I heard that her child is getting married, and I congratulated her. I didn't expect her to look lonely. Said the following to me.

For narrative convenience, I use the first person.

My child's wedding date is scheduled for 65438+February, so I will discuss it with her husband. I didn't expect him to say how troublesome it is to hold a wedding. You want me to drink to death, in addition to treat or treat! No wedding, let the two families have a meal and let the young couple go out for a trip. This saves trouble!

I think it's silly. Shit, it's too much trouble for you to get married. Is it too much trouble for you to eat? What's the use of having you as a father? We won't bother you if you die. You don't have to attend the child's wedding. We will hire a father.

This is what my colleague elder sister told me. As she spoke, my sister shed tears.

I don't know what to say except to comfort my sister.

Friends, tell me, what is her husband's psychology? What does he think? This is the first time I've heard of such a father!

Actually, what my father said is right.

Two relatives and friends have dinner together. Then the young couple went out to travel, which was good.

It is very troublesome for my son to get married and hold a banquet. However, we need the help of relatives and friends, and we are responsible for the division of labor.

For example:

Arrange the hotel in advance for the banquet, about how many tables, and generally book more tables. Pay a deposit

What is the standard for each table (800 or 1000, which is not too shabby according to local standards)? Whether to use the hotel's standard dishes or decide for yourself.

Accounting room My son prepared a little red book before he got married, because all the gifts at the banquet had to be paid. To tell the truth, you should pay back all the gifts you received when you got married.

Manager. Arrange the way and location of the guests. This manager is very important. It's up to him to make the wedding reception go smoothly.

Hospitality. There are also a few glib people who entertain guests.

It's troublesome to hold a banquet, but it's a happy thing for my son to be overjoyed. Parents usually do their best.

Father is very boring, and may have his difficulties.

The biggest difficulty is lack of money.

The son's marriage is a matter of burning money and cannot be rushed; It's too shabby. If you are not hasty or shabby, you will lose.

For example, when my eldest son got married (1990s), most of my colleagues were 10 yuan, so how could people not be allowed to eat when they came to meet?

The main family will be scolded for making money and doing shabby things! Most families are proud of it.

I have no ability.

No reliable relatives and friends, no one to help.

A son comes of age when he gets married. If he wants to do something decent, he has to take some responsibility.

Give part of the gifts received at the wedding to my father.

Face and scenery need money to maintain.

The son's marriage is a happy event in the family, and parents will not disturb it. There must be a reason why this father is in trouble.

Don't raise children, don't know parents. Long live understanding.

The child is getting married, and the father is particularly annoyed. What kind of psychology is this father?

I have seen this kind of thing many times!

But some fathers are particularly tired of their children's marriage and other family chores! As the saying goes: wash a bowl without taking care of it. Not to mention the children's wedding event, what is more troublesome is to "borrow a bowl lamp from the owner and ask the kitchen in the west."

Compare a simple example, that was in the 1980s and 1990s. When I am in front of the hostess, when it comes to family problems, men always use the method of avoidance.

She is a few years older than me, and the children have to get married first. She talked about her children's marriage, which is also a powerful evaluation of her husband's inaction. She said that the things for the children are almost all, except for the banquet money, at least a few thousand dollars. So she asked her husband to borrow it. I didn't know that her husband looked unhappy and annoyed. He was particularly annoyed and said, "I want to borrow it from you. I am embarrassed to ask others. " I don't know who to borrow it from, so I clap my hands. In the following days, he ignored it and pretended not to care.

She had no choice but to carry the burden herself and borrow the money she needed to complete her child's marriage. When she finished, she shook her head and added, That's what men do. They croak when they have money, and become ghosts when they have no money. Alas! When you meet such a man, it's really dumb to eat Rhizoma Coptidis, and you can't say how bitter it is!

These examples are enough to prove that some fathers are particularly bored with their children's marriage, and they are psychologically troublesome and don't want to take care of things. Many men push the buck at a critical moment and are irresponsible for family tasks.

It is normal for a person to be afraid of trouble!

Not everyone likes to make a scene and say hello to them.

There are still many people who prefer a quiet and simple life.

Everyone's personality is different, and everyone has his own way of doing things and attitude. Why do we equate everyone?

This is neither realistic nor necessary!

Since it is a child's wedding, the protagonist is naturally a child, so let the children decide how to hold the wedding.

Parents' opinions, whether traditional or modern, are just opinions.

How to win in the end depends on how the two children decide for themselves.

In that case, why should two parents worry? Being a supporting role silently, doesn't it smell good?

If the children decide to make a mountain out of a molehill, the father need not worry. Just don't drink it on the grounds of physical discomfort.

The wedding company is also responsible for the specific operation. You just need to be there to cooperate. What's the difficulty!

If the child decides to travel and get married, everything will be simple, and the mother need not feel sad. It is fashionable and meaningful, and the whole family will be very happy.

When the time comes, your parents will follow the fashion and you will travel alone. Isn't that beautiful? Why not?

So, parents, why hurt the feelings between husband and wife for some small things that they can't do?

As for your question, what is the mentality of this father? The answer is simple.

He is a normal person's mentality!

Or what? Isn't it normal to dislike busy people? Come on!

As long as it is not against nature and ethics, then everyone has the right to be true to himself, so that he will not be tired when he is alive!

The above is just my personal opinion, which is for reference only and does not have the function of persuading the parties how to make a choice. Please carefully consider whether to adopt it according to your actual situation.

If you have no money, if you are afraid that no one will join you, you will still be poor.

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