According to traditional customs, we are very particular about getting married. When men and women get married, ordinary people pay great attention to some traditional etiquette, and there will be some things they can't do when they get married. Next, I will share with you the 10 taboo.
10 marriage taboo 1 1 marriage taboo time:
Try to avoid these three months when you get married: June, March and July. Traditionally, brides who get married in June of the lunar calendar are also called "half-moon wives", because June is half of a year, and the bride in June is equal to half a bride, which means that couples are prone to divorce after marriage. If a family member dies suddenly, it is not appropriate to hold a happy event or register for marriage every year, otherwise it is an offender who "forgets his life". In addition, March and July are the days when ghosts appear more and more. For elders, it is not good to get married in these special months, so try to avoid it.
Three days after the wedding, the groom accompanied the bride back to her mother's house, commonly known as "going back to her mother's house". On the day of returning home, she must return to her husband's house before sunset. If it is too late, the couple should stay at the woman's house, remember not to share the same room, and must sleep in separate rooms to avoid bringing bad luck to her parents. In addition, it is best for newcomers not to spend the night outside. Newlyweds are also prohibited from attending any wedding, funeral or celebration for four months.
2, the taboo of the wedding ceremony:
The groom-to-be had better find an underage boy to sleep in the new bed after the new bed is fixed, otherwise it will violate the taboo of sleeping in an empty bed. The so-called "sleeping in an empty bed is either death or death" is considered an ominous sign. When the groom gets married at the bride's house, the bride will cry with joy when she leaves home, and the sooner she cries, the louder the better. This is called leaving a girl's home with a strong head, which means that the more you cry, the more you cry. If you meet another wedding motorcade on the way to the wedding, this situation is called "beaming", which will offset each other's blessings, so you must set off firecrackers or exchange flowers prepared by the matchmakers in advance to resolve it. When the bride enters the man's house, Weng Gu, pregnant women and filial daughters should avoid each other to prevent conflicts.
3. Pay attention to the location of the wedding:
When loading the bed, put the bed in the right place, not facing the sharp corner of the desk closet or something. The new bed also needs to put some auspicious items on the bed, such as lilies, red dates, lotus seeds, etc., which means a hundred years of harmony and early birth. When the bride enters the man's house, if there is a threshold, she should cross it, and be careful not to step on the groom's shoes. No one is allowed to touch the new bed on the wedding day until going to bed at night. The bride must not touch the bed that day.
4, taboo things in the wedding:
All dresses, wedding dresses, shoes, etc. The bride should wear a brand-new dress on her wedding day, and the dress should avoid pockets, because many pockets will take away her family's wealth, so it is best to choose one without pockets. Brides holding flowers avoid choosing flowers, which are easy to wither and are taboo in marriage. If you want to choose, you'd better choose lotus flower and pomegranate. Even recruiting flowers means getting married, and pomegranate means having a full house of children and grandchildren. Newly-married couplets should be hung on the eve of marriage at the latest, and taken down one month after marriage, and both men and women should distinguish their own couplets when buying couplets.
5, avoid eating wedding cakes:
Wedding cake is a symbol of happiness. The custom of distributing wedding cake is intended to share the joy of the wedding and convey the news of the wedding to every relative and friend through the wedding cake. When giving a big gift, the bride should remember not to eat the wedding cake given by the man, because it symbolizes eating her joy and should be taboo.
6. Avoid secondary incense:
Many traditional families will tell their ancestors or gods to burn incense before they marry their daughters. In addition to offering cakes, the woman should also pay attention to incense and try not to insert the incense head askew. If it is crooked, don't pull it out and insert it again, because Erxiang means remarriage, which is unlucky for the newlyweds.
7. It is forbidden for the groom to sleep alone on the wedding bed;
New quilts, new pillows, new bedding ... impeccably dressed wedding beds should be placed on the eve of the wedding night. In this process, it is forbidden for the groom-to-be to sleep alone in the new bed, because it means loneliness after marriage, which is very unlucky. If the groom really has no other place to rest, he can find a big zodiac to sleep with an underage boy, such as the dragon of the zodiac.
8. Avoid saying "goodbye":
When relatives and friends leave after the wedding, the couple and their relatives and friends can't say "goodbye" because the word "goodbye" means parting and parting, which is very bad for the newlyweds. Therefore, when the couple sends the guests off, they should nod or wave goodbye.
