This article is written for all psychologists and people who are troubled by social fears!

Hello, I'm An Feng. I used to have serious social phobia and stuttering phobia for more than 20 years. Later, without seeing a doctor, taking medicine and needing anyone's help, I successfully got rid of the psychological barrier of social phobia that has plagued me for many years through self-help. I am currently engaged in social phobia, self-confidence improvement and super speech counseling training.

The problem of social fear may be incomprehensible, incomprehensible and incredible to outsiders. They don't understand why things that are so natural in social interaction make people who are troubled by social fears nervous. They can't understand why nervousness makes social terrorists so miserable. They are even more surprised that social terrorists frequently avoid social activities.

These symptoms of social fear that ordinary people can't understand are like knocking over a spice jar for people in the social fear circle. Because their feelings about social fear are real. Therefore, social phobia has a unique voice in the painful feelings caused by social phobia!

They love to socialize and fear to the bone! It hurts to the bone! Hate to the bone! Helpless to the bones!

They love society so much that they don't want to throw it away. They are only satisfied if it is always around. Even if the fear of society makes them feel painful and unbearable, and they want to escape again and again, they are willing to hold it in their arms! How many sleepless nights, they secretly shed tears because of the pain of social fear, and secretly made up their minds and vowed earnestly that if the social fear cannot be shattered in this life, they will never be human beings, and they will never be at odds with social fear, either larger foe or making the gods cry!

It stands to reason that social terrorists are so closely related to social fears that they should understand social fears. But this is really not the case! Just like a couple living together, there will be a big gap in life. The person sleeping next to you, you may not know him at all. Although soul mate couples exist, they are very few after all! Social phobia is the same. Although social phobia has been in close contact with social phobia for many years, it is really like a couple who have lived together for many years but don't know each other at all or even have a heart. Therefore, if you don't know your other half, you can't fix your other half and make him happy. When he cheated on you, there was nothing you could do, but let the green hats be put on your head one after another. Because the people around you are just a most familiar stranger to you!

But why? Why don't you know your other half? Sometimes, fate can make people happy together!

The youngest student I have contacted is only 9 years old, and the oldest is over 70 years old. Most of the students are between 18-45 years old. Social fear has been with them for so many years. Social fear is their close friend, but do they really understand social fear? In fact, for social terrorists themselves, social fear is just a familiar stranger to them! Social terrorists don't really understand their social fears!

Therefore, even people who are troubled by social fear are closely related to social fear, regardless of your contact with me. They have been inseparable for so many years ... so many years ... and they don't understand social fear, not to mention those who have never experienced social fear. Of course they don't understand social fear!

No direct contact, no right to speak!

Therefore, this is the fundamental reason why a person who is troubled by social fear always seeks the help of a psychological counselor hopefully, but returns full of sadness and disappointment!

You may have questions when you write here. Are you trying to tell us that ordinary counselors have no experience of social fear? Are those counselors really not afraid of society?

This is a good question.

Let's put it this way: friends who have psychological troubles, especially those who have had psychological counseling, especially those who know the industry of psychotherapy, should know the truth that people who are interested in psychology or psychotherapy are mostly people who have psychological obstacles or serious psychological obstacles now or in the past. In other words, if a person is interested in psychology and psychotherapy, we can say with certainty that he has suffered or is suffering from serious psychological problems! Because only when there are serious psychological problems will he pay attention to psychology and study it persistently. The more persistent a person is in studying psychology, the more serious his psychological obstacle may be! Therefore, everyone in psychology may have had a very serious psychological confusion.

Me too!

This truth is actually easy to understand, just as a person's concern for something shows that he is lacking in this matter. Only when a person is hungry will he pay attention to and be interested in food. People who like to study food are mostly delicious or have some kind of love complex.

As Jolin Tsai said in a song "I heard that love is back", "Love is a need and a lack, so we all like love songs ..."

The same is true of psychological disorders. Only when a person is psychologically confused will he want to fill his shortcomings with psychology. However, can psychology meet the needs of mentally troubled people (here refers to social phobia in a narrow sense)? Can psychology really help them get rid of psychological confusion?

I saw a CCTV program called "The Road to Health" before, and the title of that issue was "Stuttering". One guest invited by the program group is a psychologist who has been engaged in stuttering correction for many years, and the other two are rehabilitation students from other stuttering correction classes (not related to this stuttering correction doctor). Co-hosts * * * four people.

