The house and furniture for the wedding were bought, and both parents agreed when they met. But because of his sudden fear of getting married, his boyfriend pushed back the date when they got the marriage certificate. Yesterday, my girlfriend couldn't bear it, and hacked at the furniture of the new house with a knife. My boyfriend reached for the knife and was cut three tendons in his right hand by the blade.
Live together for two years and get married.
Yesterday afternoon, the reporter met the injured Stark Chan (a pseudonym) and his girlfriend Ai Yao (a pseudonym) in Hongling Hospital. Both of them were sitting at one end of the hospital bed, and neither of them spoke to anyone. Ai Yao still has tears on her face: "There is nothing to say. If you don't get married, let me go and let's break up. "
Ai Yao and Stark Chan met at a friend's party three years ago. They hit it off and fell in love soon. "Love for three years, cohabitation for two years. Friends ask us to get married for a long time when they meet. " Ai Yao said that she and Stark Chan have never had any conflicts, and their relationship has developed smoothly, and their relatives and friends are also very optimistic about their marriage.
Ai Yao said that he is 27 years old and has a stable relationship with Stark Chan. Stark Chan just turned 30, and both of them are old enough to talk about marriage, so he proposed to Stark Chan. "At that time, he was also very frank and immediately agreed. He thought about what to wear on the day he got the marriage certificate. " Ai Yao said.
Boyfriend actually postponed the wedding seven times.
The two began to prepare for the wedding, bought a second-hand house in Shangqing Temple, renovated it, and even bought a wedding invitation. But what Ai Yao couldn't figure out was that in July 13, when she was supposed to get a marriage certificate, Stark Chan got up in the morning and suddenly said that her stomach was uncomfortable and asked for a rain check. In the next three months, Stark Chan repeatedly postponed the wedding for various reasons. After seven postponements, it was finally pushed to the National Day.
Yesterday at noon, Ai Yao just finished washing dishes in her new home and reminded Stark Chan, "We will tear up the certificate on June 65438+ 10/0, and if we don't understand, our friends will laugh." Because 10 10 got the marriage certificate at an appointed time before the National Day holiday, Stark Chan also agreed at that time, but at noon yesterday, Stark Chan said that 10 was Tuesday, and the company was busy and could not take a holiday.
"I was scared when I asked him." Ai Yao more think more angry, even crying and cursing Stark Chan, wronged, she rushed into the kitchen, holding a kitchen knife at the new sofa in the living room. "I thought at the time, forget it if I don't get married, as if I were begging him."
"Who says I'm not getting married?" Stark Chan finally said that when he saw Ai Yao holding a knife, he was afraid that she would hurt himself, so he rushed to grab the knife and held the blade in his right hand. As a result, Yiyao tried to draw the knife back and twist it hard. Stark Chan's right hand was bleeding.
Men and women actually love each other.
They stayed in the hospital and didn't tell their parents about Stark Chan's injury. Ai Yao's parents have a lot of complaints about Stark Chan because he has repeatedly postponed his wedding.
"I never thought about not getting married, and I never thought about not getting married with Ai Yao." Stark Chan said, it's just that every time I get married, I feel nervous. "I can't think of the reason, and I can't bear to part with her."
Hearing Stark Chan say this, Ai Yao cried again: "How many times have you said that? Every time I say goodbye, you don't want to. I have made up my mind to break up without getting married. I am 27 years old and can't afford to be with you anymore. "
The doctor said that three tendons in Stark Chan's right hand were broken, but they all recovered after the operation.
Yesterday afternoon, when the reporter contacted Ai Yao again, Stark Chan's parents had come to the hospital to take care of their son. For the son's injury, parents didn't blame Ai Yao too much, just said to let the child decide for himself. But since Stark Chan proposed not to tell Ai Yao's parents, Ai Yao's parents still don't know about it.
There are many patients with marital phobia.
For this matter, psychological counseling expert Zhu Meiyun said that many young people in urban life now suffer from marriage phobia, mainly manifested as: some think that marriage is unsafe, some are unwilling to start a responsible life, some are affected by the unfortunate marriage of relatives and friends, and some have physical problems.
According to Stark Chan's behavior, Zhu Meiyun guessed that he belonged to the type with unsafe marriage and unwilling to start a responsible life.
Zhu Meiyun also said that unless the man himself realizes that two people must consider the feelings of both sides together, it is difficult to change his behavior. For the woman, it is necessary to know whether she can continue to follow his lifestyle. If not, leave him quickly.
Marriage phobia is very common in cities.
Ms. Chen, who works in a media in this city, is going to hold a wedding in June +0 1 Yesterday, when she was interviewed by a reporter, she said that half a year before her marriage, she suddenly had an inexplicable fear of marriage, dreaming at night and regretting choosing her current boyfriend as her husband.
"I panicked. I don't know why. Ms. Chen said that after talking to her boyfriend, Mr. Deng, the other party was very considerate and asked her to think more. "When I am alone at home, I will take out the DV videos and photos of my previous travels and finally spend this time slowly." Two months later, Ms. Chen and Mr. Deng got a marriage certificate, and are now preparing for the wedding in June 1 1.
Mr. Jiang, who works in the judicial department, just got married on September 2. He said that this was the first time he had heard the expression of marriage phobia. "But before I got married, my heart was a little hairy and easily agitated." At that time, my fiancee often cried inexplicably.
Ms. Cheng, from a wedding company in Chongqing, said that she has been serving the couple for several years. "At the wedding, I basically passed the marriage phobia." Ms. Cheng said that once a couple had a big fight in the wedding company half a month before the wedding, and then they really canceled the wedding. "At that time, I also feel strange. Now that I think about it, it should also be a marriage phobia. Otherwise, considering the overall situation, I wouldn't make such a hasty decision.