bride price to marry their son, and both parents hope that their daughter will have a good life in the future. Generally, the bride price and dowry are brought back to the man's house, or money is used to buy a car and home appliances for the young couple as dowry. Some women may say that there is no bride price, as long as the man is good to himself, or as long as the man is self-motivated and really loves you, the bride price can be discussed again. I love people, not money. As long as two people live well, it is more important than anything else. I believe that many families who don't want bride price think so.

But you must know that the woman doesn't want the bride price, and the man doesn't want it. The bride price doesn't cost much, but you have to express your desire to marry the woman. If the man doesn't mention it, the woman will feel that she is not so important, and by the way, she can block the gossip between relatives. In fact, even if many women want a bride price at home not for money but for attitude, it is wrong for the woman to ask for a high bride price, but it is unreasonable for the man not to give it. If it is the custom of the woman's family to get married with a bride price, then the man should still give it if he can. However, if the man's family is poor, the bride price of the woman's family exceeds the economic conditions of the man's family, or the man's family obviously has money but does not take it out, it is necessary to pay attention to whether this relationship should continue.

Of course, the bride price can be determined according to the specific conditions of both parties. Parents should discuss it before meeting, so as not to cause conflicts. No matter how much the bride price is, the woman is still interested in the man's own mind.

I live in Shanghai, and now some people in Shanghai don't accept bride price when their daughters get married. That's what I did.

One: Believe in equality between men and women, and don't accept bride price.

At that time, my daughter told me in a low voice that her boyfriend gave her 99 roses to propose marriage, and they were going to get married. I quickly congratulated him. The daughter said: His parents asked their son how much bride price was appropriate. I looked at my daughter and said, "His parents are also retired workers. If my family doesn't accept a bride price, he will marry me on my terms. " According to the general etiquette rules in Shanghai at that time, if the woman received the bride price, she had to get a car, and the combined salary of two recent college graduates was about 10 thousand, so the car had to be raised with money. After a year or two, the children are raised and the burden is increased. Their burden is the burden of the two old people. What I said made the man's family happy. I bought a diamond ring and a diamond chain for my daughter, and we also prepared a dowry equivalent to their heart.

Two: It is easier to get along with in-laws without bride price.

Receiving bride price is an ancient custom. For wealthy families, this is nothing, but for most ordinary families, they may spend all their savings or even be heavily in debt. What do you mean, less money? "Poor couples mourn everything" or "rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea"? I have to say that in reality, many family conflicts are caused by money. It is not a big deal to advocate marriage without accepting bride price. They won't have an economic sense of urgency because they get married. If they live a relaxed and good life, their mood will be better, their mood will be better, there will be fewer contradictions, everyone will be comfortable and we will be relieved.

Three: trust your daughter and son-in-law and live a better life on your own.

Daughter and son-in-law turned out to be classmates. At first, my daughter's work was smooth and her salary was high. The son-in-law started his own business. At first, his income was much less than my daughter's, and he often had no income ... My daughter said to me, "Living in their house, the monthly living expenses for the two of us are 1000 yuan, which I paid." I said, "Life, this time, once again, it takes a while to start a business. It is also a blessing that you can afford it." The daughter was speechless and smiled. Now, the son-in-law has achieved initial results. They bought their own house and raised a second child.

In a word, getting married is a big deal. As long as young people love each other, don't accept the bride price! This is also advocating new fashions.

Marriage is a very sacred thing, and the theory of bride price is also determined by local customs.

This custom is most prevalent in rural areas. With the development of society, the difference between urban and rural areas is gradually narrowing, and the autonomy and selectivity of marriage are also increasing. It stands to reason that the bride price should not be a reason to prevent young people from getting married.

However, in some places, some women's parents not only pay more attention to the bride price, but also euphemistically say that the bride price is heavy, and the married daughter is precious and valuable, so that it will not be rejected.

In this regard, the attitude of the man's parents in giving bride price is also different:

Faced with the high bride price, some parents complained bitterly. In order to marry their son, they are poor and helpless, and feel that the other party is selling their daughter.

Some parents simply agree that their son and girlfriend live together and cook raw rice into mature rice. The woman is pregnant, and marrying or not is a dead end. At that time, not only will the bride price not be given, but it will also be posted upside down!

On the other hand, as the woman's parents are worried, the wife who didn't spend a penny is not only not cherished, but also looked down upon by the man's parents. It seems that a daughter-in-law who doesn't spend money can't be driven away and can't live without it. It doesn't matter how she treats her. What bothers my daughter most is being a parent.

To sum up, that is, the most basic reason for whether or not to marry a bride price. After all, any custom has a certain reason. This man and this woman have their own ideas. As far as this idea is concerned, in fact, everyone's worries and worries are correct, and they are all based on the good purpose of their children.