Needless to say, the host population of CCTV must be the best, which is one in a thousand. Such as Cui Yongyuan and Sa Beining. , not only clear thinking, fluent expression, but also very quick response. But you know what? Having said that, I want to reveal a secret to you, that is: in fact, all hosts have eloquence worship complex! You didn't expect that, did you? In fact, what you can't expect is that all stutterers actually have an eloquence worship complex worse than the host! The reason I mentioned above.

In the program, after the host made the opening introduction, the stuttering orthodontist spoke and explained the principle of stuttering to the audience. I didn't expect the stuttering orthodontist to get stuck just after the first sentence:

"Ah ... ah ..."

Then he bowed his head in embarrassment and shame and didn't go on. .....

Then there are two successful students in the stuttering correction class. The two students spoke quickly and eloquently, and excitedly said a lot of sentences in a row, which was both a comparison and an example. Very happy! Say that finish, I sat there, head high, chest straight, with a sunny smile. The powerful gas field illuminates the stuttering orthodontist and suddenly there is no gas field! You know, this is a live CCTV program!

How do you feel when you see this?

I'm not sure what the stuttering orthodontist thought at that time, but I can be sure that the stuttering orthodontist may be embarrassed, afraid, evasive and painful because of stuttering!

What about the two stuttering correction students?

Of course, they speak very fluently. You know, fluent speaking, humorous, good at teasing and dripping with routines are the gorgeous life that stutterers pursue!

But! Be ashamed of stuttering and proud of not stuttering. This is actually the biggest misunderstanding of stutterers!

In my opinion, there is only one standard for a person to get rid of the fear of stuttering: no longer afraid of stuttering!

On the contrary, if a person is still afraid of stuttering, then he is still afraid of stuttering, so sorry, he has not got rid of stuttering fear at all!

Stuttering is like this, and so is social fear.

I once had an assistant. He used to be a psychological counselor of Baidu Post Bar. He helps people who are troubled by social fears to treat social fears in Baidu Post Bar. Yes, you are right! Now in Baidu Post Bar to help social fear, the treatment of social fear!

Seeing this, you may have questions: huh? Why does he turn to you when he can help others treat social fears? Does he still have social fears? You may not believe me if you want to say why! I don't want to scare you, but as a helper, as a psychological counselor, out of professional ethics and my professional ethics, as well as my personal love for society, sense of responsibility and mission, I also want to reveal the truth objectively and realistically-this psychological counselor is a serious social phobia patient and has not left home for five years!

Then the consultant asked me what to do. I suggest that he can only get rid of social fear by coming to the stadium for training. Only by coming to the field for training can he understand that a ton of theory is not as good as one or two actions! But he didn't come to our actual combat course because he was afraid or afraid to face some things.

Are you scared? What an absurd fact this is! A patient with severe social phobia who can't leave home for five years actually helps others treat social phobia in the virtual world! I wonder how many consultants are hiding behind the internet!

Everyone should understand that there are too many people in the psychological counseling industry. You can search for psychotherapy online, search a lot, find a large piece, and dig a big car. I joked in the open class that Morita therapy books sold for 20 cents at the stall. Why are they so cheap? Because it's redundant! The flood is too great!

Everyone should understand that the history of psychology is short, there are many schools, and the schools are controversial and incompatible with each other. There has never been a standardized environment. As a result, many so-called psychological counselors have no real talent and practical knowledge, and fish in troubled waters. Therefore, we must understand that although some psychologists have experienced social fear, they may not get rid of it themselves, and they may still be trapped in the maze of social fear. Otherwise, psychological chicken soup will not regard social phobia as a cancer of the soul.

Everyone should understand that not every consultant is qualified to help others! We don't know a consultant to know his education background, whether he is a returnee, whether he is a doctor, whether he is a hospital, whether he is chicken soup, and whether his theory is high or not. But is this consultant a real helper or a real guide! Is it a real experience! Because only those who have really experienced it can do it, and they are qualified to help those who really need help! No one spent thousands of dollars to buy a certificate!

The development of psychotherapy in China is short, and many aspects are not mature enough. But I hope that every help-seeker should know whether he is qualified to help others before deciding to engage in psychological counseling. If a psychiatrist is still in trouble, how can he help others well Seeing this, you may have questions, and you may think: Then why did some help seekers finally find such an incompetent consultant?

There are at least three reasons for this:

First, social terrorists themselves have the characteristics of serious cognitive misunderstanding, immature mind and low recognition ability, which is enough to make them lost on the road of seeking help, just like some people take medicine or have surgery because they are nervous about speaking.

