I didn't agree with this sentence before, because our family is very optimistic and open-minded about life. They never care about others and never have a hard time with themselves.
Before I was with my second brother, I had no house or car. The only means of transportation is a second-hand battery car. Because I rented a house and had no money to buy a new car, I bought a second-hand battery car.
Later, we bought a car through our own efforts (mainly by our second brother, of course). I remember when I got off work, my second brother sent me a WeChat, asking me to go to the 4S shop and drive home. Yes, it's as simple as that. Without warning, I drove home when I arrived, just like buying food in the supermarket. But in fact, after buying a car, we have no money on us.
We didn't inform any relatives and friends, and everyone didn't know that we bought a car. Look, second brother is so low-key
Needless to say, my second brother is reliable. When I met him, he was penniless, but he didn't make me suffer for so many years. I rode all the battery cars I bought in those years, and he walked to work alone. I only practiced for 2 days after buying a car, and then I drove to work. He rode a second-hand battery car that I eliminated.
Including the later wedding, except the bride price and banquet, all the expenses were borne by him alone. Jewelry, wedding, wedding car and so on added up to tens of thousands, which once again spent all his savings. At that time, he borrowed 10 thousand yuan from me, and of course he paid it back to me after he got married.
In fact, as a young man who has just worked for a few years, he doesn't have much savings, but he feels safe with me, just like there is a saying: when I am with you, I never envy others. It's only a matter of time before we have what others have.
But in fact, the second brother is under great pressure, but he never says that he always shows a positive side in front of people, but only I know that his truest side is always when he is drunk, and he doesn't even know it.
Before, my mother-in-law also said that her son was a very independent and sensible child since childhood. She has never seen him cry. She is always calm. But when he was drunk, he often hugged me and sobbed gently.
Sometimes they tell me that work is not smooth, and sometimes they say that life is unfair. Whenever this time, my heart is particularly uncomfortable. But when he woke up, he didn't remember what happened when he was drunk. He never admits that he has done such a thing, and he just smiles and perfunctory every time.
Last year, second brother bought a house with a young man. When he came back, he told me how good the environment in that community was. The model house is beautifully decorated and much more comfortable to live in than the house we rented. At that time, I asked the price casually, and it really exceeded our current affordability.
Although he didn't show it, I could feel that he was in a low mood during that time. Sure enough, one night after dinner, he asked me to go downstairs to pick him up. At that time, he drank a little wine and was very depressed. He said a few words that day, which I still remember clearly.
He also cried and said, "Why don't I have a house? Why am I so incompetent? I don't want my parents to be so tired. I just want to buy my own house. Why can't I afford a house? "
Every time I think about it, I feel particularly distressed. Although I didn't ask us to buy a house, he always took it to heart. Sure enough, later, my second brother went to see the contrast property alone, chose the right apartment, and directly informed me to bring my ID card to sign. I have to say, my second brother is still very overbearing.
Today's second brother, in order to buy a house, once again broke. When I believe, he will still bring me more sense of security, and maybe one day he will suddenly give me some surprises!
In fact, the more optimistic people are, the more vulnerable they are. When he is stressed, there will be times when he can't stand it. At this time, all we can do is stay with him, as long as we are with him.
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