In fact, as far as some customs in Chongqing are concerned, marriage is not only a matter for two young people, but also a combination of two families. The man, in the sincerity of marrying a wife, expresses it appropriately according to the actual situation of the family. Some give 30,000 to 40,000 yuan as a symbol of sincerity, and some buy a house for their children to pay a down payment.

The woman's parents are not to be outdone. If the other party gives 30,000 to 40,000, the woman will definitely give the child 80,000 as a reserve fund for a small family. If the man buys a house for his child and pays the down payment, the woman will definitely marry a car with the same value.

As for the cost of the wedding banquet, most of them are directly supported by the gift money received, so that neither side will suffer, and even the young couple will take advantage.

However, there are also many parents who do not attach importance to the bride price. In their view, as long as the young couple live in harmony with Meimei, they should be filial to their parents. Although neither side talks about the bride price, when the young couple is in trouble, both parents will be duty-bound to lend a helping hand and do their best to help. This kind of situation often appears in this kind of marriage that both parties know well and are very suitable.

In short, it is unwise for a lover to be unable to get married because of the bride price. After all, a thousand dollars can't buy true love.

I don't think the essence of the problem is what is wrong with the bride price. To put it bluntly, the bride price is just like giving out red envelopes in the New Year, which is a custom with China characteristics!

Some people may think that the amount of bride price that girlfriends and parents want is completely different from the amount of red envelopes given in the New Year! How can it be the same!

In essence, the custom of bride price is a kind of respect for the woman. The woman will also attach a corresponding dowry to show her respect for the man. This looks really no different from receiving red envelopes and sending red envelopes in the New Year!

In real life, many people think that the other party wants too much bride price, which they can't afford! Why do people who have been in love with me for so long do this? Is her family trying to sell her daughter?

At this time, as a boy, we must first reflect on ourselves! We should think about whether the communication between us and our lovers is smooth. Do you understand each other? Think again. Did you show her family your future potential? Are you as filial to her family as you are to your own? Let them have no worries!

I believe that if you solve all these problems, the number of other parties in the bride price will not embarrass you!

This is a polarized issue. Families with boys feel that they can't give so many colorful gifts, while families with girls feel that they should get more bride price.

In the past, when a girl married a man's family, even her own name ranked first in the genealogy of the man's family, and her maiden name ranked last. For example, if a woman's maiden name is Li and she marries a man named Liu, then in this man's family tree, this woman is. The bride price of the man is tantamount to buying out the life and death of the woman. When a woman gets married, she ends everything with her family, and her parents get sick and die, which has nothing to do with this woman.

After liberation, the status of lesbians has improved. At that time, it was advocated not to give bride price. My mother said, "My grandmother gave me five dollars for a book and a towel, and my grandfather gave my father seven dollars for a pen. Other items far exceeded the bride price given by my grandmother."

Once, I accompanied my mother to the hospital for a stomach examination. The person doing the examination is an uncle of our family. He said: "My mother's married grandmother's house accompanied her for half a bed." When I came back, I asked my mother what a "half bed" was. Mother said, "A pair of camphor wood boxes, a toilet box and a mirror." At that time, people in our village had never seen so many dowries to visit my house. My grandmother only gave me five yuan!

When I got married, my mother didn't ask her husband's family for a bride price either. They just gave me something casually. I remember that watches were very popular at that time, and I didn't buy them. I only bring the jewel flower Xiao Kun watch that my mother bought for me. I have had this watch at home for five or six years.

When I got married, I didn't dislike my husband's poverty. My mother-in-law and I live in two houses each. Now I have ten first rooms at home, and there is also a business house on the roadside. My sons also bought houses in the city. I feel that my life was earned by my hard work. I have never complained that my mother-in-law gives less, and good women don't wear wedding clothes!

Everything I do today is the result of my efforts, and I didn't get married with a bride price!

Today, the woman wants a bride price, unlike before, when she married herself, she was finished with her family. Don't worry if her parents get sick in the future. How many bride price daughters and sons-in-law have to do their duty today! I think such colorful gifts are a little unfair to the man!

Remember some time ago, my graduate girlfriend advanced 80 thousand bride price to her boyfriend and was ruthlessly blacked out by her boyfriend?

Boys think that this is not only as simple as 80,000 bride price, but also the support, treatment and rehabilitation expenses of the follow-up girlfriend's father are bottomless, so they are determined to pull the black.

@ A desolate piece of paper Let me talk about my opinion:

Judging from this incident, the bride price has become an inevitable fact for young people now. It seems that it is not so easy to take my daughter away from her mother-in-law. My mother-in-law thinks that if you want to marry my daughter, you must prove it with money, bride price and house. Don't marry until you give the bride price. The bride price is easy to say in the woman's house, but especially difficult in our man's house.