Second, the real society is afraid of success, and practical experience will not overemphasize the importance of theory. On the contrary, those so-called consultants who are in a misunderstanding and don't understand social fears can only use the theory of ineffectiveness to prevaricate the seekers and emphasize the importance of the theory, especially the theory of psychological chicken soup copied from books. However, the characteristics of learning theory, listening to theory or starting from small things in life, although simple and easy, are ineffective or ineffective. The * * sound with the timid personality characteristics of social phobia is easy to make troubled people go in the wrong direction and go the wrong way.

Third, the short history of psychology, uneven quality of personnel, lack of personal transcendence experience, etc ... are all reasons for the lack of professional skills. Because before the birth of "Ahn Fung Transcending Technology", there was no professional technology for social phobia in the world! It's more of a psychotherapy theory, so the probability of a helper encountering psychological chicken soup is greater!

Although social fear is uncomfortable, it is painful and terrible, which is true. But solving social fear is not as difficult as psychotherapy says, but very simple, it only takes 5 days at most!

? One: Why is social fear called a world problem by psychotherapy? ?

Seeking truth from facts, counselors in psychotherapy lack direct experience of self-transcendence of social fear, so without experience, there is no effective technology to solve the problem of social fear! An Feng has always had a view that a real social fear instructor and a real social fear experiencer should not only use theory and technology to coach the troubled, but also use him to fully influence the help-seekers.

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What does he usually do,

His usual words and deeds, every move, every smile,

Every expression, every movement,

His manners,

His manners,

His little universe,

His spirit,

His soul,

His sincerity ... infected those who sought help.

Only in this way can social terrorists really change! It's a bit like teaching by example is more important than words. Obviously, there is no such person in psychotherapy. What kind of person? Of course, it is a successful person who transcends social fear or stuttering and transcends himself! Therefore, without real psychotherapy experience, it is difficult to solve the problem of social fear stuttering. This is why social phobia and stuttering are called "world problems" by psychotherapy!

No experience, no experience, no understanding!

For example, an expert who plays antiques can say that he has a good idea about antiques, but if you ask him to speak 5G, he may not understand. It is easy for us to feel directly from his state that he is not good at it. For example, a marriage and family counselor who has experienced various ups and downs in marriage and finally achieved a happy and sweet marriage life will make him very professional!

Therefore, being good at, understanding and being professional must come from the direct experience of success!

Imagine this:

Will you find a master of ceremonies who has never presided over a wedding and only read relevant books to preside over your wedding?

I have only seen that the first requirement for a wedding company to recruit a wedding master is more than 200 wedding hosting experience!

Will you find someone who has never been in boxing before and just read relevant books to teach you boxing?

I've only seen fake experts who have never been in the ring get hit by opposing fighters for a second, KO!

Will you find someone who has no experience of transcending social fears at all, but has read psychological books to help you overcome social fears?

I've only seen counselors who don't understand social phobia, killing the youth and life of social terrorists with chicken soup!

How does a counselor who has only learned a little psychological knowledge understand social fear? These are completely two areas.

Very objectively speaking, very realistically speaking, there was no professional technology to solve social phobia in the world before Anfeng's transcendence technology was born.

Two: the classification of the problem

Psychotherapists, they know nothing about social fear! It seems that they don't even understand the most basic problems of social fear. Their understanding of social fear is only superficial! In fact, not only psychological counselors, but also social phobia itself do not understand social phobia. Do you believe it or not? Let me ask you a few questions,

The first question:

If you can't do a math problem, what will you do? I will think hard or look up information until I finally figure out this math problem, and the problem will be solved, right? Yes! Because math problems are just math problems and math problems are just theoretical problems, this problem only stays at the theoretical level. When the theory is clear, the thinking is clear, and the math problem is clear, the problem will be solved naturally.

The second question:

What would you do if you bought a spinning bike online and needed to assemble it when it arrived? Can you assemble a spinning bike just by thinking and thinking? Certainly not, because after all, you have no psychic powers, and you can't control matter with your mind, right? So what should we do? Yes, you must assemble and perform by hand, right? ! Definitely not, definitely not. Not only do you have to read the instructions, but you also have to figure out the structure of the car and install it automatically, right? For this problem, you can understand it after thinking, explain it clearly, and only the theory is clear. But has your problem been solved? Not really! Because after all, the car is still falling apart. Want to assemble spinning bike, the theory only solves part of the problem, a small part! Because after all, even this spinning bike is not assembled in your mind! Because this is a specific problem.

