My cousin Selimay is my uncle's daughter and the oldest of our cousins. We have been afraid of her since childhood. As far as I can remember, she was smart and competitive, with a bad temper, and could not get a grain of sand in her eyes.

I can't accept that such a strong woman would choose to drink pesticides to commit suicide because of family conflicts.

Downs, her second husband married someone else on the fifteenth day after her coma.

02

Cousin Selima was only 20 years old when she first got married. Her first marriage lasted only a year.

At that time, although Selimai had just turned 20, she was old compared with the unmarried girls around her. The matchmaker at the door tried his best to fix the match, as if Selimay and every adult boy who wanted to fix the matchmaker were right. In the end, the family chose a handsome young man with a good family background for Selimai.

I can't remember the last name of my cousin Selimai's first husband, except that Selimai kept smiling and sipping her mouth on the wedding day, which is very rare for anyone.

We little brothers and sisters have never seen her look at us so gently, and we all look around her with joy. She wears beautiful makeup, her face is painted white, and her delicate red lips are shyly sipping.

At noon, the wedding car came. Surrounded by us children, Selimay was helped into the car by two women.

I was particularly puzzled when I saw tears on Selimai's face. Why is everyone laughing? Didn't they see Selima crying?

The wedding car flew away and disappeared at the corner of the path. Menstruation chased the wedding car and cried all the way. When the bus was completely out of sight, she sat on the side of the road patting her thighs and crying.

This time, I am more confused. Why are only Selimar and my aunt crying, and why are everyone else laughing?

03

Things that are expected too much often end badly.

They divorced after only one year of marriage.

At first, my cousin Selimai followed the newly married man to the city to make a living, and they rented a house in the suburbs.

At first, men brought back a big live chicken every few nights. Later, one night, Selima fell asleep. The man called the door in a panic and heard hurried footsteps outside. Someone shouted to catch a thief.

Selimai became suspicious. She reminded the man by innuendo that he only told her to eat and drink well.

One day, Selima decided to follow the man personally to see what he was doing.

As expected, the man jumped into a courtyard wall at night, and in a short time, he caught some rabbits with sacks.

Selimai ran back to the rental house and drove the man back. She packed her things and planned to force the man to stop by divorce.

Men speak ill, call names and comfort Selimar.

A few days later, the man brought back colorful new clothes.

This time, the man told her: marry a chicken and follow the chicken, marry a dog and follow the dog, watch the divorce, and Selimar drinks the northwest wind.

To men's surprise, Selimai really chose a divorce. She can stand poverty, but she can't stand a big man sneaking around.

At that time, in the small rural areas in the northwest where we lived, the phenomenon of divorce in Hui families was not common, and it was rare for women to ask for divorce on their own initiative.

The adults thought that Selima had done something shameful, but now it seems simple. As long as you send people back and tell their families not to sneak around, you can still live this life.

They discussed buying some gifts for the man's home.

However, they forget that this is Selimai who doesn't rub sand in his eyes, but Selimai who can make up his own mind!

Selimar is determined not to go back.

At first, my uncle insisted on sending Selimai back. He felt it a shame to have a divorced daughter at home. Selimai yelled at her uncle, "Would you rather I go back and wait for him to go to prison for reeducation through labor than divorce me and go back to my parents?" After hearing what she said, no one dared to persuade, so Selimai came back after a year of marriage.

I heard that my cousin Selimay's first husband started taking heroin again, and was finally caught stealing and sentenced to three years in prison.

Later, my cousin Selimai came to my house to play. She looked at my mother's photo album, which still contained wedding photos of her and her ex-husband. She asked me to help her find scissors and cut the image of her ex-husband from her side.

Up to now, there is a photo of my cousin Selimai wearing a red wedding dress at home, but in this photo, my cousin Selimai has lost an arm, which is the trace of scissors cutting.

04

Cousin Selimai never believes what others say, saying that a married woman can never go home. It was only after her divorce that she deeply understood the meaning of this sentence.

Senior JIU has four children, and Selimar has a sister and two younger brothers.

My cousin Bao Jun is Selimai's youngest brother. At ordinary times, everyone protects him at home and lets him go, but my cousin Selimai is not used to him at all.

Baojun always clashed with Selimai, either because he cooked too much salt or because Selimai wouldn't let Baojun watch TV.

On that occasion, my cousin Selimai and my cousin Baojun had a fight. The reason is that my cousin Baojun put a piece of meat with chopsticks to prevent my cousin Selimai from eating it. Cousin Selimai hit cousin Baojun's hand with chopsticks, and the two started fighting.

Cousin Baojun cursed Selimai to get out, saying Selimai was no longer a member of this family and had no face to stay at home.

My uncle and aunt were afraid that cousin Selimai was sensitive to the fact that she divorced and returned to her parents' house, so they reprimanded cousin Baojun, and my uncle slapped cousin Baojun.

