From a girl's point of view, I know a lot about girls' psychology. Most girls don't take the initiative to pursue the boys they like, unless they really like them too much or are the kind of girls who are very brave and brave. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is a little interested in you, take the initiative. Don't fight with her, you will feel miserable, and maybe the person you like will feel miserable. When any girl is chased, her psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is a little scared. She has ambivalence towards the boy who intruded into her quiet life. She didn't mean to. Don't think that she is testing you, but she is actually competing with herself. She is afraid of being hurt. Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her disgust. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative, and it will fade slowly. If you start to be confessed by her. Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved. If you encounter setbacks, you will leave immediately, never talk to this girl again, protect yourself tightly and lick the wound silently. While you are in pain, as everyone knows, that girl may regret it in her heart! Maybe she will secretly cry and regret rejecting you, and then she will be sad to see your indifferent eyes, but she won't tell you and never let you come back to chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart. She will think that you don't really like him, or how can you just give her up? Some people say that it is really difficult for boys to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role orientation of men and women. From a physiological and social point of view, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, men are ashamed and women are brave, the world will be in a mess! Women's shyness is always beautiful ~ ~ ~ I always hear that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. However, there are few examples to the contrary. Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are dead-bound, which will lead to a bad reputation. But I think boys pursue the girl they like and continue to be nice to this girl after some setbacks, which shows that people really like it and are sincere. If they don't succeed, they won't regret it. Who makes people like it? I hate that others blindly follow me. I hate that boys who have no opinions and care too much about what others think of them deserve not to find a girlfriend. If they are men, they should be brave. Girls are sensitive and easily immersed in love. Although you work hard, once your heart touches her, you will get more and more love. Such examples can be seen everywhere. Girls are very gentle with their boyfriends. Moreover, most good girls are devoted to their love. Therefore, it is suggested that some boys be brave and pursue the girls they like, and don't be so timid. On the one hand, people feel that you are unmanly, on the other hand, people feel uncomfortable. However, the most important thing is: in the end, you get nothing. Happiness is always earned by yourself. Don't expect others to give it to you! By the way, I think it's good to take the initiative, because your goal is what you really like. Girls are often passive and can only choose to accept and refuse, so I would rather take the initiative and love what I love without regrets. What kind of first impression should I leave on MM (time: I just started to contact MM) 1. I think the most important thing is to let MM see your ambition. The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make M M feel that you are a self-motivated person. Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream. 2. Be confident and responsible. Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility. It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all. 3. Don't be too serious, but don't be too casual. Be serious where you should be serious, and ridicule when you should be ridiculed. Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull. 4. A man who looks mature, calm and unhurried has a fatal attraction to MM. Second, how to further contact MM (time: the stage of starting chasing) 1. The most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things so clear that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others. Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want. Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately. 2. To start with a low profile, we must first position the relationship as "friends", which is originally "ordinary friends". You want to be a "good friend". A tasteful person can also ask the other person to become a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you". Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? ! This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air. 3, don't be too impatient in the communication process, relax, don't pester others all day, whoever does this to you will be tired. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years). Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence. Also, don't take out the ambition of "you must marry". It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick. 4, create opportunities appropriately As I said before, don't make things "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get a chance to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity. You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you. In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors. 5. Never: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually. Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo. As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will try to repay you. If there is no way to pay you back, they will try to stay away from you so as not to owe you a favor all the time. If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home. Third, what is a "girlfriend"? 1, "girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise. You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". On a sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand; "On the Moon, Willow Shoot", you suddenly hit her and kissed her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend. I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" " So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you. 2. What is "confession"? As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that he is very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid". 3. Have you ever had to confess? Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while. At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck. 4. Don't export the word "love" easily. I often see "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility. A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible. Fourth, civilized love, can't force 1, not every MM can catch up with a good girl, there will always be many people chasing it, it is impossible to satisfy everyone's wishes, and there will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the principle of chasing MM, you can't catch up with either twin. Look at the problem from another angle. Even if a rural nanny who has never graduated from primary school is kind to you, earning 600 yuan a month and buying you 700 yuan as a gift (overdraft), and willing to be a cow and a horse for you, you will not fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you must feel bored. So love needs a material foundation, at least a balance. 2. Chasing MM is a serious social activity. Don't bother others, but leave yourself a way out. Why don't men have wives? Some MMS are snobs (few). If you are not convinced, you can prove with facts that "she was blind at that time". Never mistake others for yourself. Finally, don't be cynical in front of MM, cynicism sometimes means "you are a loser". (time: just started to contact MM) 1. I think the most important thing is to let MM see your ambition. The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make M M feel that you are a self-motivated person. Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream. 2. Be confident and responsible. Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility. It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all. 3. Don't be too serious, but don't be too casual. Be serious where you should be serious, and ridicule when you should be ridiculed. Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull. 4. A man who looks mature, calm and unhurried has a fatal attraction to MM. Second, how to further contact MM (time: the stage of starting chasing) 1. The most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things so clear that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others. Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want. Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately. 2, low-key start, first of all, we should position the relationship as "friends", which was originally "ordinary friends about gifts: as long as it is sincere, it is the best! Give her a day of meticulous care! The truth is best seen in plain! Let her feel the warmth you brought her in the cold winter! I believe she will be moved by you! Come on!