This society, for some reason, is always unfriendly to one kind of people.
When it comes to older young women, most people around them will wear colored glasses: Good girl, what's the delay?
What's the use of a high degree? The bigger it is, the more it depreciates.
It's a ghost to get married at such a big age and such a low salary.
Older young woman, who did you recruit to annoy? Why should I be despised by all kinds of people? Should they live at the bottom of the chain of contempt?
Recently, I am also searching for the content of this topic:
As soon as the topic came out, netizens boiled. As soon as I saw it, most messages were full of malice:
It is really miserable for these innocent unmarried young women to lie at gunpoint. Is marriage the only right choice in life? Have older women really become a disgrace to this society?
Is the value of women only reflected in the matter of "marriage"?
The whole world seems to be biased against this group of women: there must be something wrong with not finding a partner at this age.
When the world is full of malice, it is hard for these women not to be anxious.
This era is an era of selling anxiety. Women's age anxiety and unmarried anxiety can quickly become hot topics.
Older women are trapped by both kinds of anxiety. It's really difficult to talk about a relationship calmly!
Some time ago, there was a news on the internet, which was particularly scary.
In the video, a girl with one leg in Qing Wu cries and accuses her mother:
I'm not married. Why should I be killed? Why?
Miss Lin is thirty years old. She used to work in other cities. But my mother insisted that she come back. Because my mother thinks that her daughter has not made any money and is not hanging out, she might as well go home.
So, teacher Lin returned to his hometown according to his mother's request.
Their family runs a restaurant and is very busy every day. Miss Lin, who resigned from home, is actually not idle, but will still help her mother take care of the things in the store.
But mother and daughter get along, but they often quarrel. Mom didn't like it, so she started playing.
This time, I went too far and hit Mr. Lin with an iron bar.
While chasing her, my mother cursed: I am 30 years old, I have no job, and my husband can't find it. I won't kill you!
Finally, Miss Lin failed to escape her mother's pursuit and was beaten black and blue: her hands and feet touched the ground and she looked badly hurt.
In desperation, she called the police, and the police understood the situation and detained her mother.
One of my unmarried colleagues saw the news and exclaimed, "Mom, should you be killed if you don't get married?" Is a 35-year-old girl like me going to be torn to pieces by my mother?
It's a bit exaggerated to remove eight pieces, but the pressure from parents often causes mental anxiety of older young women, which has a certain impact on their lives and work.
Being unmarried at an older age should not be the original sin of such women, but they didn't meet the right person at the right time, and some of them may not be particularly eager to get married.
I wonder who invented the note "leftover women"? But they are firmly attached to older young women, always talking about the material of leftover women and how vulgar they are. Leftover women are like leftovers in the vegetable market, and no one cares.
A friend of mine lives in a first-tier city and is a female executive of a company. I live alone in a high-end apartment, and I am very busy at work. I often attend parties, travel and study. Anyway, life is beautiful.
Sometimes, she will send me videos, and the room is decorated warmly, which makes her life look moist.
But as she grew older, her personal problems became the heart disease of her parents. In order to meet the right person early, she also tried blind date.
But every blind date, mostly ended in Lacrimosa.
Once, I went on a blind date with a man two years younger than her. After a few words, the other party actually said: My mother will not allow me to marry a woman like you. Whether you can have children at this age is still a question.
She took the bag and left immediately.
Every year, the Chinese New Year also makes her feel stressed, and a large wave of relatives get together. Everyone praised her face to face: capable, mixing so well outside.
But as soon as I turned my head, my relatives all talked behind my back: I'm too old to get married, so what's the use of a good job?
She didn't get angry, just smiled awkwardly.
To tell the truth, these older women have the ability to live so well. Do they have to get married to be happy women in others' eyes?
Perhaps traditionally, women get married when they reach a certain age.
Come on, this "must" is really hateful. Everyone has a different definition of happiness. Some people can be happy without marriage, and some people will be in a mess even if they are married.
After all, getting married is not an inevitable choice. In this era, the value of women should not be tied to "getting married and having children".
Age should not be a woman's curse, and happiness should not be defined by simple marriage.
Xue Zhaofeng said in "Qi Yuanshuo":
"Nowadays, women are becoming more and more independent in education, income, taste and hobbies. In big cities, people with higher education, people with farther future prospects and people with stronger independence tend to postpone marriage, which is a rational choice. "
The value of women is not unitary, but diversified.
We are not qualified to ask them at what age they must get married, nor should we ridicule this group because of their age.
As an older young woman, we must strengthen our inner thoughts and take the initiative to ignore these malicious labels, so as to reduce our inner anxiety.
Tencent once launched a column "Women 30+" and interviewed many female stars. Among them, Chen Qiaoen said the following:
Don't get married just to get married. Unless you like this person enough, love him enough and stay with him for a lifetime, others will not say anything.
Whether you are married or single, after all, this is really just a personal choice of every woman.
Low-quality marriage is not as good as high-quality singles. The value of a woman has never been defined by a relationship.
True happiness is to live a wonderful life and be loyal to your heart.