My cousin, who had never been angry, saw that his uncle and aunt were defending his cousin Selimai, so he left a letter and ran away from home.

At first, the adults thought that the child was just having a little temper, maybe he went to a classmate's house to play, and everyone just went to the nearby classmate's house to ask.

However, as time went by, my cousin Baojun came out of thin air and there was no news.

My uncle and aunt put everything down and inquired about the whereabouts of my cousin Baojun everywhere. As soon as my parents had time, they took a bus to the surrounding cities and counties to help find it. searching for you was also listed in the newspaper, but nothing was found.

Cousin Selimai lives in guilt and anxiety every day, looking at her parents who are disappointed every time. She also hopes to see cousin Baojun come back when she opens the door one day.

Slowly, as the second cousin's wedding day approached, everyone gave up looking for it and put their thoughts on cousin Baojun in their hearts. Only occasionally someone in the village goes out and asks others for help.

14-year-old cousin Bao Jun has been gone for 8 years.

05

In the 1990s, my cousin Selimai went to work in a chemical fertilizer plant to catch up with the tide of large-scale township enterprises in society. In this fertilizer plant, she met her second husband, Downs.

Downs is divorced, too. His ex-wife left with her daughter, who lives with her 6-year-old son Wen Wen.

Perhaps cousin Selimai was anxious to get rid of cousin Baojun's running away from home, and she soon married Downs.

They just got married at home and never got a marriage certificate.

Therefore, Downs married another woman five days after her cousin Selimay fell into a coma/kloc-0.

I remember that on my cousin's wedding day, menstruation was a guest (staying at the man's house that night and helping the bride wash, dress up and tidy up the new house the next morning), and I stayed with menstruation when I was a child.

That night, my aunt and I slept on Downs' mother's small heatable adobe sleeping platform, and his mother and Wenwen slept with us.

I can't forget the smell of the quilt that Downs' mother brought us. That smell made me cry. I poked my head out and the smell in the room made me sick. When I put my hand into the bed, I was smoked and cried. ZSZSZSZ covered her clothes with a small quilt and listened to Downs' mother tell how Downs and his ex-wife divorced.

The next day, my aunt finished washing early and went to help my cousin Selimai clean up the new house. The ground was covered with sunflower seed shells. At night, cousins Selimai and Downs chatted while eating melon seeds.

After the marriage, Downs started his old job again. He used to paint houses and occasionally sell paint. Sometimes I get a job far away from home, and I have to stay at home until the work is finished.

After his divorce from his ex-wife, his parents contracted hundreds of acres of land in the distance and lived in the town, so he had to change his job close to home to take care of Wen Wen.

When cousin Selimai married their family, she naturally assumed the responsibility of looking after the house and taking care of Wenwen.

Wenwen is six years old, chubby, and speaks a little Lickitung. He is usually very naughty and was beaten by Downs. The old man Tang Siyi is both a father and a mother. Just feed Wen Wen and warm him. He doesn't care about dressing his children cleanly and beautifully. Neighbors can't help but praise Towns for finding a good stepmother for Wenwen when they see that Wenwen always dresses neatly after her cousin gets married.

06

However, the bad thing is my cousin Selimar's temper.

At first, Wen Wen didn't know her stepmother's temperament, but she was as naughty as ever.

My cousin Selimay wants to live a good life with Downs. Although she wants to help Downs bring good writing, she always corrects her writing behavior too much.

I remember that one of our brothers and sisters made a mistake and always scolded the adults for being too spoiled, saying: be kind to children and don't give him a good face.

But she didn't consider how difficult it is to be a good-hearted stepmother with such a bad temper.

Downs was inevitably unhappy when he saw that his cousin Selimai always severely reprimanded Wenwen. However, he also saw that Wenwen had become much smarter under the education of his cousin Selimai, and he slowly let go, as long as Selimai didn't get rough with Wen Wen.

With the growth of Wen Wen, the primary school in the village was merged, and he went to the primary school in the town.

Wen Wen, who goes to study in the town, occasionally goes to his grandparents' house for lunch. Grandparents will take the opportunity to ask Wen Wen's stepmother how she is doing.

The child is so young, I don't know what I said, and the old man who loves his grandson is regarded as evidence that his stepmother abused the child.

Since Wenwen went to study in the town, Downs has always received complaints from her mother that her cousin Selimay is not good to her children and asked Downs to take this opportunity to clean her up. Downs still intends to defend my cousin, because her mother interferes with her family affairs too much, so she often speaks ill of her.

Seeing that her son doesn't listen to her now, but also defends her daughter-in-law, and that her cousin Selimai and Downs have never been pregnant since they got married, Downs' mother's impression of her cousin Selimai is getting worse and worse.

