As the saying goes, it doesn't matter if you get married for three days! This is reflected in the game of "beating in-laws" in urban and rural weddings. According to the research of folklore scholars, "beating in-laws" is prevalent in most areas of the three provinces of Shaanxi, Gansu and Ningxia, and its origin cannot be verified, which has been circulating among the people for a long time. In the past, "playing in-laws" was limited to traditional games such as wiping face, riding donkeys and wearing straw hats. However, with the changes of the times, the content of "playing in-laws" has become more and more out of line, even affecting all family members and relatives, which makes people feel disgusted.

The first is "pulling pants", that is, pulling the trouser legs of in-laws and sisters-in-law or immediate family members to the waist. In-laws or relatives should not resist, turn their faces and swear when they pull their pants, otherwise they will be considered "unable to afford to play" and break up in discord. The next step is to "dress up" the groom's parents, color their in-laws with shoe polish or oil paint, wear a tall paper hat on their heads, hang a string of red peppers on their ears, and paint them with red lips. The big guys will drive them away and sing and dance for the guests around the banquet. Or put on a fur coat, put a big broom in the back, or dress up the groom's parents as "bad daughters-in-law" in costumes and shuttle between banquets for everyone's fun.

In recent years, the custom of "beating in-laws" and "making trouble in the bridal chamber" has begun to change in both urban and rural areas. In the past, "making trouble in the bridal chamber", everyone got together just for fun, but now some behaviors are too outrageous, so vulgar and obscene that people are very angry. For example, a few young people in their fifties and sixties messed up their in-laws, and also put on oxen to pull carts for the two old people. This is not a prank, it's an insult.

Xiao Zhao just got married last month. Recalling the scene of "beating in-laws" that day, he still has a lingering fear. "On the wedding day, I took the bride home and saw my parents standing at the door in costumes to meet the wedding team. The expression on my face is very helpless. Some relatives and friends painted their parents' faces, put on tall hats made of paper, waited for the wedding car to come and walked around it twice. My parents are old. Although this is an old habit, I played a little more that day. Father sprained his waist and stayed at home for more than half a month. Now he can hardly walk. I wish I could get rid of this bad habit. "

"Everything should be measured, too much of a good thing. In the past,' playing in-laws' was just fun, but now it is a trick to toss people. "

Custom or vulgarity?

A solemn and sacred wedding is inviolable.

"Making trouble in the bridal chamber" is becoming more and more vulgar, and "playing with in-laws" is becoming more and more outrageous. This is a solemn and sacred wedding, but because of all kinds of bad habits of making trouble in marriage, it has caused great trouble to the bride and groom and their families, and even some newlyweds have conflicts and started to divorce within a few days of marriage.

Throughout the media reports, fashionable young people are increasingly pursuing novelty and avant-garde at wedding ceremonies. However, some so-called "alternative" weddings are controversial, especially the outrageous wedding customs not only make the couple embarrassed, but also make the original festive wedding often turn into farce because of excessive frolicking, and some even lead to tragedy, causing permanent pain and regret to the couple and their relatives and friends.