There is a third question:

If you are as thin, thin and thin as I used to be, you are not satisfied with your figure. Because of my poor figure, I feel inferior because of my poor figure. If you want to have confidence in your body, what will you do? Do you read bodybuilding books? For example, magazines such as Health and Beauty and Mr. Bodybuilder? Think about these two books. I should read it secretly from around 14, then buy it blatantly, and then I will buy every magazine that I must read! For the sake of health and beauty, I forgot to eat and sleep, dreaming of Mr. Bodybuilding. I dream of having Schwarzenegger's physique!

I will study the articles in the magazine with my heart,

I will browse the pictures in magazines with my heart,

But I'm still not satisfied with my figure. As before,

I am still deeply moved by my thin body.

Actually, the reason is too simple.

Because ... my figure won't change because I read fitness magazines!

(The above rhymes are purely improvisation. )

So how can we gain body confidence? The child will know! If you want to gain self-confidence, you can't just read magazines, articles, pictures and theories! You have to walk into the gym and touch the fitness equipment in person to change your figure. Only when your figure has changed will you have confidence in your figure! Is the reason simple? Too simple, isn't it?

In fact, the truth of social fear is really the same!

It's just that as soon as we encounter the simple "complex problem" of social fear, everyone is fooled by those psychological chicken soup and can't find the north!

Nothing, please follow my train of thought and continue walking!

Let's look at the fourth question:

What would you do if you wanted to overcome your fear of speaking? On the basis of the first three questions I raised, everyone must understand this time: it is very foolish to hope to gain eloquence by reading books such as speeches!

An Feng has a super speech over 1000! It's no exaggeration, I can talk to any master PK! But I almost never read books like speeches. Eloquence training, teaching you to speak, I don't care about books like this and that. The only book about speech I bought was written by the founder of TED Speech, and I was attracted by a title called TED Speech when I was wandering around Taobao. There is no denying that the name of this book is good, and the name attracted my 0. 1% attention. So I bought this book by hand while browsing.

I read this book carefully after I bought it home, and found that the author's point of view is very similar to the scenery I experienced along the way, such as his point of view: speech = chat and so on. I used to think that speech equals chat. Chatting with an open mind is a state of speaking. But as far as I'm concerned, I don't agree with some of his views. For example, he said in his book: the highest state of speech is impromptu speech. But in my opinion, impromptu speech is by no means the highest state of speech! Although I mistakenly thought that impromptu speech was the highest realm of speech a long time ago, when I experienced more than 1000 super speeches, I had a new understanding after I experienced the battlefield. The highest realm of speech is a higher level than impromptu speech: soul speech! Yes! Soul speech is a concept I put forward!

With all due respect, I don't think the founder of the TED talk has a high understanding of this talk! I also think traditional speech is not a good training!

So you see, even the founder of TED talk, whom many people admire, has a wrong understanding of the way of speaking, not to mention Xiao Bai, who has never been on stage and has zero stage experience and is afraid of speaking. How many books have you read about speeches before you can understand them? Pupils will not believe it! However, many social terrorists will believe this question! !

The above examples can fully illustrate that a theory "An Feng transcends science and technology" divides the world's problems into three types.

They are: 1 theoretical problem 2, practical problem 3 and depth problem.

Simple can be understood as:

Problems that can be solved by theory are called theoretical problems.

Specific things that happen in real life need to be solved by actions, which is called specific problems.

For example, social fear, speech fear, self-confidence, inferiority, self-acceptance and so on all belong to-deep problems!

Chairman Mao said that if you want to know something, you must have direct and positive contact with it!

In other words, if you want to solve a problem, if you want to fix a thing or a person, you must at least get to know him first! The reason why some confused people are drunk and dreaming about the steel straight man posing as a sister at the other end of the network. The reason why I was cheated, played with by feelings or not turned back by others is to marry them and go home alive. Isn't that because I haven't seen their true colors, contacted them directly and didn't know them? Just like spring in Tik Tok.

What is the difference between this and the fantastic fantasy that social terrorists hope to solve social fears with theory (invalid theory)?

How do you know if you haven't really touched it?

How can you understand it without direct contact?

How can you understand it without direct contact?

How can you understand without direct contact?

Three: Why do some social fears think that theory can solve social fears?

