Engagement is a marriage custom in many parts of our country. Engagement is usually when a man goes to a woman's house. When you go, you need to bring the woman clothes filled with tobacco, alcohol, pork and fruit. For happiness and good luck, all gifts are even, depending on the situation. In general, there are two cigarettes and two bottles of wine, and some have four cigarettes and four bottles of wine; 4 kg of pork, 6 kg and 8 kg; There are generally 24 kinds of fruit fillings, and some have 48 kinds. Of course, if you bring a lot, you will be called rich and generous; If you take less, you will naturally be considered poor and stingy. But for the woman, not getting married is two families, and getting married is a family, so I don't care so much. The woman gives the man a pair of "high heels" and a belt, which means that this marriage will firmly bind both men and women together. Engagement ceremonies are usually simple. Under the auspices of the matchmaker, both men and women, their parents and some relatives attended the engagement. The ceremony of drinking, eating, talking, recognizing relatives and getting engaged is over. After that, it is about getting married.
Chinese wedding process
1, ancestor worship: the man worships his ancestors before going out to marry the bride.
2. Departure: The wedding team should be even.
3. Firecrackers: Firecrackers should be set off all the way to celebrate the procession of the wedding car.
4. Waiting: When the groom arrives at the woman's house, there will be boys waiting for the groom with tea trays. After the groom gets off the bus and before entering the woman's house, he should reward the boy with a red envelope.
5, please: the groom should hold a bouquet in the room for the bride to get married. At this time, the bride's close friend will stop the groom and forbid him to see the bride. The woman can make a condition for the groom to agree, and then she can enter.
6. Farewell: The bride will bow to her parents to say goodbye, her father will cover her with a veil, and the groom can only bow and salute.
7. Going out: The bride should be escorted to the limousine by the female elder of Fugaode with a bamboo curtain or a black umbrella, because the status of the bride on the wedding day is greater than anyone else, and she can't compete with heaven.
8. Gift car: Shortly after the bride gets on the gift car, the parents of the bride will sprinkle a bowl of water and white rice behind the car, indicating that her daughter will never ask questions again. I wish her daughter food and clothing.
9. Firecrackers: On the way from the woman's house to the man's house, a salute should also be set off all the way.
10, Touch oranges: When the bride's wedding procession arrives at the groom's house, a child with oranges will greet the bride. The bride should caress the orange and give a red envelope as a gift. These two oranges should be peeled by the bride at night, which means "longevity".
1 1. When the bride is taken out of the limousine, a lucky elder of the man will put a bamboo curtain on the bride's head and help her into the hall. When entering the door, the newcomer must not step on the threshold, but cross it.
12, wedding banquet: both Chinese and western wedding ceremonies are quite popular now. Most of them entertain guests at night and hold ceremonies at the same time. At the wedding reception, the bride can take off her wedding dress and put on her evening dress to propose a toast to each table.
13, seeing the guests off: After the wedding banquet, the couple stood at the door to see them off.
14, making trouble in the bridal chamber: The severity of the punishment for the newlyweds depends on whether the newlyweds have teased others at other weddings or whether they have always been loyal to others.
China wedding dress
The groom can wear robes, and the bride can wear a dress with a feather crown.
The rockhopper is a phoenix model decorated with silver or other textures, and the Bi Xia is a red shawl. Generally speaking, the bride wears a red silk coat and trousers, embroidered shoes and embroidered auspicious patterns, such as mandarin ducks, plum blossoms and lotus flowers.
Chinese clothing can be customized, rented in clothing stores, or reserved for wedding photos in photo studios. Some photo studios will borrow wedding day clothes for free in the shooting suite.
Chinese wedding role arrangement
The betrothed party: borne by the man's parents. Propose to the bride and give her a gift, which was called "gift collection" in the old society. In China culture, gifts usually include all kinds of food and items that indicate good luck. Like tea.
Matchmaker: A person who is closely related to both families, who is responsible for inviting the elders of both sides to meet and promoting communication between the two sides.
Boy: Played by the unmarried man of the man's family, he is responsible for bringing tea and water to meet the sedan chair during the wedding.
Uniform: played by several beautiful young unmarried women in the woman's family, helping the bride get off the sedan chair when she gets off.
Wedding emcee: Announce the official start of the ceremony, introduce important relatives and friends of both sides, and give a blessing speech.
Moderator: A respected elder or friend will make a speech for the wedding.
Photographer: A professional cameraman who records the whole wedding process, takes photos of the couple and guests, and leaves precious memories for the couple.
Chinese wedding site selection
In the traditional wedding ceremony in China, there is usually a "wedding wine" at the woman's house in the morning and a wedding reception at the man's house at noon. At noon, the best man helped to set up a memorial place in the men's hall. However, nowadays, more and more couples will hold wedding banquets in restaurants even if China ceremony is adopted.
1. Eat jiaozi: Before getting married, the groom will eat jiaozi with his parents, brothers and girlfriends in the boudoir to show his farewell. Mother fed jiaozi to her daughter, and the bride cried.
2. hi: after the groom meets the woman's family, he will hold a bouquet in the room for the bride to get married. At this time, the bride's girlfriend should deliberately stop the groom, but the condition is that the groom agrees, usually with a red envelope gift.
3. Farewell: The bride has to say goodbye to her parents, and the groom only needs to bow and salute.
4. Going out: The bride should be escorted to the limousine by a female elder with a bamboo plaque or a black umbrella, because the bride can't see the sunshine overhead, and the other party hopes to live a happy life like this female elder. (Note: Prepare a bamboo plaque and paste a happy word on it)
5. Gift car: Bamboo plaque can be placed on the back cover of the gift car.
6. Worship fans: Before the bride gets on the limousine, an auspicious little boy holds a fan (put it on a tea tray) for the bride, and the bride returns a red envelope to show her gratitude. (Note: Prepare a fan and bring two small red envelopes)
7. Never say goodbye: Never say goodbye to a woman's family when everyone leaves her home.
8. Throw a fan: After the car starts, the bride should throw the fan out of the window to show that she will not bring her bad temper to her husband's family. The little boy will pick up a fan and give it to her family. They will give her a red envelope to thank her.
