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In the old society, the marriage age of men and women was mostly between 16 and 20 years old, and men were generally older than women. There was a saying that "men would rather be freshmen than be women." Married in the late Qing Dynasty, she learned six rituals, such as receiving gifts, asking names, collecting food, collecting taxes, inviting guests and welcoming relatives. That is, parents propose first, and the matchmaker is called "Yue Lao". Then, according to the age, appearance and suitable conditions of both men and women, the matchmaker will negotiate separately. If both parents agree, when the woman is about to give birth to her daughter, she will write it on red paper, and then write "A match made in heaven" on the cover of the red paper, which is called "Red Geng". The matchmaker gives the date to the man, which is called "sending eight characters" After receiving the red Geng, the man wants to hide in the shrine. If there is no writing on the wall within 3 days, the letter is "heavenly marriage" and the engagement is completed. Some people ask fortune tellers to predict marriage. Those who have more than five words for male and female students are regarded as "Ji Geng", and then write a Geng book, one for each party.
Second wedding
During the late Qing Dynasty and the Republic of China, there were many wedding procedures for local people, which were very lively. The man should prepare wedding banquet, admission wine, night wine and banquet respectively to entertain the married people and guests. Most banquets are owned by the main family. On the wedding day, the man must send someone to pick him up. This is called picking up the bride. A person who sends a woman's dowry or a man's gift to a woman's house is called a husband. When picking up the bride, the bride must wear a red gauze and the sedan chair stops outside the woman's door to greet the female guests first and then the bride. When the bride leaves the sedan chair, it is customary in many places to cover the shrine with an umbrella. When the bride entered the main room, she immediately held a worship ceremony. At that time, the groom had to put a HongLing on his shoulder and be introduced indoors by the best man. Then the bride and groom stand side by side, and worship flowers and candles first, and then worship each other. Entering the bridal chamber, sitting on the bed and having a cup of tea is called marriage. After that, I went out to worship, also known as "telling my ancestors". After the ceremony, it is called "dividing the size". Worship parents first, then relatives. Those who worship should be given "money", that is, "ceremony" in the evening, and they should learn about the bridal chamber. For all those who are in trouble, the host family should warmly receive them and treat them with refreshments, commonly known as "newcomer tea". In a noisy room, it is customary to sing praises or "praise tea", and the bride and groom greet each other with tea trays. When quarreling, there has always been a saying that "three days are big and small", that is, family, relatives and friends can also participate in teasing.
After marriage, the bride has the custom of "returning to the door", that is, on the third day after the destruction. At that time, newlyweds had to wear heavy makeup to the bride's house. At that time, the bride's family will prepare tea and fruit for their reference. Upon arrival, the newlyweds should worship their ancestors first, then their elders, and give gifts to the groom when they worship their elders. If the younger generation of the woman's family meets the groom, the groom will also give small gifts, and each person will get one point. After the meeting, the bride led the groom to her parents' bedroom, and the relatives went in together, which was quite popular. When returning to the man's house, the husband and wife went out, and the woman was in front of the man. In the past, there was a custom that newlyweds could not leave home for one month after marriage, so as not to be "vacant".