Do not believe! Women have "premarital rooms", which often become a stumbling block on the road of blind date. I saw a post on Zhihu. A girl shared the story of being lovelorn because of buying a house. The girl said that she had a good relationship with her boyfriend and met her parents, and she had reached the point of talking about marriage. Girls have better conditions. She wanted to buy a house of her own before marriage, but the man said: the future wife is not allowed to have property before marriage. Later, the boy broke up and soon married the blind date introduced by his family. The girl thinks it's ironic that they have been together for so many years, not because they can't afford a house but because they bought a house before marriage and broke up.
The boy said that he wanted to find someone to buy a house with, not a girl with a premarital room, so he dumped his girlfriend who bought a premarital room. When we parted, he also said: If you have a house, you can live happily. You can hold the house and cry in the future. Every time you go to that house, you will remember that you lost me because of it. I saw someone reply, "If I could have more houses, I wouldn't mind crying several times."
In marriage, there are some hard conditions, such as a house and a car. Many people even use "no room and no marriage" as an excuse to deliberately marry late and have children late. Since the house is only the purpose, is it a house before marriage? Whose room is really that important? Wenwen is my sister. She is 32 years old. She left a woman behind when she was old. She bought a two-bedroom apartment by mortgage, with a monthly payment of more than 4000 yuan. Supposedly, she is beautiful, has a stable job and has her own suite, so it should not be difficult to find someone. Strangely, people around her introduced her many times and failed in the end. The biggest reason for refusing is her premarital room.
Many boys showed an incomprehensible attitude when they heard that they had repaid their loans after marrying her. At first, Wenwen didn't know why. Later, under the reminder of her good friend, she realized that boys care because their interests have been violated. If Wenwen doesn't have a wedding room, then her salary can be used as husband and wife property, and if the money is not enough, it can also be used as a family allowance. However, Wen Wen still has to pay the mortgage after marriage, and the money has little to do with himself, so boys definitely don't want it. It is said that women are smart, but men are actually more sophisticated. They made a good plan before they got married, and they would not take advantage of girls in vain. Most boys, especially affordable men, actually want to take advantage of girls.
Don't say there's still a loan to pay. Even if the woman buys a house in full before marriage, many men are still unwilling to accept it. After all, the law clearly stipulates that premarital property has nothing to do with your partner. In other words, no matter how many suites you own before marriage, it has nothing to do with men. Some men love face. If he only has a suite and a loan, he will feel the pressure of girls because he has a complete house before marriage. If the other party has multiple suites, his pressure will be even greater. There is always the suspicion of "eating soft rice".
A few years ago, a female friend of mine just graduated from college, and her parents bought her a suite in the county town, paid half of the down payment, and asked her to pay back the rest slowly. My friend is in his twenties to thirties. She didn't have much mortgage left, but she found a boyfriend on the recommendation of a friend. I didn't tell her about having a house before marriage at first. Later, her friend accidentally let the cat out of the bag, and the boy broke up with her that night on the grounds that his friend bought a house but kept it from him, which was a distrust of him. A friend said that she was in distress situation. She didn't tell him because she didn't trust him. It's just that the two of them haven't reached the point of talking about marriage, and she thinks the time is not yet ripe.
Do you think only girls will think more? No, boys think a lot in their feelings. Some people in life think that if he has secrets from himself, the other person will not trust him, but in fact, the relationship between the two people is just not at that stage, so they don't tell him.
But how to explain this situation? People who really understand you don't need you to say too much, people who don't understand you are redundant, everyone is an adult, and there is no need to say something too thoroughly. If you speak too thoroughly, it is easy to cause the other person to think too much. A truly confident man doesn't care if a girl has a premarital room. Only boys who are not confident enough will choose to break up with girls because of a house. But from another perspective, this may also be a good thing. It's best for two people to find out that they disagree with each other before they get married.
Some deep-rooted ideas cannot be explained clearly in a few words. After all, a house is a house. As long as two people have a good relationship, whose house is important? Good couples should understand each other and support each other. Give me a hand when it's good, and give you a hand when it's good, and life will get better and better.
If you keep holding the attitude that the other person can't be better than yourself, it's not love, it's selfishness.