My husband is a good man, loyal and honest, but he has only one characteristic, that is, he is particularly afraid that his parents will be fine. Because it was the first time for us, I didn't think about anything. After living together for five months, I got pregnant. After learning that I was pregnant, I regretted it for a while. At that time, my reaction was particularly great. Can't eat, retch, can't go to work. But I'm only 23 years old and just graduated. I'm not even ready to be a mother. I really regret it. . . I don't know what to do, and my husband is a little at a loss, because we checked the safety period online, who knows. . . I'm pregnant.
He called his parents, and his mother called me immediately, saying that since she had a child, she would be born and let her get married. My husband was very excited about getting married and said that he would finally marry me back. I didn't have any special feelings about getting married at that time, because I was too reactive, physically painful and in a daze all day. So this marriage was decided by my husband's family.
Later, when my parents came back from a business trip, my husband told my parents that my parents were quite satisfied with my husband because he was diligent and honest. Father thought this man was reliable and agreed happily. All this was normal at that time, until the bride price, my parents and his parents fell out completely. . When we were in love, his father came to see me and my parents. The two families agreed that his father would give me a bride price of100000, and my parents would give me a dowry of 50000. This150,000 yuan will be used as the home of our two children, and my parents will buy a car for my husband when they get married.
That's what I said at the time. Later, I was pregnant. When the two families were sitting together to discuss the reasons for getting married, his father changed his mind, saying that the family was busy decorating the new house and had no money, so he bought me a ring and new clothes with 10 thousand, and that was the end. When my parents came back, they were speechless with anger. Who is this? I don't understand it at all. I asked my husband, what does your father mean? Husband said that there is really no money at home. Husband said that his grandmother is 80 years old this year and spent a sum of money, and the renovation of the new house cost another sum of money. There is really no money, she can only take out 10 thousand. My parents and I spent half a month thinking about this problem. Well, if there is no money, there is no money. The result is a happy picture. I can't say that we won't get married because his family has no money. Besides, I'm pregnant with bb. My parents are in business, and my father has been driving a van for a long time, so my mother believes in Buddhism. In my father's car, there is a portrait of our Guanyin Bodhisattva. My grandmother is a Buddhist, so am I.
This also caused his family to do a lot of excessive things. My mother wouldn't let me abort the baby, and my grandmother also said it was evil. Maybe his parents saw this clearly. Some people have something on you, and there's really nothing they can do.
Later, his family took the bride price of 10 thousand and it was over. Because of this, my parents look down on their family, but what can I do if I have no money and can't get it? When it was time to discuss the wedding date, my mother went to the fortune teller to sign the horoscope for us, set the wedding date and told them about it. As a result, his father said that you should hold a banquet there first, but we can't do it this year because their hometown can't do two things a year. My husband and grandmother have already done something on their eightieth birthday this year. This wedding can't be held this year. Let's do it next year.
I said, but I'm six or seven months pregnant next year. How should I wear a wedding dress? His father won't let go and won't do it. My parents and I are angry again. At that time, I really didn't want to get married and cried every day. Who is this? Unbelievable! Finally, our family finally compromised. My mother said the child's life was in danger. If he didn't do it, he wouldn't do it. Let's do it ourselves first. Because our two families are not in the same city, we do it separately. I left their house alone and did it myself. My mother was afraid that I would not look good in a wedding dress when I was pregnant, so she invited a wedding company to decorate the wedding dress and gown beautifully.
His parents came when we got married. It can be seen that they are very satisfied with our scene. His father has been taking photos with his mobile phone and sending WeChat with our poster. He was drunk, too. . . They don't have settings. I saw it in my eyes and said nothing. I was just over two months pregnant when I got married. I wore high heels all day and watched my husband kneel down at the wedding. I cried. At that moment, I really felt that happiness was not easy.
On the night of the wedding, I arranged for his parents to stay in a hotel. After they were delivered to the hotel, I stayed inside and talked to them. In fact, I am really tired, my feet are super sour, my stomach is uncomfortable, and my face is still wearing makeup. I'm really tired, but I still talk to them. His mother took my hand and said, eat more fruits, don't eat mutton and beef, don't eat spicy food, it's not good for children, that's all I've been saying. I also said, mom, I know, um, okay. Actually, it's just coping. I'm so tired that I want to take a bath and sleep. Then his father suddenly said something that made me sleepy. His father said, "Sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine, sunshine. What do you think? What do I think?
Haha, I think you can go to die! At that time, my face was livid and I didn't speak, which meant that I didn't want to have a wedding for me and wanted to marry a daughter-in-law. His father is really going to. . . Ten thousand dollars can marry a daughter-in-law, nothing. That's really capable. When I came back, I told my husband to go out. It is also because of pregnancy hormones that I can't control my temper. It's the first time to get so angry. Tell him to get out. He was scared and asked his wife what was going on. I said, didn't you hear what your father just said? Why didn't you tell him? Why not call him shameless? My husband knows why I am angry! He kept saying, wife, you trust me. I'll tell my dad when I get back. I will do well, and I won't let you be wronged.
I still let him go. I was really angry. I feel sick and trembling at the thought of what his father has done. Why do we always understand them and keep making concessions, but they are pushing their noses and faces more and more? ! I sat on the sofa and cried. I said, honey, I don't want to marry you for anything. When I fell in love with you, I said that as long as we have a good relationship, nothing else is a problem. But now your family has no respect for me! I can't stand this treatment. If your dad is always like this, he is always thinking about how to take advantage. I think we'll think about it later.
Hearing this, the husband knelt down from the sofa, just like when he got married. He took my hand and told me not to be angry, saying that his father was like this, and he would tell his father well. If his father doesn't agree, he doesn't want his father, just me. He almost cried when he said this. I feel very unhappy when I see him like that, and I feel really helpless! His father is his father, he is him, and he has always been very kind to me. How can I blame him? Then there was the problem of this house. This house is agreed that we will repay the loan together after marriage, and the house will be named after me.
Later, his father actually called him and told him that it was ok to add a name to the house, but he asked my family to give them 200 thousand to add it. Because the decoration furniture was made by their family, we had to split the money equally. My dad was angry at that time, and I was already hehe. I said, no, your house is yours, and I don't want your house! Later, my father decided not to buy that car for my husband, and my parents completely disdained my in-laws and fell out completely.
Now my husband and I live in a new house. I am one month old. His mother takes care of his grandmother in town. His father is a bus driver. Originally he agreed not to live together. Yesterday, he called and said that he would come to live with me and take care of me. I don't even want to see them! ! I can take care of myself! Besides, my mother will take care of me when she is free. If his parents come, I'll watch and be angry.
My husband said that he just came to take care of me, fearing that it would be inconvenient and uneasy for me to be alone at home. Oh, my God. . I don't know how to refuse. I know my husband is really worried about me, but I really don't want to see his parents! But the house I live in now has no my name. To put it bluntly, it belongs to my husband. I don't think I have a say. And now my husband is paying the mortgage, so I have no job and concentrate on having children. . . I don't know where I got enough confidence to refuse his parents to come over. I am sad