The marriage custom of "pressing the bed" is widely spread. The night before the man gets married, the groom's family will invite one or three young boys and men to live with the groom and sleep in a new bed in the new house. In order to ward off evil spirits, avoid unlucky things like Bao Er, and ensure the peace and happiness of newlyweds, since then, the custom of "pressing the bed" or "pressing the kang" has gradually spread throughout the country. And gradually formed the local marriage customs.
The custom of getting married in different places and pressing the bed
The time of the custom of pressing the bed for marriage varies from place to place. Some have to wait a day or two, and some have to wait five or six days after the wedding. In some places, the children who press the bed deliberately entertain themselves and extend the press time at will. Especially for children aged 17 and 18, because they know that both husband and wife are eager for intimacy after marriage, they deliberately intervene among the bride and groom, so that their wishes cannot be realized. At this time, the bride has just stepped into the threshold of recruiting young women in the girls' studio. On the wedding night, there were so many younger brothers in the husband's family sleeping in their beds. They are afraid, shy and uneasy. They huddled in the corner and never dared to fall asleep.
As for the origin of the custom of getting married and pressing the bed, most farmers can't say clearly, but it has been passed down from generation to generation and is still used by people today. Most people think that people just regard pressing the bed as a form of disturbing the bridal chamber. Especially in some areas, the selection of people who press the bed is not so strict. Crowds of boys in the village ran to the new house to press the bed, which people humorously called "teasing the new wife." It can be seen that the custom of pressing the bed is actually a folk wedding game.
Wedding Bed Custom: Conditions of Wedding Bed
The so-called custom of getting married and pressing the bed is that the groom's family invites an old man with two children to make the bed the night before the young man and woman get married, and then the groom invites one or two younger brothers to sleep with him in the new bed. The person who presses the bed is also qualified, and no one can press it casually.
First of all, the person who presses the bed must be a young man younger than the groom.
They are usually their own brothers, or uncles and cousins. If there is no such candidate within the relatives of the studio talents, the groom can also find friends and good classmates in the same village.
Second, the second condition of bed pressure is that Bi must be an unmarried youth.
If it is the younger brother who gets married as a result, they already know the mystery of marriage and the ambiguous relationship between men and women, so the groom's family will no longer list them in the invitation. All the people invited to press the bed are young men. They are symbols of purity and masculinity. Pressing the bed is an auspicious thing for married people. As invited people, it is also an honor to be selected after heavy screening, and they will be very happy from the heart.
In addition, folklore says that the bride's bed has aura, and sleeping can cure all diseases. After sleeping in the bride's bed, the back and leg pain will recover immediately.
In addition to inviting boys aged seventeen or eighteen to press the bed, some places also pay attention to inviting boys aged four or five to press the bed, which is considered from the perspective of continuing children and grandchildren. The boy on this bed, like the boy pressing the sedan chair, is a symbol of the bride's birth after marriage. If a boy accidentally urinates on a new bed while pressing the bed, it is auspicious and makes people happier.
The custom of pressing the bed means that happiness and early birth are inevitable. I used to need a boy to press the bed (boys have priority over girls). With the development of society and the progress of the times, they are all only children now. It is not easy to find a suitable boy among relatives to press the bed. These ancient customs are slowly changing in the city, and urban youth are more willing to replace the baby who presses the bed with a lovely doll. Thus, the word "pressing the doll" appeared.
First, who will buy news dolls?
Different places have different customs. In some places, men buy news dolls at home, in some places, news dolls may be bought by brother-in-law, and in some places, they may be given by relatives and friends. Therefore, who will buy this news doll should be decided according to local customs.
Second, the use of news dolls
Put a brand-new mattress, quilt and pillow on the couple's bed. After dressing up, put the doll on the bed. Now there are four or six pillows in wedding bedding. When tidying up, most of them will lean on pillows.
3. What kind of dolls are suitable for news dolls?
When people buy a news doll, they usually choose a plush toy as the news doll. Mainly in the choice of modeling, there is a good understanding and a good choice. According to different understandings, some places will choose golden couple toys and put them on the wedding bed to symbolize the early birth of your son. However, with the progress of the times, there are no special regulations on which type of toys to choose as pressing dolls. Most people choose what dolls to use as pressing dolls according to their own preferences. For example, some people like marine animals, and they may choose marine plush toys as pressing dolls.
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