1. If a man marries a woman, he must pay a bride price to her parents, the specific amount is between 5000 and 50000. Dowry is usually used by the woman's family to buy dowry for the girl. If the dowry is not done, most of it will go to the man after marriage, and the woman's parents will only receive a part of the dowry symbolically. Of course, some people don't pay the engagement fee, which is rare. Usually the woman's parents think that the man's failure to pay the engagement fee will make people look down on his daughter.
2. When getting married, give the bride's parents, brothers and sisters, including children red envelopes. The amount is about 100-400 yuan.
My girlfriend is from Hunan. Knowing her is my greatest luck and happiness. However, the differences in our local culture and customs often lead to our contradictions; Of course, there are also many contradictions arising from me. I just want to know about the differences between culture and customs here.
The basic situation is as follows:
1, we have known each other for 5 ~ 6 years; We are all ordinary employees.
2. The girlfriend is excellent, beautiful, virtuous, filial, rich and almost perfect; And I, ordinary.
3. Give friends living expenses in recent years; Although not much, it changes with the change of salary, although not much after the change.
4. Three years ago, her father and my friend bought and sold a house (including the present house, which appreciated by about 1 times). At that time, I also gave 1 10,000 yuan.
Now, we want to change the house, and my friend thinks that all the money changed in the house is her own.
6. The firm operation of the above business was completed by her father.
7. We are economically independent.
Based on the above information, I just want to know about the differences of culture and customs in Hunan to solve my confusion.
1. Do I need to give money (excluding living expenses) if I have been married for many years? Note: this year's budget is to get married, and the wedding dowry is extra. I am confused about this. Isn't it enjoyed by both parties, especially ML-just one person? ML- What's the point of being together? )
2. Did I give her the original 10 tens of thousands of dollars? (The last question) (Because the firm offer was completed by her father, I agree that the original100000 yuan has not appreciated; However, I personally think that the two sides are together, not together.
-Give me a hand, if you can.
(In fact, we always argue about it. Originally on the condition of my girlfriend, I thought I would give whatever I wanted. But the problem is that I am also an ordinary employee, and my parents are also very embarrassed. I don't know how many years I will be in negative equity under such circumstances. After meeting friends, I seldom travel unnecessarily, afraid of spending money; Friends get together, but also a lot less, but also afraid of spending money; In recent years, the wage income has been tens of W, and now the positive assets are only 1W,-deducting the original100000 of 5W. Of course, it has the greatest relationship with my inability to manage money. )
I don't know how long I have to bear this burden. Sometimes, I am really tired! ! ! )
My other questions:
1, Hunan customs, how much dowry is appropriate? My parents are also very embarrassed, and I know the pride of my girlfriend and that woman. Decoration, from my parents)-If you can, please give me your opinion for my reference only.
2. How should the wedding banquet be arranged?
3. Should the woman's wedding banquet be given by the man or the woman?
4. What do you need to buy? What should I pay attention to?
Shit, it's scary to think about it. But after all, after all these years together, there must be a responsibility.
Perhaps, all the above are useless. We are still arguing about the last thing, the cold war. I'm also confused. I feel very tired with such a burden. )
Maybe this is the difference between a good wife and an ordinary wife. Many of my friends are so simple. Sometimes I really envy them. )
Maybe more of a complaint.