That autumn, Downs got a job and left home for more than ten days. I don't know what the school charges. Cousin Selimay has no cash. She remembers that before Downs, she sold several barrels of paint to her neighbor, but the neighbor's money was never paid back, so she went to ask her neighbor for money.

Neighbors said the money was given before, but cousin Selimai insisted that she didn't want the money. Finally, both sides have a pair of proofs, that is, Wen Wen has left the money in the name of her cousin.

My cousin is ashamed and angry, waiting for Wenwen to come home from school to pick him up. Wen Wen was afraid that Cousin Selimai would beat him, and dared not admit that she had left the money. Cousin Selimay decided to cure Wenwen's lies.

As a result, my cousin hit Wenwen with a broom. Wenwen ran to grandma's house in town and didn't come home for several days.

The first war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law began when cousin Selimai asked for literature.

Downs' mother just won't let her cousin take Wenwen home. Her cousin is worried that if she stays with her grandmother, her children will be spoiled. She is also worried that Downs will not be able to explain when she comes back. The two sides quarreled several times about her children.

After a few days of stalemate, Wen Wen chose to go back with his cousin Selimai. According to the child's words: "Although my mother is fierce to me, she knits my sweater and washes my clothes."

When Downs came back, he and his cousin Selimay had a heated argument about her writing. Because of the difficulty of his second marriage, he has been so tolerant of Selimai's temper in recent years, partly because he hopes Selimai will be better to Wenwen.

06

When Wenwen 12 years old, Downs cried and called my father to complain that my cousin Selimai had gone too far this time and hurt Downs' heart. The implication is that I hope our relatives here can persuade cousin Sherimai to change her temper, otherwise the marriage can't continue.

Our hometown is near the Yellow River. Every summer, people always swim in the shallow waters of the Yellow River, so drowning often happens.

On the first day of Wenwen's summer vacation, a neighbor's child drowned in the Yellow River.

Cousin Selimay is worried that Wenwen will swim in the Yellow River with her older children. She drew several circles on Wenwen's arm.

Naughty Wen Wen still goes swimming. In a rage, cousin Selimai tied Wenwen under the jujube tree in the middle of the yard and let it bask in the vicious sun at noon, but she went back to the house and fell asleep.

Coincidentally, Wenwen's grandmother planted a mature watermelon, and she sent a big watermelon to Wenwen by bike.

Grandma Wenwen, who walked into the yard, was almost stunned by what she saw. She saw her poor grandson tied to a tree as a prisoner, while her cousin Selimai slept in the house.

When Downs came home from a busy day outside, he found his mother sitting in the yard hugging Wenwen and crying out of breath. He asked why. Downs didn't resist, so he raised the wooden stick in the yard and hit his cousin Selimay.

Where was cousin Selimai beaten? Although she felt that she had gone too far, she felt wronged and wronged when she thought that she was doing it for the safety of writing. She also pulled Downs' hair, and they scuffled.

Afterwards, Downs finally calmed his mother and apologized to his cousin Selimay for family harmony.

However, he was also shocked by this incident. When I think of my son being tied to a jujube tree by my cousin Selimai to bask in the sun, he can't help crying with my father on the phone.

07

This time, my cousin Selimai committed suicide by drinking pesticides, which almost caused death and alarmed the public security bureau.

Wenwen cursed his cousin Selimai, and his cousin slapped Wenwen in the face. Wenwen's nose was bleeding.

Downs rushed up and kicked his cousin Selimay in the stomach. Cousin is in a hurry. She picked up the scissors next to her and plunged into Downs. Downs was stabbed in the stomach.

Watching Downs shed a lot of blood, cousin Selimai was afraid. Listening to Downs crying for cousin Selimai to die, she rushed to the warehouse and picked up a bottle of pesticide and poured it down.

Neighbor called the police and dialed 120.

The police looked at it as a domestic matter, but only took a look and left.

120 first aid in time. Cousin Selimay got her life back, but she is still in a coma.

However, just five days after Selimar's coma/kloc-0, Downs married another woman and went home.

My uncle's family wanted to get an explanation, but my cousin Selimai never got a certificate with Downs, so she could only watch Downs marry a third wife.

I heard that Downs cried when he married his third wife.

I don't know whether what others said is true or not, except that my father said that Downes said at the bedside of cousin Selimai that she would have a good life after waking up.

08

The year before last, Xiao Yan's neighbors said that Wenwen 17 drowned while swimming in the Yellow River, and Downs was heartbroken.

When Wenwen was mentioned again, cousin Selimai was silent for a while, and tears flowed down.

Today, my 40-year-old cousin Selimai is still single, selling clothes in a clothing mall in the county, buying a house in the city with her savings and having her own home.

Not long ago, she was ill, swollen for no reason, unable to find the cause, and her health was getting worse every day.

Goodbye, cousin Selimay. You can't see car-scrapping in your brow. People are much gentler than before.