9. Avoid visiting:
The taboo that brides don't need to visit relatives and friends on their honeymoon has been handed down from ancient times. Because most people have a taboo psychology towards the bride during their honeymoon, and think it is unlucky for others, and this ominous feeling will not be eliminated until after January, so the bride can't stop by during the honeymoon. In particular, some relatives and friends with elderly people should pay special attention not to visit during the honeymoon period.
10, avoid sending pregnant women:
On the wedding day, when the bride goes out, pregnant women can't see her off, because in ancient times, people thought that seeing her off would bring lotus disaster to the couple, so pregnant women should avoid it when the bride gets married. Moreover, when the bride goes out, fireworks are often set off. There are many people, the scene is crowded and noisy, and the air is turbid. For the sake of pregnant women's health, they should not be allowed to join the farewell party.
Marriage 10 avoid 2 1, avoid marriage in July of the lunar calendar, that is, ghost month marriage, ghost husband and wife.
2, avoid getting married in June of the lunar calendar, meaning a half-moon wife. There is a taboo in Fujian and Taiwan: "Don't get married in June of the lunar calendar, which means a half-moon wife".
It is said that there is a story about a wife who let her husband live at home for the first half of the month and went out to live with her lover for the second half of the month in order not to divorce. Later, people called this state "half-moon wife".
On the day of engagement, no matter how hot the weather is, all the people who take part in the engagement can't fan, fan and disperse for fear of breaking up.
On the wedding day, when the bride goes out, the aunt should avoid it and can't send it away, because "aunt" and "orphan" have the same pronunciation, which is not pleasant to hear.
On the wedding day, the bride should cross the threshold when she enters the man's house.
6. Don't wear clothes with pockets on the bride's wedding day, so as not to take away the wealth at home.
7. On the way to the wedding, if you meet another wedding team, it's called "beaming" to offset each other's blessings. At this time, the matchmakers of both sides must set off firecrackers or exchange flowers to resolve it.
8. In some areas, when the bride becomes a monk, the more she cries, the better, and the more she cries, the less she cries.
9. When placing a new bed, put the bed in a suitable position and avoid facing the sharp corners of the table, wardrobe or any furniture items.
10. After the new bed is laid out, on the eve of the wedding night, the prospective groom should avoid sleeping alone in the new bed, and can find a person with a big zodiac or an underage boy to sleep in, for example, the zodiac belongs to the dragon.
Married 10 avoid 3 1, avoid getting married in June. June belongs to half a year. If you choose to get married in June, there is a saying that you have a wife for half a month. A half-moon wife means no, which means that her husband is easy to cheat.
2. Avoid getting married in July. There is a major festival in July, which is the Mid-Autumn Festival, commonly known as Ghost Festival. It is a traditional memorial day, not suitable for marriage. Moreover, it is unlucky to get married on Halloween and say that there are ghost couples.
3. Avoid engaging fans. Never slap when you are engaged. You can't fan it no matter how hot it is. After all, the fan is homophonic with the "three", and it is easy for people to feel the bad meaning of letting the newcomers disperse.
The orientation of the new bed is positive. The newly-married couple's new bed is exquisitely arranged, and can't be opposite to the table, wardrobe, cupboard or other sharp objects. This will easily lead to disharmony in the lives of newly married couples.
5, avoid eating wedding cakes. There is a custom of eating wedding cakes before marriage, so that relatives and friends can share the joy of the wedding. But the bride can't eat it herself, which means it's unlucky to eat her joy.
6, can't touch the place. When the bride and the man leave the house, they are forbidden to step on the threshold and need to cross it. When the bride walks, the groom's wedding shoes can't be stepped on. No one, including newcomers, can touch the new bed.
7. Marriage needs a new look. The clothes, shoes and articles worn by newlyweds should be brand-new. Besides, clothes can't have pockets. This statement can easily take away the wealth of the family.
8, taboo to say goodbye. After the wedding, when the couple say goodbye to their relatives and friends, never say goodbye. Goodbye means reunion, which means remarriage. Nod, smile and wave.
9, avoid pregnant women to send their relatives. When the bride goes out, she can't let the pregnant woman see her off. Because the old custom thinks that pregnant women symbolize lotus flowers, it is easy to bring disaster to newlyweds. Pregnant women should also take the initiative to avoid it.
10, don't cry at home. In some local customs, the more the bride cries, the happier the newlyweds are. Therefore, it is unlucky not to cry at home when seeing off the bride.