My home here is 65438+ million bride price, and the coordinates are Yongcheng, Henan. Don't marry if you don't give it.

It's easy to say that home is good, but what if home is not good? You can only borrow money, borrow money for bride price, borrow money to buy a house, and wait until you get married. This account can only be paid by you and your parents.

Have you found that most people who want bride price are in the countryside, and this custom is rare in cities. It can also be said to be a bad habit.

Next, I hope that my mother-in-law who wants to marry her daughter will refer to it:

Marriage is not a family supporting another family, but a family of both men and women supporting a new family, so that the new family can go on healthily and stably. If things get unpleasant because of the bride price, then two people will definitely quarrel after marriage. How can such a family go on happily?

The bride price depends on the wishes of both parties. Do what you can, it is not easy for others to raise their daughters, otherwise they will be embarrassed to go to their mother-in-law's house.

Therefore, if you can give the bride price, you can give it if you have the conditions at home. If the family condition is not good, there is no need to give it. I will go to my mother-in-law's house in the future and buy more supplements to honor the elderly. No one else will say anything.

The meaning of bride price is different for every family, and every family has different views on it.

I'm @ Yaya Yaya, I hope my answer is helpful to you.

The bride price is not whether you should give it, but whether you are willing to give it. China's traditional marriage etiquette pays attention to three media and six appointments (also called three books and six gifts) and eight sedan chairs. First, it followed the customs and habits of the upper class at that time. The second is to show the solemnity and sense of ceremony of marriage.

The more betrothal gifts the man gives, the more he can express his attention and sincerity to the woman. It also shows the man's financial resources and identity.

If the woman's family is a big family, she will also make a dowry for her daughter generously and pay attention to it.

Times are different. Modern people don't need to show their social class or show off their deep pockets by dowry and dowry.

However, if this sense of ritual is completely lost, it is not appropriate. After all, the man's house is imported, so giving a bride price casually not only shows everyone's demeanor, but also gives the woman face. Why not do something both inside and outside?

After all, the woman's family is sending her daughter to get married, not selling her daughter, and she can't talk big. How much money is negotiated by the two companies according to the actual situation.

The bride gift is a perspective link. Whether the marriage life is good or not can be seen from the attitude of both parties and the way of handling the bride price.

I'm talking about attitude and handling. Personal opinion: Marriage law protects property, not feelings. The man should sympathize with the woman's high cost in pregnancy function and be generous in bride price.

The woman should also consider the economic situation of the man's family and make a reasonable bid.

If both sides feel wronged and unworthy, then marriage is a misunderstanding. @ Happy Leader Zheng Zhi

Should we give a bride price when we get married? According to traditional practice, it should be given. As for what? What is the size? Just eight words: "A rising tide lifts a boat", treat each other with courtesy. Relatives and friends, or marrying a colleague's child, is a major event in life and is worth celebrating! According to the "market" of Shanghai in recent years, the wedding banquet of the hotel ranges from 1 ,000 yuan to 20,000 yuan per table, and the invited guests are favored by at least 1 ,000 yuan; If the relationship is better, the red envelope is also between 3000 yuan and 5000 yuan.

I don't think it should be given. Even if it is given, it should be within the acceptable range. I was brought up by my parents. After I got married, I didn't say that regardless of my parents, why should I empty my parents' blood and sweat because of your greed?

There is a saying that bride price has existed in China since ancient times. The earliest bride price is that both sides try their best to get a good bride price, and there is no intention to embarrass either side. Later, the bride price was gradually influenced by the idea that men were superior to women. The water spilled by the married daughter still belongs to the family before marriage, and becomes the man's family after marriage. So from a certain point of view, it is to sell your daughter and raise so much hard, and you are a smelly boy, so you won't give it. So the bride price gradually changed. Later, with the improvement of women's social status, bride price became the standard to measure whether a man was successful or not. For 500 thousand or even 300 thousand, she has to buy a house, a car, gold hardware. The women in my family have a growing appetite because I have a daughter. I have seen that after seven years of love, when the two sides finally got the marriage certificate, it was only because the man could not afford the house, and finally broke up under the obstruction of the woman's parents. All shall be well, jack shall have Jill, and the culprit was the terrible bride price. I am especially wronged for which friend. The most chilling thing is not the end of a relationship, but the girlfriend who has been in love for seven years has been hiding behind her parents and never said a word to her husband.

To say these things, not all women's homes were killed with a stick. With the emancipation of the mind, most families have paid little attention to bride price. As long as the man is willing to make progress and the daughter likes it, parents generally don't interfere too much. To put it arbitrarily, the bride price problem mostly occurs in poor families. Many people regard their daughters as China Merchants Bank, and their daughters grew up in this environment. This may be one of the reasons why more and more "gold diggers" appear.

I got married without a bride price. There is no bride price requirement here in Guangdong, so I will follow the fate.