On the one hand, my job is to help others "go beyond the safety of science and technology", on the other hand, it is also to let more people know "go beyond the safety of science and technology". As "An Feng transcends technology" is more and more understood and recognized by people, many people have understood a simple and profound truth: solving social fears with theory (invalid theory) is the biggest misunderstanding! Then, why do many social fears have to be so backward and stubbornly believe that theory (invalid theory) can solve social fears? The fundamental reason is, of course, human nature's pursuit of pleasure and avoidance of suffering, as well as the timidity and inferiority of social terrorists to escape! But there is another angle that can reflect and explain this point more clearly.

Everyone knows the law of attraction, which means that people with similar gas fields will attract each other. To put it bluntly, people are grouped.

Social phobia The reason why people think that theory (invalid theory) can solve social phobia is actually their deep-rooted mistake-solidifying thinking, namely:

The key to psychological problems is cognitive deviation-cognition is theory-theory changes when learning cognition-and psychological problems are solved when cognition changes.

Is that what you think? !

Remember! The cognition in the book is the cognition of others! Not your perception! The direct experience of others is only your indirect experience, which is clearly stated in Mao Zedong's theory of practice! If you know him, you must contact him! Optical contact is not enough, but also correct contact! Can you read and listen to books at home?

The point: the books and theories you listen to are simply wrong!

Go ahead.

So where did their inherent ideas come from? Psychotherapy, of course. Where does psychotherapy come from? Of course it was developed by people. Who developed it? Think about it. ......

So far, in fact, the last article has been introduced.

Fourth, solve the level and realm of social fear.

In An Feng's view, the change of social fear can be divided into three levels, three levels and three realms.

Bottom: no technology.

Psychotherapy theory belongs to this level, and even the theory is wrong. So those poor people who believe in psychotherapy don't even know what social phobia is in theory!

Higher level: ineffective technology

The practice of psychotherapy, let nature take its course and make progress every day, life is king. This is the level. Stupid!

Higher level: effective technology

This is obviously one level higher than the previous two levels. Help-seekers can learn effective theories and take effective actions. We call this level "understanding". This is what our online class helps everyone achieve-get rid of social fear!

The highest level: the right technology

This realm is the highest realm, the highest realm, the highest realm! Only those who are troubled can make correct actions and social contacts. This level is called "comprehension".

This is the professional level that only Anfeng can reach beyond science and technology! Only at this level can you truly feel what is social fear, what is beyond social fear, what is self-confidence and what is freedom! Only in this way can we reach the highest level-beyond social fear!

Let's see, in fact, the first two levels are called chicken soup. Chicken soup actually refers to invalid theories and actions, as well as useless unprofessional technology. The essence of chicken soup is actually a placebo! It was reasonable to be comforted at that time, but it still didn't work after that, because you haven't changed at all! Remember one sentence: No matter how beautiful the invalid theory is, it is nothing!

Therefore, chicken soup is a mistake, and chickens ruin people!

Remember,

The connotation of chicken soup is an invalid non-professional theory!

Chicken soup is essentially a placebo!

The consequences of chicken soup are misleading and destructive!

Many people lost their youth because of chicken soup, wasted a lot of energy and consumed too many lives! But the vast majority of help seekers don't know how to identify chicken soup, and they have no discernment. But An Feng likes to tell the truth, to tell the truth, here An Feng wants to expose the true face of chicken soup! So I'm here to tell you how to cook chicken soup at home. How to identify chicken soup? An Feng told everyone: Remember! For social fear, the carrier of chicken soup is actually psychotherapy and chicken soup line.

In fact, for the problem of social phobia, psychological chicken soup is nothing at all ...

Objectively speaking, social phobia should not be solved by psychotherapy!

Seeing this, some friends may ask, is chicken soup really not helpful for social fear? It should be understood that psychotherapy theory is only a psychological theory, not a social fear theory, and no theory is right. Do you think it will help? A patient is going to see a doctor in rheumatology immunology department. Will he go fishing in the pond?

If we have to give a specific effect ratio, I think the effect of psychotherapy on social fear is less than 5%! And it takes a long process, which is a fact!

Say it again: psychotherapy theory is just psychotherapy theory, not social fear theory!

Due to the influence of psychological culture for a long time, some confused people all over the world still mistakenly believe that psychotherapy is the solution to social fear, while learning theory, consulting and listening to online classes are the solutions to social fear. But it doesn't matter, it's gratifying that An Feng beyond technology really helped too many people who were troubled by social fear to transcend social fear! Upgrade your life! This road, this real road to help others, I will go forward step by step! Because An Feng knows what social fears need!

Remember, the ineffectiveness theory can't help people get rid of social fears! Surpassing social fears depends on professional skills!

Beyond social fear, upgrade Superman for up to 5 days!

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