9. Firecrackers: The limousine leaves the woman's house to set off firecrackers.
10. Touch oranges: A limousine will be delivered to the man's house, and a child with two oranges will welcome the couple. The bride should gently touch the orange and then thank the red envelope.
1 1. Guide the bride: When the bride gets off the bus, a lucky elder of the man will hold a bamboo plaque on her head and help her into the hall.
12. Avoid stepping on the threshold, but cross it.
13. Step on the tile across the brazier: After the bride enters the hall, she should step on the tile across the brazier.
14. Entering the bridal chamber: The newlyweds took the groom's trousers in advance and sat on the bench together, saying that they both wanted to have a boy in the future. No man is allowed into the bridal chamber. (Choose the time to enter the bridal chamber)
15. Don't bring a new bed: on the wedding day, no one can bring a new bed, and the bride can't lie down, so as not to be sick in bed all the year round. In addition, after going to bed, you should find an underage boy to sleep in bed with the groom on the eve of your wedding.
16. set off firecrackers and go to the wedding reception: the limousine leaves the bridal chamber and sets off firecrackers.
17. Enter the hotel lounge (honeymoon suite) and friends come to see the bride.
The wedding has begun (playing music)
The guests are seated.
The host is seated.
Introduce people to their seats.
The witness is seated.
Male and female guests attract the bride and groom to enter the venue slowly (playing music). The entrance to the main table needs a red carpet, and the four flower girl need to drag their wedding dresses to create an atmosphere. Specially-assigned person scatters stamens, salutes the couple, and projects and casts carbon monoxide clouds at the same time.
The witness read the marriage certificate.
The bride and groom exchange ornaments and the groom kisses the bride.
Witness's speech
Introducer's speech
Congratulatory message from guests
Congratulation of the officiating person
The bride and groom thanked each other and bowed to the guests.
Champagne is opened, the couple cuts the cake, and everyone drinks a glass. Let's raise our glasses!
19. Brides change their dresses
20. propose a toast to all the tables
2 1. seeing them off: After the wedding reception, the newlyweds will stand at the door to see them off. They must carry tea trays full of cigarettes and sweets.
22. Making trouble in the bridal chamber: Friends and relatives accompanying the couple to make trouble in the bridal chamber will make the couple unforgettable.
● Sedan chair departure: With gongs and drums, suona and lion dance, the sedan chair begins to depart. Traditionally, the bride should be carried out by her brother and put in a sedan chair. Modern people are mostly only children, and they can only be done by cousins or groomsmen, usually with their backs to each other. At present, the distance of sedan chair is only a form. Unless the two families are very close, it will be very tiring to carry them from one end of Shanghai to the other. However, it is customary to give a red envelope to the sedan chair, otherwise it will intentionally shake the sedan chair and make the bride "feel better."
● Archery across the brazier: In ancient ceremonies, the bride crossed the brazier in a sedan chair, but now it is usually the bride who directly crossed with the help of the matchmaker. Then, before getting off the sedan chair, the groom will draw a bow and shoot three red arrows at the sedan door to drive away the evil spirits that the bride may be contaminated along the way.
● Visiting the church and drinking a glass of wine: Some people have to cross the saddle after the brazier, indicating that the newlyweds are safe after marriage; Then, the groom picked up Sipa on the bride's head with a weight wrapped in red cloth. At this time, it is time for couples to pay a formal New Year call. The most important part after the meeting is not toasting, but offering tea to the high halls of both sides. Usually at this time, a group of people are in tears, the scene is touching, and there is deep affection in the warm holiday atmosphere.
With one heart and one mind, thanks to the media: in modern wedding ceremonies, many things that should be in the bridal chamber are moved out for display. For example, tying the hair should be a couple cutting some hair for each other in the bridal chamber and keeping it as a token of the relationship between husband and wife. Now this is a public performance. Later, the mothers of both sides lit dragon and phoenix candles, and the couple exchanged incense books and jewels as keepsakes, and then asked the matchmaker to give them hoofs.
Generally, the man goes to the woman's house to pay New Year greetings, and before noon, he goes to the man's house to set off firecrackers to worship his parents all over the world. At noon, he raised a glass to see the guests off. This is probably the process.
However, local customs are different, and many details and rules are different, such as what the man wants to bring to the woman, what he can't bring, who to pick up, and so on.
According to the wedding custom and etiquette in China, the bride and groom will bring many gifts home after three days of marriage, which is also called "going home". This is a kind of etiquette in China. The bride's parents attach great importance to the etiquette of returning home for three days, which is an important event for the bride's whole family. Therefore, when the bride returns to China for three days, she should prepare gifts and try to leave a good impression on her father-in-law. Give wine, sugar, tea, fruit, etc. to your door. You should be prepared in advance. Gifts must be something that the bride's parents like, and the gifts delivered to the door should be fashionable. To return to your parents' home, you must arrive at your parents' home between 10. The bride and groom should greet the elderly first, the groom should be renamed as parents, and show kindness and enthusiasm to relatives, friends and neighbors. When the whole family has dinner, the bride and groom should sit aside and raise their glasses to thank everyone for their wishes for their wedding. Don't rush home after dinner, talk to your parents for a while or have some entertainment with your family. Go home before sunset around 4 pm and invite the elderly and brothers and sisters to your home.